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Spice Up Your Next Date with Sexy Food

What is sexy food? Are there certain types of food that might heighten the enjoyment of a date? Yes! Let writer Sienna Saint-Cyr whet your appetite.

 

Sexy foods for main dishes

Some foods just look sexy. I’ve always found sushi to be one such food. Not only is it attractive to look at but the wasabi that often goes with it gives a slight burn, thus warming those eating it. Warming is associated with tingling, and therefore, sex. Because it’s also artful food, it gets the person consuming it into a vastly different state of mind than the local taco drive-thru.

Chinese is also a sexy food. Not Americanised Chinese food, but actual Chinese. The difference is appearance, flavour, and ingredient choices. I’ll never forget my husband taking me to this fantastic Chinese place on our first date and the meal he ordered me had spicy, red peppers in it. Just enough that when one hit my lips, they tingled. Later, when we were kissing, both our lips tingled. It was so hot! Talk about sexy food!

Ethiopian restaurants are also great for dates if you’re looking for a level of intimacy. Many of the dishes are meant to be shared and are often eaten with the hands. Just make sure you have clean hands, or you'll gross your date out! There are, of course, many sexy foods that can be shared. But I suggest staying away from greasy type dishes like nachos. Sticking with Ethiopian not only shows your date that you are adventurous, but it’s delicious food as well.

 

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Sexy foods for hot desserts

A tasty dessert can be sexy too. One of my personal favourites is chocolate. Not only does it come in many varieties, but just about every decent chocolate is likely to get you kudos. If you want some cosy cuddling with your date, rich, dark chocolate is perfect. Getting lavender flavoured chocolate is comforting as well, and would also work for leading into snuggle time.

If you’re looking to stay awake, wired, and ready to jump your date in bed, a bar of good chocolate with red chillies is fantastic. Just a slight bite and a little heat, combined with the sweetness of the chocolate is an amazingly sexy dessert.

 

Chocolate is a sexy food
Chocolate is known to be a sexy food.

 

Strawberries: the ultimate sexy food!

Strawberries are always on my fav list of sexy food. However many people have allergies, so be sure to check with your date first when going this route. There’s something about the sweet and tart flavour that gets me stirred. Or maybe it’s that so many movies use strawberries to show seduction. Either way, strawberries are commonly associated with sexiness, thus are an erotic choice if your date is allergy-free.

No matter what you’re in the mood for, there are many dishes that are sexy foods. If you see and taste a certain type of food, pay attention to how it makes you feel. The right main course, followed by a delicious dessert, can undoubtedly help with where the date goes next.



Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating. 
 


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Do you know of any other delicious aphrodisiacs? Do you have a favourite sexy food for your kinkiest dates? Let us know in the Fetish.com forum.

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