Handjobs

For all handjob lovers

Giving handjobs makes my wrist ache, how can I avoid that?

How do you use a male masturbator when giving a handjob?

Can a Dom/me give a handjob or is it a submissive thing to do?

For all handjob lovers

Adorable comedy duo Garfunkel & Oates have a song the chorus of which begins with "Hand-job, bland-job, I-don't-understand-job". It's a reasonable point: giving a handjob can be a bit daunting for people who don't themselves have penises, particularly because a lot of people who do have learned over the years that they're probably better off doing it themselves!

The good news is that this is surmountable. If you are yourself possessing of a penis, spend some time figuring out what you like and don't be afraid to ask for it clearly. If you're the one trying to give the handjob, remember that everyone is different and make a point of asking your partner what they like the most.

How do you give a handjob?

Firstly, it’s good to ask the penis owning person how they like to be touched. You can ask as you go along, giving them explicit permission to help guide you in what you’re doing. It’s often good to use lube, to help your hand glide up and down the penis and reduce friction. Pay attention to how the person reacts and keep hitting their sweet spots. There’s no one right way to give a hand job. So experiment and have fun with it.

Giving handjobs makes my wrist ache, how can I avoid that?

If you’re not used to the movement, it can be pretty painful on the wrist joints to wank someone off. Maybe you can combine using your hand with using other parts of you to stimulate the penis. Use your mouth for example, feet maybe or even your breasts to vary the sensations and give your wrists a rest.

How do you use a male masturbator when giving a handjob?

Male masturbators can be fun and add a different element to wanking. It depends on the type as to how you might use them. If it’s a fleshlight type, where you are still needing to move it manually, you might want to start out using just your hand first, and move on to the masturbator to give a different feel. Maybe you can get him to fuck his fleshlight as you fuck yourself. A bit of power and control is always good, right? If the male masturbator vibrates, then you can use it to give your wrist a rest. Turn it up and down and play with settings to edge your partner and drive them wild.

Can a Dom/me give a handjob or is it a submissive thing to do?

If a Dom/me wants to give their partner a hand job then that’s what they should do. There’s nothing off limits in D/s play. And Dominance can come in many ways. You could use the hand job for orgasm control and denial. Get them to the point of coming but don’t let them or make them beg before they can come. Maybe you can give it as a treat for good behaviour. It’s totally up to you.

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