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jo****

jo****

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Hii im new here but does anyone know if there’s real ppl? I can’t seem to match with anyone and there’s not too many ppl near my area😭

4R****

4R****

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Well I'm certainly real - at least I was when I ate my breakfast and made myself a coffee this morning!

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The browse function seems to not show the people closests to you for some reason.

There are real people but I’ve also came across profiles with a verified tick that somehow seem to be fakes.

Best of luck to you
FETMOD-BD

FETMOD-BD

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2 minutes ago, Cage_for_swallows said:

The browse function seems to not show the people closests to you for some reason.
 

You can change the filter and sort by settings on the brows function to show those closest to you

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2 minutes ago, FETMOD-BD said:

You can change the filter and sort by settings on the brows function to show those closest to you

I know. But for example I had people 3 miles around me that crushed on me and although their profiles were active they didn’t appear in the browse section no matter the settings

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Yes people are real. Just take your time and get to know someone before you try to meet. This app is mainly for connecting with people if link. If you’re looking for a quick hook up tinder is probably better.
jo****

jo****

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Ik like I get it they want to make *** with the memberships n stuff but damn can’t even get at least one match😭
TeeJay_98

TeeJay_98

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Plenty of real people here...but considering you only joined two days ago... It may take a little more to find someone. If its a quick f**k your after... Theres plenty of other sites for that ☺

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Match system sucks and rarely gets used, better luck sliding in dms.
Ju****

Ju****

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Just because you struggle to match with someone doesn't mean everyone is fake.

 

Ofcourse there are real people. Its easy to spot them via their timeline interactions, photos, verification and friend tally (who've marked personally known). 

 

You have been here what, 2 days according to someone above. 

There is absolutely no way you can meet someone in that space of time. Never mind having anything meaningful. And if you do... THAT'S what is mostly likely fake. 

 

Learn the site. Learn how to use and set filters and searches to help you. 

If you're struggling, as for help. The greeter mods are good for this, or submit a ticket via help and support to reach admin. 

 

Just never throw every one in a fake bracket because of a clueless two day effort. 

This site is brilliant for it, I've personally met a wonderful partner. Took me a couple months. 

Ive also met 60+ friends from here in real life. 

I do also struggle to find a second partner/match and have been curiously keeping an eye open for the last two years to no avail.

But that's life. It happens. Doesn't mean people are fake. 

 

Give it time. And good luck 🤞

ro****

ro****

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Finding people close to you sure is difficult, but possible (at least it has been for me, Australia based, although can appreciate how location and dynamic may change opportunities). It also can take a bit of time, so don't feel bad if you've not been flooded as of yet.
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I suggest clicking on the profile and shooting a friendly hello message if someone is nearby - not just spanking them (although it sounds like you do this anyway). Potentially reconsider your messaging style if you're not getting that many responses, and also your profile/ BDSM quiz.
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For me, I'm much less likely to respond to an empty profile, or someone who approaches in a crass/overtly sexual/ asserting dominance before earnt manner.
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Full disclosure that if you were to message me (and we were closer together) I would probably message back based on age and profile pictures (nice work there).
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You could potentially increase that chance/interest/ likelihood of someone reaching out by filling out the text of your profile a little more.
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I'm someone not too bothered by experience but from my observations many on this site do prioritise it. You can combat it by providing a few more details about yourself (even non kinky ones to do more with your personality and you as a person) and creating an authentic and distinguishable profile. Many of us value the person behind the kink just as much, if not more, so if you show you are considerate and genuine the experience can sometimes fade to the background somewhat (at least for me). Ones attitude and open mindedness speak far more than a number of " x years experience"
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Reminder these are just my observations and not representative of everyone :)
ro****

ro****

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50 minutes ago, johnd20 said:
Ik like I get it they want to make *** with the memberships n stuff but damn can’t even get at least one match😭

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think matches are based off the quiz. You're pretty even Dom/sub and both below 50 percent which is not all that common so probably have a small pool of people to be matched to?

Unless you're talking about crush matches where you both like each other?

Ju****

Ju****

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30 minutes ago, ropebratlittle4u said:

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think matches are based off the quiz. You're pretty even Dom/sub and both below 50 percent which is not all that common so probably have a small pool of people to be matched to?

Unless you're talking about crush matches where you both like each other?

I personally don't find these quick kink bdsm match things accurate.

The quiz it self just is not right. A lot of the questions arent relatable to everyone and anyone, and it just matches people with similar kinks. Not necessarily actual preference matches. 

I refuse to use it. Just makes no sense to me how someone can be 58% dominant and 82% submissive

Its supposed to be % which is 100 🤷😬🤣.

 

 

 

 

I will also note my previous comment, where i said i met a partner on here. 

We met by chance on the site. We live 300+ miles away from each other. 

Im in Ireland they're mainland uk/england. 

But, we made it work. Travelling back and forth to one another, regular video chats, texts etc. Sharing the travel and expense, hosting each other. 

Been 2+ years now and we are gonna be living together in the new year 

It can and does happen. 

Perhaps if you open to the possibility of travelling a little further afield, where is practical and affordable for you, you may have some added luck and search opportunities. 

Just a thought

ro****

ro****

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31 minutes ago, Finally_Jen said:

I personally don't find these quick kink bdsm match things accurate.

The quiz it self just is not right. A lot of the questions arent relatable to everyone and anyone, and it just matches people with similar kinks. Not necessarily actual preference matches. 

I refuse to use it. Just makes no sense to me how someone can be 58% dominant and 82% submissive

Its supposed to be % which is 100 🤷😬🤣.

 

 

 

 

I will also note my previous comment, where i said i met a partner on here. 

We met by chance on the site. We live 300+ miles away from each other. 

Im in Ireland they're mainland uk/england. 

But, we made it work. Travelling back and forth to one another, regular video chats, texts etc. Sharing the travel and expense, hosting each other. 

Been 2+ years now and we are gonna be living together in the new year 

It can and does happen. 

Perhaps if you open to the possibility of travelling a little further afield, where is practical and affordable for you, you may have some added luck and search opportunities. 

Just a thought

True, I do find some of the wording weird in the quiz and a bit reductive.

QXX666

QXX666

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Last time I check California kinksters number was over 30000 people.
This is the kind of attitude that makes me delete my account most of the time for about three years now.
I have been 7 years on fetishcom and it’s getting worse year after years!
40****

40****

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There are real people... There's a lot of time wasters... I gave in trying to set my profile picture because it said I couldn't as it wasn't me, yet there's a woman with a profile picture of a dog bowl! How's that work?
Sh****

Sh****

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Be patient. I have met 5 guys on here in person and they are all pretty cool guys. I dated one of them for 4 months. And I am going on a second date with another this weekend
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