BDSM Dating in Southampton

I’ve come to learn what I like and don’t like, to me it’s just as important what you’re like outside the bedroom as inside, to me a sub should Be creative, sure, confident, submit the sexual side, I’ve had to many subs that I personally find boring, yes its d/s relationship but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have ideas, suggestions, fantasies of your own, I don’t want a “I don’t mind” girl. Respectful sane guy looking for people local to Southampton for dates and more, ideally submissive in the bedroom, smart, funny and polite. Let’s grab a drink / coffee and make some connections, Into bondage, restraints, sparking, role play and much much more. Far more turned on by intelligence and ability to Hold a conversation, the bedroom stuff comes later, i don’t think submissive is fun outside of the bedroom, I want your input, ideas and suggestions for things, dates, fun creativity. (I’m divorced with kids, don’t want more, just to save time)