BDSM Dating in Rochester

Seeking someone around my age or a few years older who wants to be an ABDL mommy figure in a relationship with me, both relationship dynamic-wise and sexually. Somebody who's okay with--and maybe even into--me wetting and messing my pants, encouraging me to do so, maybe messes and wets themselves, wants to baby and comfort me, and will let me wear their shoes (you can wear mine, too, if you want). Does not necessarily have to be 100% dominant. I intend to hold my weight in the relationship.