Whips

Whips - a great tool for kinky BDSM play

What is a whip?

What is the best whip for beginners?

How do you use a whip safely?

Do all whips look like Indiana Jones’s?

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Whips - a great tool for kinky BDSM play

In the words of the immortal Rihanna, "sticks and stones may break my bones - but chains and whips excite me". Whipping isn't quite as common a BDSM practice as the uninitiated might imagine (whips are unwieldy implements and difficult to use well; crops, canes, paddles and floggers are all far more usual) but it definitely has its fans. Bullwhips are occasionally to be seen in fetish clubs, and masochists who enjoy sharp sting-type pains are likely to have fun at the end of them. Enjoy the cracking noise when you hear it--it's a sign that you're breaking the sound barrier!

What is a whip?

Also known as singletails because they have just one end, they are long and flexible and give a lot of concentrated pain for the person on the receiving end. They are wielded quickly and leave marks quickly and easily.

What is the best whip for beginners?

It takes a lot of time and patience to learn to use a whip. As you need to learn the specific skill of how to crack and aim them. They are very dangerous and so it’s very important to practice a lot before hitting anyone. Any beginner needs to pick a whip they are comfortable with, generally a shorter whip is easier to wield than a long one.

How do you use a whip safely?

Be sure you have plenty of room and that no one is standing in your way who doesn’t want to be hit. Make sure to aim carefully, as a stray whip strike can be very painful and dangerous. Make sure to change the cracker after every person you play with, to minimise risk of infection etc. Your bottom needs to have a safeword so they can stop proceedings if it gets too much, a whipping is very intense indeed. The bottom also needs to stand very still, so that they aren’t whipped in the wrong place by accident.

Do all whips look like Indiana Jones’s?

No, many do but some are made from paracord not leather. Others have different ends, such as dragontail whips that have a diamond shape flap on the end instead of a cracker. There are lots of different sizes and styles too, Indy’s long bull whip is only one kind of many.

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For kinksters who love getting spanked

Spanking is probably the most famous kinky activity of all, and millions of people the world over have indulged on occasion. It's generally done with a bare hand; while plenty of people also enjoy getting spanked with a paddle or other tools, this is more often referred to as 'impact play'. Spanking is sometimes used to describe striking someone with a convenient object, such as a belt or a bedroom slipper. Most commonly spanking is aimed at the buttocks, and while other fleshy areas of the body (such as the thighs, breasts or in some cases genitals) can be a lot of fun to spank it's best to stick to fleshy areas. As with all things, do a little research to make sure you're being safe and have a clear negotiation with your partner beforehand to establish what they like, what they want and which safeword they'll use.

For kinksters into flogging

Many people enjoy the sensation of flagellation, and a lot of submissives will tell you that the flogger is their preferred method of impact play. They come in an enormous range of weights and materials and can be as harsh or as sensual as you fancy. They can take a bit of getting used to from the perspective of the wielder, so it's well worth doing a little advance practice and honing your flogging technique before you begin. The gamut of floggers runs all the way from soft suede to sharp-edged leather, meaning that there's something for everyone - no matter what your preferences and pain threshold.

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