I do it for personal pleasure

[Lu****]

Women often say that finding a man who does such performances on them only because the mind gets pleasure out of it is rare, is that true? I find it to be false, perhaps because I am that man, to me, I get pleasure from watching my partner enjoying my touch, the way I rub her, massage her and the way I run my fingers between her legs, all while I kiss her neck and softly bite her ear. Intimacy isn't just about intercourse, intimacy begins with a touch, a touch that makes her feel wanted and appreciated.

[Nddd]

It is rare. A lot of people just want to pleasure themself quick in their own way, not what the partner wants.. be proud of that 😉

[No****]

They rarely care if we enjoy any part of it. Often they dont even like us but will
Convince us they like us because they think they can maybe get it in with that person. Its all about who they have the easiest access to that will do the most for them and them
Give the least to

[No****]

Uhm also often when they do its one minute of some pumping and if they do foreplay its awkward cause they dont care more like they feel its an obligation

[Submissive_summer]

I don’t think it’s rare... at least for me... In my experience... i have been fortunate to know men.... especially my Dominant who genuinely enjoy giving pleasure not just out of obligation....

It’s about presence... intention... and a shared energy that builds naturally..... The way he focuses on what I’m feeling... how he pays attention to every little response... every gasp.. every moan and whimper.. how my body shakes... everything. ... it creates a kind of intimacy that goes far beyond the act itself

[Deleted Member]

In my experience men who're after sex only aren't much interested in my pleasure (although they may declare they are). They just want to get their rocks off. Men who want more are interested in me as a person and what I need and desire.

[ey****]

I feel part of the problem is that men will talk up the "for her pleasure" thing but then fail to deliver - or repeat what worked on a prior partner rather than learning what makes them tick - and - of course, that the process still ends with a male orgasm (not that there's  necessarily anything wrong with that - but there's a lot where... it's presented as being selfless, but really it's the bare minimum) like we're in a world where men are like "am I special for offering foreplay" 

[li****]

I refuse to have intercourse with any man who isn't willing to do foreplay first. I haven't had such a problem for years cause I don't even get attracted to selfish men. Perks of being a dominant, I guess 🙂

[Mm****]

Intimacy is important, and more than sex. Intimacy makes it all memorable. I am also this way, it turns me on so much to see the reactions and to give such pleasures intimately.

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, liliththedivine said:

I refuse to have intercourse with any man who isn't willing to do foreplay first. I haven't had such a problem for years cause I don't even get attracted to selfish men. Perks of being a dominant, I guess 🙂

I don't know how to avoid being attracted to selfish men. They look the same as the selfless ones.

[li****]

26 minutes ago, fififufu said:

I don't know how to avoid being attracted to selfish men. They look the same as the selfless ones.

There's a long period of time between you seeing him for the first time and you both doing penetrative sex. In that period of time, you can show him the door any time you want. And selfishness signs already show quite early. If a man is being impatient and disrespecting boundaries in the beginning, that's not the kind of man who's going to be caring in bed. But if you think you aren't great with red flags, check the Burned Haystack Dating Method. Everything free online and life-changing.

[Deleted Member]

19 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

There's a long period of time between you seeing him for the first time and you both doing penetrative sex. In that period of time, you can show him the door any time you want. And selfishness signs already show quite early. If a man is being impatient and disrespecting boundaries in the beginning, that's not the kind of man who's going to be caring in bed. But if you think you aren't great with red flags, check the Burned Haystack Dating Method. Everything free online and life-changing.

That's good advice, thank you Lilith 🙏🏻

[li****]

34 minutes ago, fififufu said:

That's good advice, thank you Lilith 🙏🏻

You're welcome 🤗