Kamasutra

Tantric sex - an Indian practice originating from the writings of the Kama Sutra - is not usually associated with fetish or kink. In some ways it's almost its opposite: tantra focuses on gentle touch, slow movements and equal bonding. That doesn't mean that the ancient sexual arts have nothing to teach us, though! Time spent working on sensation and intimacy can do wonders for the bond between a dominant partner and their submissive, and who doesn't like the idea of achieving the fabled "hour-long orgasm"? If you're interested in a little exploration, it's worth seeking out a professional teacher. There's plenty of information available online, make sure to check out the yab yum position and the tantric chair. Finding a teacher who has learned the traditions in the traditional manner is however essential to really get the best results.

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