Rules for being online

[DeviantInside]

You don’t have to like me
You don’t have to agree with me
You don’t owe me anything
You don’t have to respond to me
You don’t have to respect me or my opinions automatically
You shouldn’t trust what I say without verification
You can feel however you feel about me
I should try to understand your viewpoint
I don’t have to agree with you
What is right for me may not be for you
What is right for you may not be for me
I do not know your life/triggers/history/experiences
You do not know my life/triggers/history/experiences
There is almost always something I can learn from you
There is almost always something I can learn from you
I will probably be turned off by something you are turned on by
There is probably something I am turned on by that turns you off
Same applies for hobbies, world views, ethics
That doesn’t mean it cannot adapt or change
In either direction
My opinion isn’t the correct answer
Your opinion isn’t the correct answer
We don’t have to agree
Don’t lie
Being yourself is the only way to find people that like you
Have something to offer
Everyone you talk to is a person (except bots… bots aren’t people)
Someone rejecting you probably isn’t a bot
You don’t have to engage with everyone
Or anyone
Learn
Learn more
Verify what you learn
Not everyone who is confident is an expert
People who know what they are talking about aren’t always confident
Don’t let someone cut you off from friends/family/learning
Bdsm isn’t one sided
Relationships should be mutually beneficial
Equal isn’t the same as fair or beneficial or mutual
Try to understand yourself first
Hooking up isn’t the only thing for everyone (or even most)
Bdsm does not mean easy lay
Most good bdsm relationships are also just good relationships
Talk to lots of people
Read a lot and find what resonates
There is probably someone that shares your kinks
Work out what compromises you are willing to make
Work out what compromises you are not willing to make
These may change depending who you are talking to
Even hard limits
Don’t feel you have to compromise hard limits… or soft limits
Talk
Communicate
A lot
You should feel able to express yourself
You may be wrong
But not automatically

Feel free to add your own

[Da****]

Everything is so true

[ja****]

Just because we disagree on something doesn't mean we have to hate each other.

[Hal727]

Thank you! So very true!!!

[Deleted Member]

Dr. Seuss taught us all this. Or did we miss his message. He did not say we are all entitled he said we all have our way and that’s ok. Because I like the blue can and you like the red doesn’t mean we can’t have both or just share the green can. My only thing I would Add is “ I am not the same that you had before do not assume I will act the same, I will not assume you will act the same as I had before. Until we do then we should not act the same as we were before.

[Tr****]

Put ego aside, be humble, and don't assume, just grow

[Puppy6411]

Be real, don't build a facade and expect people to see through it.

[Ri****]

Excellent post :)

[lolli-leigh]

great post, should be in the lobby rules haha

[Da****]

Don't trust people straight out the gate. There are scammers, users, and ***rs who like to try and take advantage of our kinky desires. Trust is earned and not freely given.

[Ki****]

Very well written!!!

[Th****]

Lobe these! This is am awesome list of rules

[An****]

unpopular opinion but you are entitled to respect. not everyone agrees with every single opinion but respect is still a must.

to add

respect peoples personal boundaries and limits.

actions speak louder than words

if someone isnt good for you.. leave, even if you *** being alone or really like them+if you *** being alone work on yourself (get to the root of why you *** being alone and work from there)

dont put someone over your morals

follow your gut, it never lies

feel your emotions and process them without taking it out on others.(allow yourself to cry and feel hurt)

no *** no gain ( the sun always comes out after a rainstorm even if it takes a lil while but even the rain is good, it provides growth) *** is for growth not holding in

your trauma doesnt define you

dont be codependent on anyone ever, if you’re happy with yourself than you’ll never truly be lonely

take breaks from social media is f**ks ur brain n not in the hot way

(i got rlly carried away lmao)


 

[st****]

I’m not going to pay for you to play with us and if your attention is to a object that can’t say no then leave it alone