Pics

[sa****]

I do not judge what pics ppl put in there bio really I don’t but I do think pics can be misleading like if the person wants a ltr but almost all of there pics r sexual in nature it make me wonder if they really want a ltr but that just me what do you think

[Deleted Member]

I think they can absolutely have sexy pics and still want a LTR! Who says the two can't be combined?!

[sa****]

12 minutes ago, Sw33tGirl247 said:

I think they can absolutely have sexy pics and still want a LTR! Who says the two can't be combined?!

I’m not saying that they can’t but I believe there should be a balance

[Lu****]

16 minutes ago, Sw33tGirl247 said:

I think they can absolutely have sexy pics and still want a LTR! Who says the two can't be combined?!

I'm wirh you on this.

[sa****]

17 minutes ago, Sw33tGirl247 said:

I think they can absolutely have sexy pics and still want a LTR! Who says the two can't be combined?!

I haven’t look at your profile but I’m gonna use your for a example. If I where to look at your profile and all I saw was you half dress I wouldn’t get a wanting a relationship vibe versus seeing a mix of half naked and dressed pic. That was what I was meaning

[Lu****]

8 minutes ago, sarnia828 said:

I haven’t look at your profile but I’m gonna use your for a example. If I where to look at your profile and all I saw was you half dress I wouldn’t get a wanting a relationship vibe versus seeing a mix of half naked and dressed pic. That was what I was meaning

Sounds pretty judgy to me

[Li****]

A person can take pride in their sexuality and body and still want a LTR. Those things don’t exclude each other. If that person is confident they shouldn’t be shamed for that.

[Deleted Member]

33 minutes ago, sarnia828 said:

I haven’t look at your profile but I’m gonna use your for a example. If I where to look at your profile and all I saw was you half dress I wouldn’t get a wanting a relationship vibe versus seeing a mix of half naked and dressed pic. That was what I was meaning

Women feeling beautiful and confident in their skin is a WONDERFUL attribute for a long term relationship (or any relationship for that matter). BDSM is all about exploring and learning new areas of life. This may just be one of those areas for you. Hope this helps

[Deleted Member]

If a woman being comfortable in her sexuality and wanting to be kinky puts you off the idea of a ltr with her (btw, you're on a kink/fetish community app, in case you forgot), then you need to explore why you think sex and long-term love are separate entities in your mind

[sa****]

I’m sorry what I was waiting to say didn’t come across I don’t see sex and realationship as 2 different things really I don’t I feel like a** I’m sorry

[Deleted Member]

Why are you apologizing? That's your opinion, and just because everyone else has an opinion too doesn't mean you have to feel bad about yours. But honestly I totally agree with what you said in your post. If you want a long term relationship that's not all about sex then you shouldn't present yourself as a person that's looking for sex because you're only gonna attract men who's looking for sex, there's no way you're going to find love by presenting yourself like someone that's looking to be f*cked. But hey, that's my opinion🤷🏾‍♂️

[sa****]

6 minutes ago, ynu_shi said:

Why are you apologizing? That's your opinion, and just because everyone else has an opinion too doesn't mean you have to feel bad about yours. But honestly I totally agree with what you said in your post. If you want a long term relationship that's not all about sex then you shouldn't present yourself as a person that's looking for sex because you're only gonna attract men who's looking for sex, there's no way you're going to find love by presenting yourself like someone that's looking to be f*cked. But hey, that's my opinion🤷🏾‍♂️

Thank you for wording that batter then I did

[Li****]

22 minutes ago, ynu_shi said:

Why are you apologizing? That's your opinion, and just because everyone else has an opinion too doesn't mean you have to feel bad about yours. But honestly I totally agree with what you said in your post. If you want a long term relationship that's not all about sex then you shouldn't present yourself as a person that's looking for sex because you're only gonna attract men who's looking for sex, there's no way you're going to find love by presenting yourself like someone that's looking to be f*cked. But hey, that's my opinion🤷🏾‍♂️

That post is problematic. If I dress cute and sexy when going out it doesn’t mean that I’m going out looking to go home with someone I’m dressing cute to make myself feel cute and because I want to. Not everything women do is for the male gaze. Women celebrating their bodies does not mean they shouldn’t be taken seriously.

[sa****]

30 minutes ago, LittleOneEm said:

That post is problematic. If I dress cute and sexy when going out it doesn’t mean that I’m going out looking to go home with someone I’m dressing cute to make myself feel cute and because I want to. Not everything women do is for the male gaze. Women celebrating their bodies does not mean they shouldn’t be taken seriously.

This post isn’t about is dress cute or sexy being bad. And every girl Iv talk to Iv been very respectful to and token seriously and paid the price. What I’m trying to say if you profile is nothing more the you in bra and panties/ bikini it harder for someone to try and believe that you are looking for mr/misses right and not a play thing. I just took a look at your profile each of your three pics are very very cute and the right amount of sexy to entice someone.and I wouldn’t have a doubt that you was looking for a ltr. As I Said this post wasn’t ment to shame ppl what bikini in there profile

[Deleted Member]

41 minutes ago, LittleOneEm said:

That post is problematic. If I dress cute and sexy when going out it doesn’t mean that I’m going out looking to go home with someone I’m dressing cute to make myself feel cute and because I want to. Not everything women do is for the male gaze. Women celebrating their bodies does not mean they shouldn’t be taken seriously.

I’m just saying, every woman doesn’t have the same mindset as you. You personally know that you’re a woman with morals and don’t dress a certain way to attract/impress other men but majority of other women think the exact opposite of you. Because most women intentionally wear clothing that expose half of their body to gain attention and attract other men but simultaneously hope to find love within the process of that. But I can admit, most people honestly do have relationships that’s based on sex.. then it may lead to things getting serious later in life and that’s when love becomes involved. So, we both have a point. I honestly agree that your pov isn’t wrong and mines isn’t wrong either.

[Deleted Member]

I understand what you're trying to say, but I think you're coming at it from a position of judgement about what sexual pics mean that is, as someone said above, problematic. Long term relationships involve sex. Usually. For at least the first three years and then on Christmases and birthdays 🤣 and why wouldn't someone want to show that hey, I'm a sexual person who enjoys exploring my desires? There's also the fact that a lot of men are visually stimulated and will stop on a profile with a hot pic for a closer look. If there is no substance other than the pics, then I might wonder what the person is really here for. Know what can resolve that? Asking them 🙄

I think you need to look again at the prejudices that made you come to your initial conclusion and prompted you to write this post.

[sa****]

I will admit this conversation have been good because both side have gave valid points

[ge****]

As others have said the two things aren't mutually exclusive of each other and ultimately it's the person not what clothes they are, or aren't, wearing that is important.
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Add to that that this is an app with kink/sex at it's core and designed for people to meet each other with similar interests in that respect if they want to then you can totally understand why people would angle their pics more to attract someone that matches those interests.
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None of my pics are clothed beyond underwear and if the right person came along I'd be open to an LTR (though it's not my core purpose for being here).
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The thing is the "connection" required for an LTR comes from the two people concerned NOT their pics on a site like this.
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Ultimately if you're on a site like this and kink is of importance to you, you're going to reflect that in the pics you present - not your Laura Ashley frocks you wear to church on Sundays.
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I really don't understand the issue really

[AKA_Copper]

41 minutes ago, ynu_shi said:

I’m just saying, every woman doesn’t have the same mindset as you. You personally know that you’re a woman with morals and don’t dress a certain way to attract/impress other men but majority of other women think the exact opposite of you. Because most women intentionally wear clothing that expose half of their body to gain attention and attract other men but simultaneously hope to find love within the process of that. But I can admit, most people honestly do have relationships that’s based on sex.. then it may lead to things getting serious later in life and that’s when love becomes involved. So, we both have a point. I honestly agree that your pov isn’t wrong and mines isn’t wrong either.

"Most women intentionally wear clothing that expose(s) half of their body to gain attention and attract other men"
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This is a terrible statement to make on a number of counts. Whilst it may be your POV, it's useful to ask women why they wear the clothes/post the pics that they do. "Most" will respond saying things like comfort or to feel good or to increase their confidence as opposed to wanting to snap up a man.
This weekend, I've been in a male dominated environment and worn shorts and either a vest or crop top. Not for the men, but because we're in the middle of a heat wave. You see, women often do things for ourselves.
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It's also pretty dangerous to suggest that women wear particular clothing specifically for male attention, you see where I'm going with this, right?

In terms of the OP, our profiles are our own little corners of the internet where we can post what we want as long as it falls within Fet's TOU's. Live and let live.

[Sn****]

I know that I am messaging someone who doesn't have pictures of themselves and them almost immediately ask for *** and commitment without even knowing anything about them is a definite way to get ignored .

[Mi****]

1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

"Most women intentionally wear clothing that expose(s) half of their body to gain attention and attract other men"
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This is a terrible statement to make on a number of counts. Whilst it may be your POV, it's useful to ask women why they wear the clothes/post the pics that they do. "Most" will respond saying things like comfort or to feel good or to increase their confidence as opposed to wanting to snap up a man.
This weekend, I've been in a male dominated environment and worn shorts and either a vest or crop top. Not for the men, but because we're in the middle of a heat wave. You see, women often do things for ourselves.
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It's also pretty dangerous to suggest that women wear particular clothing specifically for male attention, you see where I'm going with this, right?

In terms of the OP, our profiles are our own little corners of the internet where we can post what we want as long as it falls within Fet's TOU's. Live and let live.

Agreed

[Mi****]

1 hour ago, ynu_shi said:

I’m just saying, every woman doesn’t have the same mindset as you. You personally know that you’re a woman with morals and don’t dress a certain way to attract/impress other men but majority of other women think the exact opposite of you. Because most women intentionally wear clothing that expose half of their body to gain attention and attract other men but simultaneously hope to find love within the process of that. But I can admit, most people honestly do have relationships that’s based on sex.. then it may lead to things getting serious later in life and that’s when love becomes involved. So, we both have a point. I honestly agree that your pov isn’t wrong and mines isn’t wrong either.

Good to know that you know the mindset of most women.

[Deleted Member]

I’m happy for NSA but would definitely like a LTR with the right one. For me - the right one is open minded and absolutely sexually liberated so sexy pics just let me know they’ve got potential!

[Ar****]

4 hours ago, sarnia828 said:

What I’m trying to say if you profile is nothing more the you in bra and panties/ bikini it harder for someone to try and believe that you are looking for mr/misses right and not a play thing.

Except what you're actually saying is that that's what YOU find hard to believe.

Please don't project that onto the rest of us.

Edited July 17, 2022 by Aranhis

[Po****]

Oh man. I’ve seen this logic before. I won’t add my own 2 cents on it because it won’t be nice. However, I will say that two things can be true at the same time. A woman/man/non-binary can want a serious LTR AND dress like the hot and sexy mf that they are.