Cuck... help me understand the male perspective

[YannatheGoddess]

So I just recently started chatting with a sub male cuck. I REALLY like him. But I've never experienced a dynamic like this and I'm pretty willing. We're just in the beginning stages here. I'm not even sure if it will go anywhere but I just wanted some insight on the male perspective and how that feels. Or what it is psychologically that is appealing about watching your woman with another man.

[Deleted Member]

He is a sub, most definitely psychological. I met couples that preferred cuckold play and from my experience those cucks enjoy the dominance of another male when seeing his woman with him and they grt turned on. Bisexual tendencies also drive cuckold fantasies a lot. They are somewhat afraid to actually express their bisexuality openly.

[restrainable]

For some it's a combination of humilation and dominance watching your woman and another man,if bi there is the added aspect of being attracted to both but left out .

[Deleted Member]

I've come across this term so I'm following this thread so I can learn more about what it means

[ge****]

It can have many different meanings - for some it plays into a submissive side, but even with that there are various different aspects, such as humiliation, a feeling of being in "their place", and more.
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For others it plays into their own performance anxieties and frees them of those whilst getting pleasure from seeing their partner pleasured.
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For some it's more a stag and vixen type scenario where both partners may play with others but pleasure is got from seeing the wife pleasured, though arguably that's not strictly cuckold, though it has elements of it.
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Personally, though I've never actually been cuckolded as such, it's a mix of the above - and plays very much into enjoying seeing a partner take pleasure regardless of whether I'm the one doing the pleasuring.

[DTeasedHubby]

I’m a cuckold. It’s about communication. Talking to him about what aspects turn him on. A stag gets off on watching his wife and turned on. A cuckold is about the same but with the added element of humiliation. Such things as your lover being bigger than your cuck and you telling him. Not being allowed to cum while watching you and your lover cum over and over. Laughing at him for being your cuck. Making him lick you while being fucked. Making him clean up your lovers cum. Maybe even suck your lovers cock. It all depends on what you both want from this. He may have an idea as he may watch cuckold porn online. If so watch it with him and ask what but he likes. Whatever you do take it slow and talk everything through before hand. Also have a safe word in case during play something is too much!!
Joe this helps a little ☺️

[Cu****]

From my experience as a dominant, a mutual online connection was made with a female who appeared to be submissive and wanted experiences in bdsm. Only when we eventually talked about meeting, did she mention that she had a partner, and just for her safety, she wished him to accompany her. I didn’t mind. Once arrived, we all sat and talked about their expectations. She very calmly ruled him, explaining that he was too rough, too quick and didn’t consider her needs. She wanted to experience all the attention, focus and admiration of another man, whilst her partner sat in the same building and could only occasionally view what we did, through a small gap in the door, like he was a voyeur.
It became clear that this was what she wanted, and he admitted that he wanted to see her happy. She brought him with her on six further occasions, with his routine being suppressed by her, all the time. In the conversations we all had, he was made to feel inferior.
He asked on a number of occasions how I was able to make her submit to me, after she was always dominant with him. I tried to explain that she and I had open conversations, where she was able to talk freely about what she desired, needed and fantasised over. She felt that her opinions mattered and were used to steer/engineer the experiences that evolved, so that she felt satisfied first. It wasn’t all about sex, and certainly not about satisfying a male ego and then her feeling frustrated, shut down and ignored.
Why did he attend with her? He admitted his failings to her and wanted to share her and see where he’d gone wrong. Rather than her having secret meets behind his back, they’d talked about their own relationship, and what they felt they both needed. He wanted to see her happy.
I think that there can be very many reasons why a male might be a cuckold. This was my experience of meeting one.
Btw, he was in no way physically weak, nor inferior. This guy was a prop forward in a rugby club, with arm muscles bigger than my thighs.

[XxXDirtyboyXxX]

Well gonna say probably least experienced here but my first serous relationship was with dominant female. I glanced through comments just to see what they said so I didn’t repeat. Here’s my opinion kinda bios do to it relating to my experience

Ok just in case you don’t read all here’s three good questions to figure out that will help everything else fall into place.

1 what kind of relationship he wants there’s so many types if he even wants one might just want fun not much info

2 limits and likes dislikes

3 experience what he tried what he wants to try

but sounds like you need to figure out what he likes just because he a sub doesn’t mean he’s he bi or wants to add another male. Also he may not know everything he likes. your gonna have to talk and find out likes dislikes and boundaries. Find out what he wants to try what he has tried and how he feels about all that. Everyone different and not everyone sees kinks the same some don’t understand and just go with flow, some subs just want to be used.

When I first learn I had a submissive side was my first threesome she said she was gonna take my dick jumped on top and choked me out and put it in. Never thought would turn me on. So I let it go farther even tried and learned I like pegging but not soft only hard pegging. So depending on him and his experience he may not know what he likes just turned on by female that takes charge. So many types of way to be dominant it’s not funny talk to him and even if you Google the fetish he may view it differently so conversation don’t assume

[lesdevon]

Its  a feeling   of  losing  control    watching  your   lady   enjoy her self  with  another   man  riding  him  taking   his cum       its exciting  to dee  knowing  your  not  the one       the  exciting part  is  cleaning  her   up   after 

[so****]

I've often wondered about this myself. I can't imagine, even in my craziest dreams, ever putting myself in that situation. My brain just isn't wired to understand cucking as something pleasurable. I once tried filling the position of "bull" before, only once, & it was probably the most awkward & unenjoyable experience of my adult life. I felt SO bad for the guy, even though he was getting off on it. & Me being physically superior to him just made it worse. I guess humiliation in general just isn't for me lol I'm far too empathetic of a person. I aim to minimize psychological pain, not inflict it. But hard as I try to understand the headspace of a cuck, I simply can't. But I am legitimately fascinated by it lol

[YannatheGoddess]

Thank you everyone 😊. Definitely some helpful insight

[Deleted Member]

For me it's all about pleasing my women. I enjoy giving her the freedom to be with others and I am there to make sure it's safe for her and that she is always sexually satisfied to the max. It's loving her enough to allow her to fulfill her desires and fantasies. Her being honest by doing it in front of me is better than her hiding things from me.

I love her enough to wanting to please her in every way. I started eating her out after she has sex with other men and I find it sexually arousing to eat another man's cum out of her pussy.

[Jonathanmiramesa]

Don't know

[Deleted Member]

Humiliation is especially arousing to some men.

Watching your wife truly enjoy her being taken & pleasured by another man can be quite thrilling, depending upon the chemistry.

Vetting/screening potential Bulls is a cuckold husbands responsibility. This also allows the wife to feel safe, secure & to freely enjoy her (hopefully quite regular) physical therapy sessions.

As males are so competitive, we focus on performance & obsess over penis size, to the lighthearted dismissal & humor of most females.

[Deleted Member]

Guys are implicitly competitive, comparing ourselves to other men & using our instinctive values & beliefs to judge performance. Women are EMOTIONALLY centered & driven. Her sharing vulnerability & intimacy with men other than her husband is primarily an ego-driven power struggle that she uses to instantly subordinate her husband, in everyone’s eyes - herself, cuckold husband, BULLS & Lifestyle peers who share knowledge of these most personal details. As men are so competitive, those who cannot objectively succeed in the venue of offering the Cuckoldress sexual pleasure, cum (bad pun - sorry) to realize that his role in providing pleasure to his wife, derives from simply humbling himself, subordinating his desires to hers & actively facilitating her pleasure experiences. The submissive cuckold has a different objective than does a BULL & his reward (AGAIN: bad pun:) cums through offering her pleasure through satisfying her different, but equally important desires. Her cuckold husband humbles himself to offer her additional pleasure that she desires, for those select women who truly enjoy living the cuckold lifestyle. This is my limited personal understanding.