:1773836465,452480, I really don't feel I've much to add to it. I'm also not sure what his regurgitated BS even had to do with the spirit of the thread, but hey ho

I could have added so much more but unfortunately had to go to work Read more… 🤣
Google is always available for anyone to actually fact check what they're spouting 🙄

:1773830467,725155, I know. But I think they also rely, to some degree or other, on not being called out and challenged by other men. If my comment gets even just one or two to reconsider their mindset, I believe it's worth it.

I Read more… appreciate your response, youre right men do need to call out other men

:1773798348,3018607, Hello, I'd like to properly debate this what you have wrote here without being nasty. I find it quite insulting for a woman to write women dont need men. Men have built this world you live in and this is the easiest in history for a woman. To remind you Read more… that women have it so much easier than men. You can have sex with no consequences by having the pill and abortions, but we can't have a say if we dont want ***. Women use the *** as weapons for either spite, *** etc. 95% of courts side with the mum. You have pro rata in the work place. Nearly all hr in the work place is geared toward women. When in public women and call men misogynistic and narcissistic when they dont even know how severe those words mean. Can accuse men of *** and *** and mens lives are ruined when most of the time it's the woman who say worse things. Because women can't physically hurt most men they go down the road of deceive and try and ruin them socially and in work. Women can make *** so much easier than men and can get access to things. Even though they do it by wrecking their chances of being a good mother and wife in the future. And it's all our fault. Social media has ruined women. The self entitlement some women have these days is horrendous. Nobody deserves anything unless they work hard for it. Women can cheat in marriage and still end up taking half and the ***. And myself im a good strong man who leads by example in life for my son of whom I've brought up myself. Worked hard and by no means an angel myself. Im a strong minded and loving man that makes his partner feel loved, safe, special, secure, sexy as much as possible. Im a man's man who makes his partner feel properly feminine. And it's reciprocated the other way. Women dont even trust other women most of the time and how are men supposed to know what you want when women let their feelings and emotions rule decision making instead of facts and being practical. Thank you. X

I’ll respond to this in the same 'respectful' spirit you asked for, by addressing the claims directly (maybe a little more educated/less biased)

1. “Men built the world
Women have it easiest now”
It’s true that historically men dominated many visible roles in infrastructure, politics, and industry. But that wasn’t because women were less capable, it was largely because women were excluded from education, property rights, voting, and professions for centuries.
At the same time, women contributed in less recognised but essential ways: raising families, unpaid labour, agriculture, healthcare, and community stability. Modern society is built by both men and women, just in different proportions depending on the era and opportunity.
Today, things are more balanced, not because women “have it easy,” but because barriers have been reduced by women.

2. “Women have no consequences for sex”
Inaccurate. Contraception and abortion reduce some risks, but they don’t remove consequences and they arent widely available to all:
Pregnancy affects women physically, emotionally and medically, more so for POC
Social stigma still exists in many places
Emotional and psychological impacts can be significant
Women still carry the majority of reproductive responsibility
Men and women simply face different risks, not zero vs. full consequences.

3. “Men have no say in parenthood”
You’re right that men don’t have the same level of control once pregnancy occurs.
However, the legal reasoning is based on bodily autonomy: pregnancy happens in a woman’s body, so the final decision legally rests there.

4. “Courts favour mothers” Why that bias existed (and sometimes still does)
The “Tender Years Doctrine” (historical foundation)
For a long time especially in the 19th and early 20th centuries courts followed something called the Tender Years Doctrine.
It assumed young *** were best cared for by their mothers
Fathers were seen primarily as financial providers, not caregivers
This created a strong default toward giving custody to mothers
Even though this doctrine has largely been replaced, its influence shaped legal culture for decades, and some of that thinking still lingers.
Traditional gender roles carried into courtrooms
For most of modern history, men worked fulltime outside the home
Women were primary caregivers
So when courts had to decide custody, they often asked:
“Who has been doing the day to day parenting?”
Because of those roles, the answer was usually the mother not necessarily because of bias in that moment, but because of how responsibilities had been divided before the separation.
Even today, this can still affect outcomes:
If one parent has been the main caregiver, courts often try to maintain that stability for the child
“Best interests of the child” can be subjective
Modern courts use a standard called “the best interests of the child.”
That sounds fair and it is in principle but in practice:
It gives judges a lot of discretion
Personal beliefs and cultural norms can influence decisions
Fathers were historically less likely to seek custody whuch is a key point that often gets overlooked.
In many cases:
Fathers did not pursue full or primary custody
Some assumed they wouldn’t win
Others prioritised financial provision over custody
So statistics showing more mothers with custody don’t always mean courts chose mothers over equally competing fathers sometimes only one parent was actively seeking it.
That said, when fathers do pursue custody, their success rates are often higher than people expect.
Courts consider:
Who can provide a stable home
Work schedules
Financial situation
Historically, men were more likely to work long hours
Women were more likely to have flexible or home based roles
That made mothers appear more “available,” which influenced custody decisions.
Family courts tend to be cautious because they’re dealing witha ch1ld’s welfare.
If there’s any uncertainty (even minor or unproven concerns), courts may lean toward:
The parent perceived as more “safe” or familiar and still thats often the primary caregiver, who is frequently the mother. It’s as simple as risk management.
Shared custody is increasingly the default
Fathers are more involved from early childhood
Courts are more aware of past biases
There’s been a shift toward:
Co-parenting arrangements
Equal parenting time where possible

5. “False accusations ruin men’s lives”
False accusations do happen yet, at the same time, most accusations are not proven false. Many cases of harassment/***/DA/SA go unreported primarily due to not being believed by priorities and other failings within the criminal justice arena. The percentage of proven false accusations is miniscule. Just because someone didn't get charged/convicted doesn't mean it was a false accusations, it means CPS didn't agree a charge because they didn't think it was in the publics interest to do so.

6. “Women manipulate socially because they can’t physically compete”
A generalisation than a fact. People regardless of gender use different forms of conflict: Some use physical aggression
Others use social or emotional tactics
These behaviours aren’t exclusive to men/women. Men also engage in reputation damage, workplace politics, and social manipulation.

7. “Women have advantages in work and HR”
There has been a push to correct past inequalities (e.g., hiring bias, pay gaps, workplace harassment). However, men still dominate many high-paying and leadership roles even in sectors heavily dominated by women such as the health and social care sector.
Workplace policies are designed to reduce legal risk, not favour one gender personally
It’s less about “favouring women” and more about trying to create fairness/protect the organisation either financially or their reputation.

8. “Social media has made women entitled”
Social media amplifies extreme behaviour on both sides. You’ll see entitled attitudes from some women, toxic or hostile attitudes from some men, the manosphere isnt a made up word.
But that’s not representative of most people. Algorithms reward outrage, not reality.

9. “Women cheat and still benefit in divorce”
Divorce outcomes usually depend on:
Assets acquired during marriage, child custody arrangements, financial dependency
Infidelity can matter legally in some places, but often the system focuses on financial fairness rather than moral judgment.
Men can and do receive fair settlements too especially when they are primary caregivers or earn less.

10. “Women are too emotional; men are more practical”
A stereotype, but research shows both men and women are emotional
They just express and process emotions differently. Men need to be emotionally intelligent. Good decision-making actually requires both emotion and logic. Too much of either alone can lead to poor outcomes.

11. Your personal point
You describe yourself as a responsible, involved father and partner. That matters a lot. Many people, men and women, are looking for exactly that kind of stability and mutual respect.
But it’s important not to project negative experiences or online narratives onto all women. Just like it wouldn’t be fair for women to assume all men are harmful or irresponsible.

:1772437513,6180068,
I 100% agree with you! How I was raised and where, women always had more rights than men did, and I have no problem with that, because they’re our equals.

Where was this?

I do love when a man tells me what it is I 'need' 🙄

Anyway.

We're now responsible for stripping the world of masculinity, who knew we were so powerful, powerful enough to strip an entire gender identity???

If a man’s definition of masculinity is dependent on women needing him, it's not Read more… masculinity, it’s anxiety over job security.
Don’t worry though, the world isn’t running out of masculinity. It’s just running out of the kind that requires applause for basic decency.

:1771794722,725155, I'll always appreciate and be thankful for a comment where somebody opens up, so I hope you don't take what I'm about to say as an attack... but this reads as though all men feel the same way (would love such a message) and use visual words over the others Read more… you mention. Maybe a little less of the potentially inflammatory generalisation?

#NOTALLMEN??? 😂🤣😂
Sorry, I couldn't resist

I dont wear a watch but im not sure I've ever felt the need or desire to actually time any intimate interactions 🤷‍♀️

"Who are you really, behind all the masks you wear?" In so many contexts/environments. Or maybe not even that directly.

This isn't an issue of gender (or any other protected characteristic). You can Google 'giving unsolicited opinions' and it's very clear why it's viewed as an issue. Its even being taught in management and leadership courses as something not to do.

It may be worth your while exploring why you feel the need to share your unsolicited opinions with others. It can often be as simple as someone feeling the need to be heard/validated.
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A way that some of us manage unsolicited opinions is to set boundaries which on a kink site is ironic no?

Actually, you did have an expectation which was not to receive the responses you did. Your expectation was to either receive a thank you of some description or to be ignored.
To write an OP about is evidence of that.
To enter a strangers inbox either to compliment or educate is unnecessary. If Read more… people want the opinion of someone else, they will ask for it, otherwise we keep them to ourselves.