BDSM Collar

More than just kinky fetishwear

Collaring is a common practice in the BDSM community. People in all kinds of Dom/sub relationships often like to have something physical to symbolise the bond between them, be that a Daddy and his little girl or a Dominatrix and her slaveboy -and the giving and wearing of collars is frequently used in this way. For many people, a collar is a clear sign of a deep commitment and has a sincere emotional meaning for them. Of course, the objects used in this way aren't always literally collars--some kinky couples like to symbolise their ownership using bracelets, anklets, rings, chains or any other adornment that has a particular meaning for them.

What is a BDSM collar?

Collars used for BDSM can be decorative symbols or practical pieces of equipment with O or D rings included for attaching leashes and other bondage items too. They can be made of all kinds of material but are often made of leather or steel. It is usually a symbol of submission.

What does a BDSM collar mean?

There are many reasons people wear their collars. So it will mean something slightly different to every Sub or Dom you speak too. Some people use them to symbolise deep commitment between a Master and Slave, others use them in play to get into the submissive headspace and some people wear them just for fashion purposes. It is a very individual choice.

Why wear a BDSM collar?

One of the main reasons to wear a collar is to use it to attach a leash too or other bondage gear such as chains and cuffs. They have a practical use during many bondage scenes. This isn’t the only reason to wear one though. They can be symbols of relationships too.

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