24/7

Commit to the 24/7 D/s lifestyle

Is 24/7 the same as total power exchange?

I will never be able to do 24/7 is that okay?

Commit to the 24/7 D/s lifestyle

The vast majority of people who practice BDSM keep their fun and games strictly as a part of their sex life. There's also a significant minority of practitioners who have a kinky relationship outside of the bedroom but in a relatively subtle way; their dynamic permeates many aspects of their lives and is inherently part of who they are as a couple, but you wouldn't usually know it to look at them. A few, however, practice what is known as '24/7' - a lifestyle in which they are permanently in role and permanently overtly kinky. Couples who live this way usually have rituals, modes of address and acts of service that form parts of their daily lives. It's a reasonably rare choice IRL, but a very common fantasy for many kinksters!

What is a 24/7 Ds relationship?

A lot of people on the BDSM scene only get to indulge in their play at certain times, but a small number of people keep their Dominant and submissive roles all day every day. Making them constantly dominant or submissive 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Is 24/7 the same as total power exchange?

Yes, the terms mean the same thing, to totally commit to a D/s lifestyle, all day every day.

In 24/7 can you use a safeword?

In all BDSM relationships consent is essential. So consent will have been talked about and boundaries set even in a relationship where one person is dominant in all things. There may be a contract or pre-agreed boundaries. There may not be a safeword in place but there will be a way for the sub to communicate their discomfort and their limits.

I will never be able to do 24/7 is that okay?

The vast majority of people in the BDSM community won’t have a relationship where they use D/s all the time because of the commitments of life, parenting, work, vanilla friends etc. So it’s perfectly fine to do your BDSM relationship however and whenever you want to do it. It doesn’t have to be every day all day.

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