About me
Interested in:
I’m looking for:
- Friends
- LTR (relationship)
- BDSM Lovers
Description
Assertive yet submissive and no, that’s not a contradiction. It’s balance.
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It’s fire and softness coexisting in one body.
I will absolutely dominate you if you give me nothing to follow. Confident-ish. Intelligent. Independent. I know how to take care of myself, so am never going to blindly hand over trust or energy to a man who doesn’t deserve it.
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But if you are truthful, respectful and grounded in the way that creates safety not insecurity I will submit in the most powerful way. Not out of weakness, but out of trust. Because submission is a choice, not a default.
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I need a man who knows where he’s going. A man with purpose, with presence, with consistency. I don’t respond to control, I respond to clarity. I’m not impressed by power plays or ego. I want connection. Emotional leadership. Mutual respect.
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I will not follow a man who doesn’t value my mind, my heart, my soul. I will not shrink just to make you feel big. But I will soften, let my guard down, and become the most nurturing, loyal, and gentle woman you’ve ever known... when you make me feel safe enough to show that side.
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I don’t need a man to control me. I need a man who knows how to lead, without losing my myself in the process.
Limits
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Pseudo Dom's
Fuckboi's
People who lack awareness or respect re consent
People who lack respect re boundaries/limits
People who are rigid in their thoughts about D/s
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I wasn't going to post this, I wrote it for myself a long long time ago. It wasn't for sharing. But, given how many people/strangers feel it appropriate to comment on other people's bodies, and a recent Read more…forum topic regarding the negativity of that type of behaviour, I am. Hopefully it makes some of you stop and think before typing that comment under a photo of someone you don't know or sending that person a DM. The point being, unless you know them, you dont know why they posted that photo or how they'll respond to your comment.
As above, dont read any further if this is going to be a trigger. I'm at peace with it but I know not everyone will be. Hit the back button now.
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I’ve always hated my body. It was never thin enough, curvy enough, muscular enough, tanned enough. I was always too pale with too many freckles and an odd shaped nose.
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You might say anorexia was my solution to those physical imperfections. You might. But then you’d be falling for the same lies my ED used to tell me and I used to tell others to avoid the truth of my disease. At a time when EDs weren't really spoken about and were utterly misunderstood, it was easier to let people believe it was about being thin.
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My starvation was never about thinness, but control. If nothing else, i could control what went into my body when I didnt always have that luxury. It was about self-destruction. It was about being nothing.
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Because when you are nothing, you are left alone. I wasn’t anorexic because I wanted a body that was easy to love, but because I didn't want to be "loved".
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I didn’t want to be thin, I just didn't want to be seen. You see, once you’ve dropped below a certain weight, your body becomes less beautiful, less femimin. At least it does when you're pre-***. You become less human. You just become less. At least, that's what my ED told me.
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At my thinnest and, no longer with long hair, I had managed to remove any signs of my sexuality (as much as any ch!ld could have had at least), as if I had a magic wand that could wave trauma away. The girl who had been ***ed was gone and the person who'd been destroyed was now visible to everyone. In all of their ugliness.
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Anorexia was not an attempt to be pretty. It was an attempt to be invisible.
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The problem is, you don't become invisible. Skip a couple of meals, it's not much of a problem. It only becomes a problem when you consistently skip them over a long period of time. One day, you have enough energy to race around with your mates on your BMX, the next you're passing out on a beanbag during storytime at school. The next you're in hospital on a drip.
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ED's LIE
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Skip too many meals and it's on everyone's agenda. It's the only topic of conversation. It's a focus point. People become feeders. There is no escape. You're not invisible, you become the centre of everyone's damn attention. It's oppressive and it's more unbearable than that which you're trying to escape.
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ED's LIE
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You realise that you’re exactly the same person you were when this all began. Your trauma remains unresolved. Your self-hatred grows and, your ability to cope with it vanishes.
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Anorexia isn't the only liar though.
I lied too. Not at first, how do make sense of it and put it all into words when you're at primary sch00l?
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In time though, I lied about my weight. I lied about what I'd eaten and drunk each day. I hid behind baggy clothing because I thought it wouldnt be noticeable.
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I lied about the reason. It's easier than reliving. Easier than facing their pity. Easier than facing your own embarrassment, shame and guilt.
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The biggest lie of all though was the one I told myself because I believed that that was easier than facing the root cause head on.
I create i life i love outside of kink. People on the internet are flaky, they talk the talk but dont walk the walk, they suggest a social meet but 99% bail. If you create a life that keeps you occupied in things you enjoy, with people you enjoy being around, then it's manageable.
Sometimes the Read more… itch itches but, I never allow it or others to distract me by allowing it to disrupt my peace or interrupt my life - if a dates been set for a meet, I always have a back up plan so it doesn't affect my mood and is nothing more than disappointment.
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Same, always got the important people's backs x
There are but, the above was not a misconception. It was a demonstration of how ugly that individual is.
I dont comment on people's photo's either negatively or positively especially if I dont 'know' them. Things can be taken out of context via text only.
I'm tired of people commenting unsolicited, vile 💩 on my photo's, random dudes who i've never interacted with. I used to delete them, now I'll be Read more… leaving them up for all to see.
Your dude was worse though, did it privately in DM's, nothing more than a coward. A guy ************ in his 40's who should know better. Probably doesn't it to others too considering how many msgs he's sent.
Hopefully the Mods will actually do something about it x
You know, all of those things *should exist in any relationship regardless of title. For me, they're to be expected.
It's getting more like it by the day
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