There is something really great about getting away with wearing your fetish clothing out in public, whether that’s under your clothing or right out in the open. Some of us have an easier time of this than others—we have styles that are accepted as appropriate in public, or can be gotten away with, like really short skirts and full on retro pinup aesthetic. What you can get away with depends entirely on how far you’re willing to go, but for this instance we’re going to talk about some options you can get away with under your clothes or right out in the open, no questions asked or weird looks given.

Fetish clothing you can rock in public


There are some more extreme options you can get away with under your clothing—worn for the naughty knowledge that you've got something that turns you on under your normal, everyday clothes. No one else knows, unless you let them know.

Lingerie, Corsets and Hoisery

Lingerie is the most obvious answer. No matter what your style—lacy, vintage, victorias secret—lingerie was at least initially intended to be worn under clothing, and most people who wear it also wear it daily, under their clothing. Having really elaborate lingerie in your favorite fabric is a unique sensory experience.

Corsets  kind of riffing off lingerie, corsets are another thing you can wear under your clothing which provide a satisfactory feeling of constriction and shape your body under your clothing.

Hosiery is also technically a lingerie category, but has a unique following all it’s own. You can wear something simple for the sensation or eye catching, with intricate lace, fishnets, or other creative options. All have a unique sensation that the wearer experiences, and they can be a really fun way to change the sensation of another’s touch.

Rope bondage, harnesses, strap-ons and vibrators

Rope Bondage can absolutely be worn under clothing—if you use rope with a small enough diameter, 4mm or less, you can create intricate harnesses and ties that can be worn under your clothing. Unless you wear something really stretchy and formfitting, it’ll be completely invisible if done correctly.

Harnesses thought you likely cannot fit a full on leather harness under your clothing, you can likely fit one of the stretchy low-profile ones like this either completely unseen or just peeking out from under your clothing. They’ll have a similar constrictive experience to rope with less friction, which is a pro or a con depending on who you’re talking to.

Strap-On Harnesses are a bit different from the harnesses mentioned above. Different strap on-harnesses will work better or worse depending on what you’re wearing – ‘underwear’ style harnesses will almost always work, while Jock-style, leather harnesses, and others with a lot of buckles will be too bulky for most clothing. Whether or not you bring along a toy to strap in, and whether or not you get any action later, it can be an incredibly charged experience to know you’re ready if you do.

Vibrators can sometimes be worn under clothing and controlled with a vibrator by yourself or someone else. This one’s pretty self-explanatory, but there are very few good examples of products that work very well for this—The OhMiBod Blue Motion is app controlled, same with the WeVibe Four and the newer JeJoue Nua. Being app controlled, they’re super discreet, so you’re able to control them from your phone rather than bringing out what can often be an obvious-looking remote.

fetish clothing you can rock in public

Fetish Clothing Out In The Open

There are certain clothing articles and accessories that some of us love to wear for sexual reasons that we can totally get away with wearing out in the open. Sometimes that’s an overall style, a kind of fabric, or for other perverted reasons.

Leather has become more and more appropriate to wear publicly as clothing; leather jackets have been ‘in’ since the 80s but leather pants, skirts, dresses, and shirts are becoming increasingly visible on fashion week runways and streetstyle blogs. Those leather leggings are no longer seen as a kitschy glamrock throwback, unless that’s the look you’re going for.

Body Modification has been a popular subculture for a long while now, but has now become so commonplace in most urban areas that employers are less likely to discriminate against heavily tattooed people with gauged piercings and rainbow hair. Though this is slightly less something you’d actually ‘wear’ it still counts.

Collars can often be gotten away with, whether you’re wearing one of those beautiful high-end metal numbers that look seamless (which look more like a fashion statement than a sign of being owned) or a puppy or kitty collar if you’re into pet play, these incredibly meaningful D/s wearables can sometimes be worn publicly. Many have a ‘public appropriate’ collar versus a ‘home’ collar, so they can be collared 24/7 without drawing attention to the nature of their relationship.

Spandex might get made fun of by some if you’re wearing a biking outfit, but tight fitting leggings and athletic gear are becoming more and more acceptable for everyday wear with the ‘athleisure’ movement—clothing that can be worn for fitness activities and/or in everyday life. Now that more athletic style clothing is gracing runways, you can find more beautiful and high quality tight fitting garments and not be gawked at when you wear them—at least not because people find it strange.

These are just a few of the many, many options available to those who are interested in wearing some fetish clothing and accessories out in public. The world of fetish clothing is a large and nuanced one, with different people having different needs and desires for the things they wear. Experiment with what you might find both delightful and appropriate for public wear – as I said above, different people will have different comfort levels and may prefer to be all out or more stealthy. It all depends on you.

Caitlin is a writer, sex educator, consultant, and product reviewer who focuses primarily on issues of sex toy and accessory safety, pleasure, sexuality, gender, and more. You can learn more, or ask any questions, at their website-
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