Butts

Big or small - we love all butts

I have a big butt fetish, is this normal?

Are there any areas of the butt not safe for impact play?

Big or small - we love all butts

A lot of kinks seems to focus on the butt. Our rear ends are spanked, bitten, licked, worshipped and fucked - and that's just the foreplay! Asses are an erogenous zone for many, and a major point of attraction for even more - no matter the shape, size or gender of the ass in question. They're an excellent choice for safe and responsible impact play because they tend to be well padded and make a great target. Time was, the Twiggy-style flat butt was the way to go for women who wanted to look a la mode - until, praise the Lord, along came Jennifer Lopez, Nicki Minaj and Kim Kardashian. Now, quite the opposite is true: women have their posteriors surgically plumped and worrying that they don't have enough junk in their trunks. As with all things, it's important not to let this get to you; the booty beautiful is different for everyone, and the body you've got has a whole lot going for it.

What’s with us and butts?

Big, small, thick or thin, butts are assets that get lots of attention whether clothed or unclothed. This has a lot to do with sex, of course, and desirability. It could be trenched in primal instinct, when we were all looking for partners who were fertile but the attraction to butts is as real today as it ever was.

I have a big butt fetish, is this normal?

Sure it is, it’s essentially a personal preference that turns you on. There’s even a name for it - pygophilia! If you find that you’re struggling with it in any way though, then talk to a medical professional. Your fetish should be fun.

Do women have butt fetishes?

They can do, many women really love butts of various shapes and sizes, so it’s likely some will see it as a fetish.

Are there any areas of the butt not safe for impact play?

Butts are usually pretty well padded and so are fantastic for impact play, there aren’t any particular no go areas. Remember not to concentrate hits too high, you don’t want to damage a person’s kidneys. Before you play, ask your partner for their preferences, some people don’t like certain areas hit at all.

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For kinksters into anal play

Anal sex is hugely popular, but it's not the only way of getting your butt in on the action. Anal massage and analingus can both feel fantastic for giver and receiver alike, and they're a great way of warming someone up to be fucked in the ass without difficulty or discomfort. There are plenty of toys around designed to make anal play more enjoyable for all involved, and it's well worth looking into some plugs and vibrators to see what they can do for you. Be careful about what you pick, though - toys not designed for use in that area can get lost more easily than you might imagine, so be sure and get the right ones for you and your partner!

For kinksters who love getting spanked

Spanking is probably the most famous kinky activity of all, and millions of people the world over have indulged on occasion. It's generally done with a bare hand; while plenty of people also enjoy getting spanked with a paddle or other tools, this is more often referred to as 'impact play'. Spanking is sometimes used to describe striking someone with a convenient object, such as a belt or a bedroom slipper. Most commonly spanking is aimed at the buttocks, and while other fleshy areas of the body (such as the thighs, breasts or in some cases genitals) can be a lot of fun to spank it's best to stick to fleshy areas. As with all things, do a little research to make sure you're being safe and have a clear negotiation with your partner beforehand to establish what they like, what they want and which safeword they'll use.

Anal sex - are you on the fence?

Anal sex is one of those things that often divides people: for some it's the holy grail of sexual gratification, while others don't want it at all. If you love it, though, chances are that you really love it - and if you'd like to learn to love it, there are certainly options! Incidentally, anal sex is a lot more 'mainstream' than you might imagine. Studies suggest that almost 50% of the population has tried it - so why not find out what all the fuss is about?