How do i describe something i dont understand? I am confusing. I can be indecisive. I am pretty good at most things but always *** getting it wrong. I dont like committing to an absolute because things change all the time.

I care about the people in my life. I think I tend to put their needs ahead of my own. I like concerts, auto racing, movies.

*** are a no go for me. But I find responsible alcohol consumption acceptable.

I never really think about my limits. So what comes to mind is: I do not want to be penetrated, don't degrade me, minimal ***.
Usually I am in charge, but I also need my partner to take charge occasionally.