BDSM relationship: how to get over a breakup?

[Ch****]

Personally I think it can be really difficult especially if the bond / connection is or was really strong between the two individuals. I honestly do feel their p@in and can’t imagine how difficult it must feel like to deal with a situation like this. Hugs

[Ju****]

Best way to get over one is to get under another

[De****]

Sit with the grief. Let the grief hit and cry when you need to. Be angry, be happy, be sad, remember all of it how it comes to you. It's ok to go into denial that anything was wrong and then accept that there was sh!tty moments. Take something that connected you to them and if you can break it or burn it (safely) it can be healing. Also talk about them to as many people as you can for about 3 to 4 months.

[No****]

If the dynamic ended over mutal circumstances such as needing to relocate I think relearning to live life without them is most effective which requires time. If the dynamic ends due to betrayal; I havent figured that one out yet. Mine happened over a year ago trying to replace with another dynamic didnt heal my hurt and time has eased the p@in but I am still hurt over it

[Ti****]

I was destroyed after my last partner left me, the only thing we can do is to try to make more friends and give ourselves time to grieve. I still miss them

[DD****]

Understand that whatever else it may be, a BDSM relationship is exactly that... a relationship. And just like any other relationship, when it ends the people in it need time to heal from that ending... time to learn to love and value yourself again.

[he****]

If you don’t heal from the person that hurt you, you will bleed on the people who didn’t cut you

[PL****]

I first spend the time in my feelings that I need to process. I go through the grief rather then around it, because grieving is closure for me. Then once I have grieved to the point I can cognitively process, I begin analyzing the relationship and determining where I made mistakes, where he/she made mistakes, what was good, what was bad, and what I would want to be different within the next relationship. As I go through this process, I also use my support system. As well as healthy coping mechanisms such as baths, aromatherapy, coloring, etc. to make sure I remain okay.