Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 How do I learn to be kinkier? I'm super vanilla and I don't want to be anymore but don't know how to try new stuff cause everything seems terrifying to me..
dl**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Porn. Watch lots of porn and try to recreate the scenes you watched. Or have porn playing while you and your partner play, go along with what they do
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Honestly you have to experiment. Start of slow and small. Have good communication with your partner of your intentions and your hard limits that you KNOW you won’t do any off limits
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Are you trying to be submissive or dominant?
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Research. I suggest you start with google and just start researching bdsm terms. That is what I did. I found articles and websites that lead me a few really good books. Read books, The new topping book and the new booking book are very informative with generalities. How to be a happy and healthy submissive is also a really good informative book. If you are more of a dominant, search Dom books and articles. I am new too, but you have to start somewhere.
su**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Watching porn is a good way to start. You can stretch which kind of porn you watch with time until you end up watching very kinky porn. Then you'll want to do kinky stuff
Bi**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 It's ok to be scared. But it starts with being open. Try things that you've desired or give in to your partners desires. One step at a time. The main thing is to go into it with someone you completely trust. That will help with the anxiety. You don't know what your into until you try it at least once...
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 He wants me to be more dom but I don't know how to be.
ch**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 First you need a partner who is into are willing to try kink then just play out each other fantasies start slowly nothing to extreme but everything has to be agreed upon by both parties and both parties have to be into it and each time kicking up a notch.
Si**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Agree slow and small is the way to go. Get some rope and learn a few ties. Do something risqué on the sly, or openly, in public. Use good judgement. Try new toys in new places on you and your partner. Play around the edges and see what draws you in.
Mr**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Fetish porn. You can learn an incredible qmount if stuff regarding the kinky things from watching videos. Lurking chat rooms and stuff is fine but trust me when I say that when you really want to take in as much new info about this stuff as possible, just watch the porn, take note of what you like and do not like and you are well on your way towards a brand new way to have fun. I mean, that's the way I learned and I can say it's a reliable method. Seeing is believing. Of course if you have any questions or want to hear advice and suggestions about how you could go about approaching this lifestyle, I am happy to offer you any help I can.
Pi**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Some advice though, don't *** yourself to do things if you don't really want to do it
Ro**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Just take it slow!! I felt like I knew I was gonna be kinky when I was still a virgin so that really changed me outlook; if you’re curious then just find an understanding person who’ll be gentle and patient with you ☺️ ((it’s probably a kink for them too haha))
Ba**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 It's not really a learned behavior lol, it's natural. At that point you'd just be forcing yourself to do things at the expense of your partners pleasure.
se**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 I started with rope play with a partner that was in the know. Spanking is another soft place to start.
lo**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Don’t do something you don’t feel comfortable with and just be yourself !!
ba**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Find someone you connect with and can trust and the exploring becomes fun, exhilarating. You'll crave the next thing with that person.
un**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Have enough self confidence to know what you want. Start out with a something mild, and go from there
un**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 It is difficult sometimes, you don't know what is to soft, or to hard, communicating... feel each other out and talk
Da**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Find munches in your community. Go and meet fellow kinksters
youngdolly400 Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 You just need to try things out trust me you will find a kink you will not get enough off
Jimmiconway Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 If there is a trustful relationship between u too let's ur imagination run free
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Porn, erotica, forums like this one. Most importantly: communication with your partner. Find out each others kinks and fantasies, then start slow and build up from there.
po**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 It's all about what you're comfortable with if it starts to hurt give it time ✌️
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