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Gender Woman
Age 46
Status Single
Height 154cm
Body shape Curvy
Eye colour Blue
Hair colour Red
Hair length Middle
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Origin England
Zodiac sign Pisces

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Description

Assertive yet submissive and no, that’s not a contradiction. It’s balance.
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It’s fire and softness coexisting side by side.
I will absolutely dominate you if you give me nothing to follow. Confident-ish. Intelligent. Independent. I know how to take care of myself, so am never going to blindly hand over trust or energy to a man who doesn’t deserve it. My independence is how I survive the world. My submission is how I feel safe, I know the rules, the structure. It's predictable, it means that I can rest within it whilst testing the structure from time to time.
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if you are truthful, respectful and grounded in the way that creates safety, not chaos and insecurity, I will submit, not out of weakness, but out of trust. Submission is a choice, not a default/starting position.
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I require a man who knows where he’s going. A man with purpose, with presence, with consistency. I don’t and won't respond to control, I respond to clarity. I’m not impressed by power plays or ego. I want connection. Emotional leadership. Mutual respect. A D/s relationship starts with each party having equal power else, what power am I giving up when I surrender mine?
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I will not follow a man who doesn’t value my mind, my heart, my soul. I will not shrink just to make you feel big. But I will soften, let my guard down, and become the biggest cheerleader you’ve ever known. I just need to feel safe enough to show that side.
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I don’t need a man to control me. I need a man who knows how to lead, without loosing myself in the process.
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Limits

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Pseudo Dom's
Fuckboi's
People who lack awareness or respect re consent
People who lack respect re boundaries/limits
People who are rigid in their thoughts about D/s

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AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
Unclaimed, Unpraised, and Mildly Annoyed About It

Its meant as a dramatic piece more than reality. Of course I show up for myself (and others)

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icon-wio AKA_Copper created a topic in Online Munch
Unclaimed, Unpraised, and Mildly Annoyed About It
A sub without a Dom is a tragic creature, wandering the emotional plains clutching a metaphorical lead that goes nowhere. The lead drags uselessly behind them, light enough to ignore in the main, but heavy enough to feel its mocking.
The sadness is real. It settles in the chest like a weighted Read more…blanket that's forgotten its purpose and decided to stick around anyway. It presses down day after day, until breathing feels alot like effort rather than instinct.
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Decisions become impossible. Should I go to bed now? Should I drink water? Am I allowed to buy Ben and Jerry? The questions circle endlessly with no answer and no permission. No one is there to say the things that would make everything stop spinning. The silence is not peaceful, it makes the longing louder.
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What breaks them is the absence of praise. No "good job". No approving hum or growl that somehow turns any task into a life time achievement. The sub could literally find the cure for a disease and still feel hollow because no one noticed in "that" way. Compliments from friends fall flat. “You’re doing great” means absolutely nothing unless it carries a hint of ownership and warmth. Without praise, motivation wilts. Plants may get watered, but the soul does not.
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Then there’s the absence of impact, not just p@in, but its punctuation. Without it, emotions bleed into one another, unchecked and exhausting. There’s no moment of clarity, no quiet when the brain finally stops. The sub doesn’t even crave the sting anymore, just the interruption, the relief of being momentarily still. Now they just stew, trapped in their own head, drowning in feelings with nowhere to put them.
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The sub makes their own rules just to feel something then promptly breaks them out of spite. Staying up too late. Ignoring alarms. "If no one’s telling me what to do, I simply won’t". It’s not rebellion, it’s exhaustion disguised as defiance.
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The sub sighs dramatically while doing completely ordinary things. Folding laundry feels insulting. Spotify playlists spiral into emotional chaos.
Friends ask, “Are you okay?” and the answer is always, “yes,” because explaining would take too long, and no one is asking in the right way and without the right tone. No one has said "I’m proud of you" with enough weight to matter in far too long.
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Beneath the despair, the humour and the bratty edge, there is a raw truth the sub can’t escape...this isn’t just about p@in or praise alone. It’s about connection, being seen deliberately, not accidentally. The lead may be imaginary, the praise silent, the place where impact should live completely abandoned but the want remains relentless, and unbearable.

So the sub waits. Dramatically. Quietly terrified that nothing will ever arrive. Until then, they remain here, starved of affirmation, emotionally unanchored, trying to survive on irony and self-control, drinking water only because they told themselves to do so.
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Which, honestly, deserves praise. Even if they’d roll their eyes when they got it.
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AKA_Copper
AKA_Copper ➦AKA_Copper quote erbalessence:❝ Be a good girl and message me

🙄 ➦AKA_Copper quote erbalessence:❝ Be a good girl and message me

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erbalessence Be a good girl and message me Be a good girl and message me
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SerendipitousKeeper ➦SerendipitousKeeper quote OTrainer:❝I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that when there is nobody to tell you whether or not you are allowed to buy Ben and Jerry’s, do you try to resurrect the ghost of someone who used to tell you and whose character had enough presence that you can still Read more… conjure them up and feel the instruction enough to impact on your decision? Or are they too distant and weak a memory? Or is mere memory not functional; you need a current presence that you can actively turn to and receive immediate attention from? It feels like the last of those is true. And I am curious about where people feel that their locus of control is.

Your writing is always very eloquent and expressive as well as very interesting, and one of the things that keeps me interested in staying on Fet. I have SK to thank for turning me on to your writing 🙏❞For me personally, turning to something previous or remembrances of something previous wouldn’t work or help at all. I need to feel the connection and the care of the person saying, for example, “good girl”. If it’s something from a past life the connection is broken so the words mean nothing - they have to have relevance to the here and now. So even if the words are from someone I’m currently connected with/to they need to be applied to that specific situation. It’s all well and good for me to hear the words in my head or presume someone would infer “good girl” etc without them being aware of what I have/haven’t done or what instruction I’ve followed or anything the words are meaningless.
As @AKA_Copper rightly says, it’s about being deliberately seen and belonging to someone who cares enough to make sure you know you matter and are doing well x
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icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Architecture of Silence: Submissive Resistance or Lack of Depth?

Yeah a lack of proof reading annoys me when i see it at work. I'll always return it to the individual when it's clearly AI and ask that they rewrite in their own words otherwise they get deskilled in their own knowledge/skills which places us (and the individual they're working with) potentially at Read more… risk because you can bet your bottom dollar that it's got a bias somewhere which they've overlooked

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icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Architecture of Silence: Submissive Resistance or Lack of Depth?

Thank you, I will be paying more attention in future!!

AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Architecture of Silence: Submissive Resistance or Lack of Depth?

Thanks Eyem, I'd rather not spend my time interacting with something written by a robot, will take more notice in future.

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AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Architecture of Silence: Submissive Resistance or Lack of Depth?

How do you tell? I can identify when someone's used it at work because writing style/language changes and certain words they ask it to use are highlighted in bold text but not here.
Also, if this is what AI gives out, how intelligent is it actually?

AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Architecture of Silence: Submissive Resistance or Lack of Depth?

I guess it's about context isn't it.
Ghosting for x amount hours/ignoring a "direct command" isn't bratting in my view.
My thoughts are, at what point is the relationship, is there psychological safety, emotional intelligence, buy in from each individual, what's been agreed etc etc

AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper has updated the limits
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Pseudo Dom's
Fuckboi's
People who lack awareness or respect re consent
People who lack respect re boundaries/limits
People who are rigid in their thoughts about D/s
AKA_Copper
icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Case of Me vs. The Allegation of Being a “Naughty Girl"

The court has considered all submissions with due care and, having taken a firm hold of the matter, will now address the point directly.
For the avoidance of doubt, and to pre-empt any further attempts at semantic mischief, the court finds that within the context of these proceedings, “naughtiness” Read more… is not to be construed as misconduct, impropriety, or moral failing. Any such reading would betray a lack of discipline in both language and thought.
On the contrary, the court rules as follows:
“Naughtiness,” as argued and demonstrated herein, is properly understood to mean being a Good Girl, one who knows precisely when to test boundaries, when to yield, and when obedience itself becomes a form of excellence.
Such goodness may include, but is not limited to: charm deployed with intention, attentiveness sharpened by expectation, and a knowing disregard for unnecessary control that has not been expressly required. All of which falls squarely within acceptable and indeed praiseworthy conduct.
Any attempt to argue otherwise would require substantially stronger authority than has been presented, and preferably one capable of maintaining control of the room, especially, some of those wanting to add their own views on the matter.
Accordingly, the supposed admission relied upon by the Defence collapses under its own definition. What has been labeled “naughty” is, in the eyes of this court, commendable behaviour of the highest order. The Defence is, and has never been anything other than, a Good Girl. One who understands the rules well enough to bend them beautifully.
The court will enter both this definition and its judgment into the record and reminds all parties that labels alone do not determine guilt; conduct, context, and control do.
The court’s judgment is final. The case is now closed.

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icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Case of Me vs. The Allegation of Being a “Naughty Girl"

The Defence’s Rebuttal (Filed With a Smile, A Straight Back, A Tilted Chin, and Absolutely No Apology)
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Your Honour, esteemed members of the court, and the Prosecution, who are doing an admirable job by the way, the Defence would like to note, for the record, that this is not “philosophical Read more… gymnastics.”
This dynamic authority testing is performed with informed consent and excellent instincts.
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Let us proceed.
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Preliminary Objection: Authority That Cannot Be Touched Is Decorative
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The Prosecution argues as though authority is a porcelain figurine meant to be admired from a distance, never chsllenged, never questioned.
The Defence submits instead that authority within a D/s dynamic is functional, not ornamental.
If it cannot withstand pressure, teasing, delay, or sparkle-coated resistance, then what exactly is being defended here?
A rulebook?
Or a relationship?
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Rebuttal to Opening Claim: “Obedience Delayed Is Obedience Denied”
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Respectfully, no.
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It is obedience negotiated in real time.
Immediate obedience proves compliance.
Delayed obedience = chosen, returned to, reaffirmed and proves submission.
One is reflex.
The other is devotion with character and personality.
The Defence would like to remind the court that choice is not a flaw in consensual power exchange, it is the foundation.
And yes, sometimes that choice comes with commentary.
The Defence maintains that that commentary is called engagement, not insubordination.
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Exhibit A: On the So-Called “Convenient Omissions”
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Timeliness.
Consistency.
Not poking the bear “just to see.”
Your Honour, the Defence concedes these were omitted.
Not because they are unimportant,
but because they are assumed once the Dominant has proven worthy of being poked.
We do not test people who have been weighed, measured and found wanting.
We test strength.
Afterall, you don’t tug on a loose thread unless you’re confident the fabric will hold.
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Exhibit B: “Provocation with Plausible Deniability”
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Objection: loaded phrasing.
The Defence does not deny provocation.
We deny the implication that it is accidental or evasive.
We poke because we already trust the answer, that authority will respond, engage, correct, restrain, or punish as appropriate.
This is not “pressing the button anyway.”
This is confirming the button still does something.
And if it does?
Oh look, respect deepens as does trust.
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Exhibit C: Punishment as Consequence, Not Applause
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Agreed. Entirely. No notes.
But, 🙄 the Prosecution conveniently ignores the obvious:
In a D/s dynamic, punishment is communication. It says:
I noticed.
I cared enough to respond.
You still belong right here.
The Defence does not claim innocence because punishment exists.
She claims success, because the system responded exactly as designed and therefore expected.
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Exhibit D: “Identical Outcomes Are a Red Herring”
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Extra supervision?
Escalation?
A Dominant briefly questioning their life choices?
Your Honour, that is not a flaw in the system.
That is foreplay.
If the Dominant did not enjoy the dance,
the pause, the chase, the moment of “don’t make me come over there” this behaviour would have been corrected permanently.
It was not.
Therefore, the Defence submits that the detour is not inefficient.
It is intentional texture.
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Closing Statement
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The Prosecution wants obedience that is clean, quiet, and punctual.
The Defence offers submission that is alive with feeling.
The term “naughty” implies deviation from alignment.
A step outside the bond.
A fracture.
What the Defence engages in is play within the structure, not defiance of it.
Testing authority inside consent is not disobedience.
It is trust expressed sideways.
Good girls do not run.
We circle.
And always comes back to heel
Naughtiness is not rebellion, agreed.
But, it is also not mere inconvenience.
It is a love language spoken by those secure enough to test, tease, and still return, head bowed, eyes bright, waiting to be corrected.
The Defence does not claim virtue.
She claims chemistry and enjoys being a Good Girl.
And, if the court is honest, any dynamic would be dreadfully dull without her.
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The Defence, (a Good Girl, leaning back, smiling sweetly), rests.

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icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Case of Me vs. The Allegation of Being a “Naughty Girl"

The Defence does not deny moments of teasing, testing, or deliberate sparkle-coated resistance.
What she denies, firmly, respectfully, and with impeccable posture, is that these moments redefine her as a "naughty girl"

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icon-wio AKA_Copper wrote something in the forum
The Case of Me vs. The Allegation of Being a “Naughty Girl"

Thats a lot of words 4rch for someone unconvinced.
Cross exam incoming. In my own time of course.

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