Defilement | Kinks & Fetishes

Defilement is messy, dirty and so damn hot!

How do I add my defilement fetish into a scene?

Is aftercare needed for a defilement scene?

Defilement is messy, dirty and so damn hot!

Defilement is a word associated with evil, wicked things. However, kinksters, especially fans of BDSM, are known for their attraction to the darker things in life. And getting down and dirty can definitely be fun. Often associated with the societal myth of virginity, defiling a person has overtones of taking them from being pure and unsullied to something used and (consensually) abused, making them soiled. Sometimes physically, sometimes mentally, if humiliation is involved. The fun is in tearing the person down to their basest, messiest self, freeing them from the expectations of their lives and society so they can be as dirty as they want to be. Defilement sounds pretty fun, huh?

What is defilement?

Defilement is taking something pure, clean and tidy and messing it up - this can be someone’s clothes or make up for example. It can be getting you and your partner/s bodies dirty. Defilement is a term that can cover other fetishes such as mysophilia.

How do I add my defilement fetish into a scene?

Firstly be sure to talk about it in your pre-scene negotiations. Maybe you can incorporate ripping or cutting off clothes into your play. If watersports and piss play appeal to you, you can use that for defilement and humiliation and use it as part of a BDSM scene. You could write all over someone in lipstick or marker pen. There are lots of things you can add to other BDSM and fetish scenes.

Is aftercare needed for a defilement scene?

It’s always best to ask your partner/s about this as everyone’s aftercare needs changes. As a general rule, though, defilement involves some elements of mind fuckery, and the person may need more reassurance and validation afterwards. In practical terms, getting the person clean and tidy again is very much part of the scene - bringing them back up from their defilement position.

Is it weird that I like defilement?

It’s not that weird at all. Defilement is a popular aspect of many people’s kink life. Watersports, role play, sploshing, and humiliation are examples of popular fetishes that have a defilement element. However, if you are feeling worried about your fetish, it’s best to talk to a medical professional.

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