About me
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Description
Hii, I'm Kree. No, not like Marvel. Now that we have that out of the way 
I don't have snap, Kik, TikTok, or basically any other social media and I don't give out my number.
I don't do random, casual sex
I don't do fwb
I don't want to see unsolicited dick pics. it's an automatic no response from me. Or apparently, you can get blocked, too. Depends on you.
--There are lots of ladies who appreciate fwb and casual sex, and that's fine. But I'm not one of them, and that's fine, too. Please respect that and be upfront and you'll have my respect for it--
Being Autistic and having hyper-focused on Psychology for years (enough that I now have a BA in it) means that I can see through bullshit before you even realize you're doing it. How so, you may ask? I may have trouble reading your body language, but I sure as hell see behavioral patterns
I'm not about to judge people for their behavior, but you'll surely have to step up to meet me where I'm at if you want anything serious. Please leave me alone if you're not at least trying to heal yourself or don't have a growth mindset. Don't waste either of our time because you won't get what you want.
I write a lot. I write fiction and non-fiction. I'm an advocate for mental health. I value intelligence and transparency. I'm not a big fan of small talk, but I can have a conversation for hours about deep topics. I believe everyone should get a second chance if they've made a mistake.
My kinks and interests are there for your viewing pleasure, but I don't like talking about them to complete strangers unless we are in a group setting where we are all only sharing about ourselves/it's consensual for everyone. If you have an honest question about something and aren't just trying to get into sexting (which can be fun under the right circumstances) then I'm happy to answer.
Please don't take the tone I've used as judgmental. I do not have any place to judge others. I just know where I'm at in life and I'm choosy about who gets my personal attention.
I love to read and watch Tarot, and I'm super spiritual. I will throw a bag of my crystals at you if you make me mad (I will not, I'm just saying I have them lol). Despite the seriousness above, I love to play and be silly. I'm a middle with a lot of middle tendencies and interests. I love to push buttons and talk back to get a response. But please know I will never intentionally disrespect anyone and do expect that in return.
I am 100% available to anyone who just needs to talk to someone--if you're respectful of me.
Limits
Scat, blood, urine, animals, kids
My roles & archetype
My kinks & fetishes
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Just wanted to drop by and say you're beautiful and I am glad to be your friend!
To be honest, even the word "Shibari" is soothing to my soul lol
Please keep in mind that I only have a Bachelor's Degree right now (only lol), so everything related to this series comes from my own extensive research, therapy, discussions with mental health professionals, and personal lived experience. That being said, I am not a medical provider. I Read more…very much intend to further my education to achieve a mental health professional status.
Most of the following will be about a female with CPTSD and submissive. It can be similar for anyone, with either letter, or no letter at all.
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No doubt you’ve heard of PTSD-Post traumatic stress disorder. We see this in soldiers and people who have experienced horrific events. You think of flashbacks, outbursts, and poor emotional regulation. Soldiers returning from war differed from the day they left.
You can develop PTSD several times in your life, from separate events. Witnessing anything horrific will naturally affect you, especially if you’re in no position to help yourself, or others, or to stop it.
Some common symptoms of PTSD are:
*Reliving the event well after it is over
*Heightened states of arousal (not *that* kind)
*An array of emotions and physical reactions (like panic attacks)
*Unwanted thoughts
*Struggling with feeling safe
*Agitation, irritation, short temper
*Depression
In the early 90s, they introduced a new type of PTSD, adding a C in front of it. CPTSD stands for Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It comes from being chronically in danger and unsafe growing up. The primary caregivers could be the cause, of violence in the community, being trafficked, or growing up during wartime.
In order to be diagnosed, you must also meet the requirements for PTSD *and* the three additional symptoms: interpersonal problems, self-worth issues, and difficulty staying regulated emotionally. (Not my rule). CPTSD has been shown to take longer to treat, but just like PTSD, you *can* heal. CPTSD is a form of structured brain wiring. It affects our core beliefs because of the schemata built over time that were developed through a lens of pain and shame and helplessness. Chronic mistreatment affects our very brain chemistry.
But, neuroplasticity and all (we have the ability to change what we believe and think over time).
So, what does this have to do with BDSM? Nothing, and yet everything.
What are some of the biggest elements of BDSM? Safety. Trust. To me, allowing someone to tie me up is the biggest sign of trust and safety. I trust my safety with you enough to tie me up. I give you the one thing I have been fighting my whole life to obtain: control of me, in the most intimate and vulnerable ways.
It’s terrifying, yet I crave that feeling. Because I’m human, and I want the same things as everyone else. Love, trust, respect, an unshakable foundation to build on.
Despite my trust and basic human rights being violated every day growing up, it’s still a natural human instinct to want connection and love. It does become difficult when you realize a core wound is a general distrust of people.
I have felt the safest in my life in my Dominant’s arms. When that connection gets cultivated and cared for… My mind witnessed for the very first time that quietness that I’d only heard about. I didn’t get that from vanilla boyfriends. I’ll go more into why BDSM helps my healing, such as how impact play gives *me* control of the pain being inflicted on me. It’s therapeutic to enjoy it rather than be afraid of it.
I’m well on my journey to healing my CPTSD. In fact, I’m using current energy from a recent action that very much triggered my CPTSD to write this, taking control over my life and my reactions. *This* reaction wouldn’t be possible if it weren’t for all the steps I’ve taken. Like my Autism and BDSM posts, my hope is that I can fast forward your healing a bit, too, and just help you love yourself. We’re here to make a difference and enjoy our lives, so even though you don’t need it, I’m giving you permission to start.
What does this have to do with BDSM?
Nothing, and yet everything.
To be honest, even the word "Shibari" is soothing to my soul lol ➦kree90 quote hiddenvixen:❝This is why I really want to try shibari rope bondage I think it would be really healing❞
To be honest, even the word "Shibari" is soothing to my soul lol
When I can relate to other people, especially things I've felt for so long that no one around me would understand, it's like a weight off my chest. It impacts me much more than just reading the definition of what something is. Once we are able to remove it as a weight, we can examine it more Read more… closely, and we can fine-tune (or just toss out) our patterns and thoughts to work for our highest good.
Then it improves our quality of life once we have worked through it. I want that for other people. A lot of times people just don't know where to start.
That is a very good analogy for how our brains work. I wish we could get rid of "Neurotypical" completely because Neurodiverse already says it all.
@ThaliaVirago
My apologies, you're right. The word "all" is in there, and how could it possibly be misinterpreted when it's clear as day? This PSA was meant to be a part of my other articles, so I was writing it with the assumption that any readers would have already read the others. (I'm really Read more… good at assuming things and it being real until I catch myself--which I'm also getting really good at). With that assumption in mind, I responded more through a trigger (yay trauma) than with the thought that like…oh, shit, you’re right, the word is in there! And well, again, my apologies.
So, I have asked a mod to remove the word "all" because it's not what I think, and I will do better with making sure my writing has no extra personal filler words (all, that, just--can't promise that one--words like those.) Hopefully, they are able to, but if not, just know it isn't what I think or want other people to think soooooo everyone see this: When you have met one person with autism, you have met…one person with autism. We are all wonderfully different.
If you notice something in any of the other ones, please do bring it to my attention. Sometimes you don't know something until you know, and I do love learning. And I know what to strengthen in the next piece!
Thank you! Thank you for the support
I didn't speak for others? I have 3 whole posts that say I can only speak for myself.
Even though I feel powerful, I also feel on the same level as everyone else in the community. I don’t have to shy away because every single one of us knows we are different, and many of us enjoy “odd” pleasures. I like to think that we in the community appreciate the differences more than those who are uninvolved, but I know some of you may have different opinions.
So, I wrote them for a personal reason (isn’t it always?) but I very much intended to help others. I want others who are autistic to find community, and I want those who are not autistic to understand us better, so you can love us better, and so we can love you better.
What I hadn’t considered was the danger. The danger it posed for myself, and for other people like me. I have a hell of an intuition and I have incredible strengths in communication, even if they differ from the neurotypical’s skills. But I still wear rose-colored glasses. I am still socially naïve in a society that was not built for me. There are some individuals who are going to prey on my nature.
On our nature.
As most of you know, ASD affects how people interact with other people, communication, how we learn, and behave. ASD does not automatically mean a learning disability or an intellectual disability, but it can be comorbid. Some of the biggest commonalities we have are our social nativity, our trouble reading body language/non-verbal language, processing, and our trouble figuring out intentions.
I don’t want to give someone who intends to hurt (the bad kind) others a handbook on how to do so. I am aware of how my writing can be used to further the agendas of those who wish to take. A few weeks ago, I received a message that went with the same warnings I’d been hearing from others with Autism. Being fetishized is one thing, and it can be positive or negative in my opinion, but what this man brought into my inbox…was dangerous.
The message I received from him was a huge eye-opener. I am still learning what’s healthy, but I am an expert at spotting unhealthy people. I have a lot of experience and I’m highly blessed to have the internal compass that I do. It just made me see how much danger we can be in. Women who haven’t trained themselves to see red flags or who haven’t quite learned to think critically yet. Who takes any attention because they are just glad to have someone to interact with.
I will not stop writing, because I fully believe that people need to hear what I have to say. That people will feel understood and take a deep breath of relief. That they will finally have the blueprint to understand themselves, and it can allow their loved ones to love them better, in ways better for them. I believe this because I *had* those moments.
I have them.
We are a part of this community. Many, many of us are the submissive we’re already trying to protect. I ask that those of you who are autistic put a lot of well-thought-out energy into forming support systems, and those who are not autistic watch out for your friends. They may not see what you see right away. They may miss the clues, cues, and red flags, at the very least. We have to protect each other from our weaknesses and support each other with our strengths.
We need to make sure we’re doing everything in *our* power to have a support system. That means learning the skills to communicate with the people we’ve been afraid of (you know, everyone) and that could look like: therapy to face fears, classes or videos on how to read body language, steps to increasing your self-confidence, changing your mindset to one of growth.
If you aren’t sure of something or someone’s intention, reach out to your friends. Keep them in the loop so they can help you spot danger. Go to munches (lifestyle meet and greets) and just listen to people. Don’t move fast with anyone, and if you want to, that’s a sign to slow down more.
I can’t stop writing about it. I need others to know, to understand themselves and those around them, so that we can all be in a better place. We all deserve the highest quality of life. Our brains are complex. They are not simple. Things are not the black and white that we see, and I believe once you can identify what’s holding you back (i.e., the inability to read body language naturally) then you can improve it (i.e., watching body language videos and becoming an expert at reading people). We can improve our lives by learning, and by putting in however much effort it takes into building our support systems.
Our autism is a difference, not a disability. We need to all understand and accept that the society currently built was not built with us in mind, so we must change it.
Our community, those of us in the lifestyle, inadvertently created this society with us in mind, and that’s why we are here. That’s why I chose this as the platform to release my first writings about autism.
This community inadvertently showed me my power in every aspect of my life, and I want to share that so others can uncover their power, too.
I very frequently use the analogy of different operating systems when discussing how autistic Read more… people process things differently than allistics (non autistics). When presented that way I find it's a bit easier for people to "get" it. Anyone who's used both windows and Mac or an ios and android know how different they are yet they both get the job done.
As you mentioned everybody wants to feel accepted and loved but it’s not that straightforward, we have to work for it and sharing our unique knowledge and experiences is the perfect way to start❞
When Read more… I can relate to other people, especially things I've felt for so long that no one around me would understand, it's like a weight off my chest. It impacts me much more than just reading the definition of what something is. Once we are able to remove it as a weight, we can examine it more closely, and we can fine-tune (or just toss out) our patterns and thoughts to work for our highest good.
Then it improves our quality of life once we have worked through it. I want that for other people. A lot of times people just don't know where to start.
This feels like a challenge lol
I don't have snap, Kik, TikTok, or basically any other social media and I don't give out my number.
I don't do random, casual sex
I don't do fwb
I don't want to see unsolicited dick pics. it's an automatic no response from Read more… me. Or apparently, you can get blocked, too. Depends on you.
--There are lots of ladies who appreciate fwb and casual sex, and that's fine. But I'm not one of them, and that's fine, too. Please respect that and be upfront and you'll have my respect for it--
Being Autistic and having hyper-focused on Psychology for years (enough that I now have a BA in it) means that I can see through bullshit before you even realize you're doing it. How so, you may ask? I may have trouble reading your body language, but I sure as hell see behavioral patterns
I'm not about to judge people for their behavior, but you'll surely have to step up to meet me where I'm at if you want anything serious. Please leave me alone if you're not at least trying to heal yourself or don't have a growth mindset. Don't waste either of our time because you won't get what you want.
I write a lot. I write fiction and non-fiction. I'm an advocate for mental health. I value intelligence and transparency. I'm not a big fan of small talk, but I can have a conversation for hours about deep topics. I believe everyone should get a second chance if they've made a mistake.
My kinks and interests are there for your viewing pleasure, but I don't like talking about them to complete strangers unless we are in a group setting where we are all only sharing about ourselves/it's consensual for everyone. If you have an honest question about something and aren't just trying to get into sexting (which can be fun under the right circumstances) then I'm happy to answer.
Please don't take the tone I've used as judgmental. I do not have any place to judge others. I just know where I'm at in life and I'm choosy about who gets my personal attention.
I love to read and watch Tarot, and I'm super spiritual. I will throw a bag of my crystals at you if you make me mad (I will not, I'm just saying I have them lol). Despite the seriousness above, I love to play and be silly. I'm a middle with a lot of middle tendencies and interests. I love to push buttons and talk back to get a response. But please know I will never intentionally disrespect anyone and do expect that in return.
I am 100% available to anyone who just needs to talk to someone--if you're respectful of me.
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