Deleted Member Posted May 30, 2019 Posted May 30, 2019 How do you begin to act on a fantasy that you know is outside of the norm? I have fantasies of extremely violent - but controlled - sex, but I do not quite know how to realise them in a real-life, or even in a virtual/online situation. I want to feel like I have lost control. I want to feel violated. I want to feel like I am free - if only for a moment - of all psychological/societal constraints through the use of actual, physical constraint and pain. I have such dark fantasies and I do not have an outlet, which I desperately want. I was just wondering if anyone would have any suggestions on how to ‘unlock’ them?