Taking things personal

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48 minutes ago, Chloebear said:

Ps stating ‘in my opinion’ is not a license to proceed with being rude etc. It’s an excuse.

Yes, my tone was ABSOLUTELY reasonable, given the attack. However, your request of removal is not only pathetic, but useless too as I have already cancelled the automatic payment. Frankly, people like you (and the other guy) are the reason why these “social” places for d/s tend to all end up the same way. So, have fun with your barnum kindergarden. Adieu

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Seeing all this🙈... I am so happy to have a boring life!!🥂🎉

[Chloebear]

1 hour ago, RopesAndBallgag said:

Yes, my tone was ABSOLUTELY reasonable, given the attack. However, your request of removal is not only pathetic, but useless too as I have already cancelled the automatic payment. Frankly, people like you (and the other guy) are the reason why these “social” places for d/s tend to all end up the same way. So, have fun with your barnum kindergarden. Adieu

I meant remove the post. Ironic, given the topic of the thread. And you didn’t state ‘in my opinion’ so it must be hostile. (More irony… I don’t care.) Either way, please read the forum rules and remember to be civil.

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Way I see life if you nothing good to say do t say anything. Let that person be to explore xxx

[RJ****]

I agree. This is a place to discuss ideas and passions, but everyone is not the same. We all need to respect that we might have different opinions than others. Also, we all need to try not to read hostility into everything people post. I love this site and just want to enjoy learning more and meeting like-minded people. Have a great day everyone.

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It's a combination of ego and insecurity.

One of the ways we define ourselves is by developing beliefs or opinions we hold to as "true" or "reasonable," and rely on that foundation as we experience things to define them. When we come across someone who sees things differently, even to the point of seriously challenging something integral to our personalities or sense of self, it's easy to feel as if it's a personal attack. We want the world to make a certain amount of sense according to how we see things, and if someone pushes back on that, then it can feel threatening to us and we want to defend our point of view to maintain our sense of self. By the same token, we may want to argue the point to satisfy our egos, too - everyone wants that final word on a subject that shuts everyone up (though rarely happens).

Personally, I have no problem with dissenting opinions, I don't need everyone around me to believe everything I do or see things the same way (though it might've spared me a few debates I didn't enjoy). For that matter, I work in the DC area and while most try to keep their politics out of the office, they sometimes seep in and I've learned to bite the bullet and work with people I think or know are absolutely wrong about their points of view. We're there to work together, not like each other.