How do you take your sub?

[Ja****]

What do you expect from your sub? What do you provide for her to feel safe to submit? Just curious and this was running through my mind this morning 🥰

[Sk****]

I expect my sub to be polite and respectful to both me and other doms. I expect her to take care of her health and I expect her not to pleasure herself without my approval. A great way to make a sub feel safe is to give them pre-care and answer any questions they have before a session.

[co****]

The mental faculties of an adult female that can discern between scene play and reality, and that can effectively communicate in accordance with that in mind as well as within the guidelines and rules that I set out. Those "submissives" merely looking for kinky talk or to get smacked about have more pressing concerns than seeking a Dom(me) for bdsm. The rest just naturally follows or doesn't. Simple.

[Deleted Member]

I expect open, honest, and direct communication. Speak up, speak immediately, and state your intention with conviction. I want to see a sub who is happy to see me, proud of herself and her craft, and enthusiastic about having me as her Dom. She keeps her posture straight and speaks with perfect grammar in my presence because she genuinely respects how I care for her and allow her to indulge in her craft.

[Lord_Talion]

With a side of fries covered in cheese

[Deleted Member]

Time, time and more time, I couldn’t imagine trying to rush a sub. I’m a switch so I understand both points of view. You have to genuinely connect on multiple occasions. Then once the ice is broke through can you talk about limits and safe words. Slow slow never rush this

[Deleted Member]

Time time and more time, never rush a sub, I’m a switch so I can talk from both sides. Only after multiple occasions of you both connecting can you discuss limits and safe words. You want to be friends first to see if there is an attraction and connection I want my sub to be a friend

[QXX666]

Over easy

[Deleted Member]

4 hours ago, QXX666 said:

Over easy

Do explain

[Do****]

Years ago I set a boundary for myself to substitute lettuce with spinach whenever possible. It doesn't change the flavor and it's healthier. Its a big sub green flag. I also like my sub to have cheese and roast beef, but occasionally I don't mind a sausage sub.

[ur****]

I expect them to be communicative and truthful about their own desires

I recently have started being more bureocratic with play partners. It's been helpful, dodged a my-way-or-the-highway dom, and many subs who aren't interested in putting the effort necessary to make a session happen

It's been much more interesting

[ma****]

I will do everything in my power to make my slave or sub to feel safe and I expect my slave or sub to listen to what I have to say just do it 

[ma****]

Communication is the key

[Deleted Member]

Communication, respect from both them & myself, clear from the outset about what they're comfortable with/not comfortable with, mutual intellectual stimulation & lots of aftercare.

[ho****]

Ive always loved seeing the amount of fear in my subs eyes. Awaiting what’ll happen next, waiting to be used. Of course I back down the second they say stop or anything of the manner. But yeah. Fear, always works

[cu****]

Love, respect, and genuine fondness for each other