Childish Femdom?

[CuteHellion]

Hi, I'm new to the BDSM community, and I think I'm very dominant. I love control. But, the thing is, when I get in the mindset, I have a childish joy to it. Like, with my ex, he was pinned down and I was completely controlling whether or not he was receiving any pleasure. In this scenario, you may imagine the girl to have a cold dominant look, but, no.. I was just giggling. 

 

Is any other femdom like this? Loves control, but is.. cutesy about it? Not the sexy stone-cold femdom they picture in porn. 

[Lizzytv243]

I’ve seen a couple of dominas take that pleasure from the control before and I must say I quiet like it

[Mi****]

I laugh a lot during play, I dont see much point to it if you cant enjoy it and show that enjoyment however you want to

[Deleted Member]

I’m exactly the same, I get giggly if it’s something I’m enjoying, or all it takes is a wry smile from a sub to set me off.

[jossei]

When My Lady is spanking me it always helps her mood. It hurts and I cry but unless I'm being punished it should be fun for the spanker. Ma'am

[CuteHellion]

4 hours ago, Lizzytv243 said:

I’ve seen a couple of dominas take that pleasure from the control before and I must say I quiet like it

But a childish glee from it? It's one thing for a domme to enjoy it, and another for her to just be giggling like a little girl in a candy store.

[CuteHellion]

3 hours ago, MissMermaid said:

I’m exactly the same, I get giggly if it’s something I’m enjoying, or all it takes is a wry smile from a sub to set me off.

Like really cutesy giggling? Like you can't be serious at all? 

[Lizzytv243]

That is even better as it adds to the domination, you have so much control over you’re sub you find it overwhelmingly joyful and the sub is left knowing they really do have zero power

[Mrtease69]

So interesting. I’ve found myself working in between both the very dominant but also the smiling welcoming dominant. Do you switch between both as well or is it always a cutesy approach??

[MistressMettle]

Both as a pro Domme and in my personal play time I have a more playful style of domination. I think the porn version of an aggressive 'cold' Domme is something we've all been conditioned to think is the only way to Domme. I do role play those kind of scenes but it isn't my natural style. I really enjoy domming and it is a fun and pleasurable experience for me. I can't help giggling with pleasure when I have sub tied up and under my control and there's nothing wrong with that. It's called play for a reason. It's fun. You don't have to be an ice cold bitch to hold all the power.

[CuteHellion]

35 minutes ago, Mrtease69 said:

So interesting. I’ve found myself working in between both the very dominant but also the smiling welcoming dominant. Do you switch between both as well or is it always a cutesy approach??

I find over the internet I can be very calming Domme, and very in control. But in person I can't seem to master the strict Domme I can be online. 

[Mrtease69]

Why is that? Do you find yourself overwhelmed in the pleasure? Or do you just prefer a dominant giving you an orgasm? How doesn’t your mind work when your the one controlling every single move?? And if so, what ideas do you follow through with?

[CuteHellion]

4 minutes ago, Mrtease69 said:

Why is that? Do you find yourself overwhelmed in the pleasure? Or do you just prefer a dominant giving you an orgasm? How doesn’t your mind work when your the one controlling every single move?? And if so, what ideas do you follow through with?

I don't like anyone else giving me an orgasm. I know that sounds crazy, but I like to be fully clothed in front of other people. I don't like the vulnerability I feel when I'm naked with another person. Even in a vanilla relationship. I haven't done any domming irl, really. Just have teased a guy before to where he was begging me to do more. I haven't had the pleasure of controlling someone so completely, but I really hope some day I'm granted that power. I've sound a sub here that is willing to trust me with her everything. I'll see how that works, she's teaching me.

[Mrtease69]

Everyone has their own mental stimulation. If your comfort is not there you should put yourself in the situation at the right time And see how it goes. I am a pleaser. I guess I am submissive in a way because my pleasure comes from strictly seeing you tremble in pleasure.. whether it’s physicslly with me or just a mental aspect. But I’m also new to all of this so I’m finding my nitch. I’ve had very few woman take charge as a dominant so I’m curious to know what it’s all about. I hope you find your spot within yourself. Have you ever attended any events?? Or tried any kinks??

[Rahul202]

Nice

[ey****]

I don't want to oversimplify this too much.

But

Whatever works for you.

There is no hivemind. No one true way.  If you're enjoying what you're doing and others are enjoying being with you - everyone wins.

[Deleted Member]

Childish its my second name. Im a man, but even I feel naturally childish. Its good to have an partner with same but if she wants it more brutal I can easely act that shell never feel the difference.

[DominatrixSheba]

I laugh through most of my sessions. I find it genuinely funny to see my clients squirm and I know my laugh it one of the things they love about our sessions. 

[Forbdsm]

My advise is to not go for stereotypes, the point of being a mistress is finding your own way. And if you're the giggling mistress, go with that. Maybe see if the guy is into condescending talk and silly teasing . You know, you taking a childish approach. Giggle and laugh with something about his body (I get super turned on when my mistress laughs with how my tiny dick is sticking out of my underwear), or just giggle as you luck his penis or get out of bed to run around like an excited child for a bit

[Deleted Member]

I was in a scene at the weekend where the Dom was enjoying tickling me and hitting me and he was giggling away joyful most of the time. It was a really wonderful session, fun and light-hearted and I got seriously beaten. You can do BDSM any way you like :)

[ErikFantasy]

From times to times my finDomme can be really childish when she is overjoyed or when the stars are aligned :p

And it is a delight to see !

 That means She can be natural in front of me without worrying about any judgement.

 

Emotions are hard to fake, and i think it is even harder in fetish world when trust is even more important than in more "vanilla" relationships. So jsut be yourself, may you be a Domme or a sub because in any case you won't be able to fully apreciate the situations if you have to make a permanent effort of presentation.

[Gr****]

I know someone who does her hair up and pig tails and gets to giggling when she's feeling particularly sadistic.

My giggling is more a delighted cackle than childlike, but I've been known to skip, grin like a maniac, and mess with "ultra masculine" buys by declaring that this particular toy couldn't possibly hurt because it's PINK.

So ... maybe a little?

Edited February 24 by Griot