I would say that your husband does not need to agree to this. I presume that in your marriage vowsyou promised to give yourself faithfully to your husband.

If he does not say thatagrees to your wish to go to this club that you mentioned or used as a sub by a dom who is discreet. That will be up to Read more… you to live by and reconcile with yourself.

Eventually your double life if you do decide to proceed will come back to haunt you

Hello.
I think that this is down to you makeme. You saying it went beyond basic play despite limits and boundaries which i presume was in place to stop this off basic play?

The betrayal? Is tough and should not reflect its the norm of all other doms we are all different.

I would suggest that if Read more… you want to take steps back to collect your thoughts look at things analytically. If you decide to come back that be excellent. If not it is understandable for your own wellbeing.

All the best

Not all Doms are like that. It is true that they are ..... that distasteful amount if people who has no concept that boundaries are to respected. If it is agreed that boundaries are bent not broken that would should be agreed by both the submissive and Dominant

I know how you feel one relationship went beyond than basic play but the breakup for what I read on what happened to you was tough and it drained me totally. Like you I thought to just leave.
In the end, I took time away I would suggest that you take time to take stock and if you do come back you Read more… come back afresh and will not be burden on what happened in the past.
Which we all learn on what happened in the past
All the best

You get fucktwats who are in kneel now brigade and think any submissives are theirs to command.
Submission is a gift. It needs to be nourished, developed, cherished

I wouldalso say stop chasing. The guy is evidently mind fucking and also being hit n cold then back again and you think what phrase are we in

I agree desires and expectations can change over time and renegotiations could take place. However in this instance Donna black and white stated in profile bodily fluids is a hard no no.
Excluding *** there are three possible types that the sub is demanding to which I am reading is not a Read more… negotiation.

If the expectations were set out before hand then you were right to kick him to the curb. Topping from bottom is unacceptable.
Beung devil's advocate if you changed the expectations then you are in the wrong for moving the goal post

Well you should not put her over your knee and make her ass red. That is called topping from the bottom.
Your sub you know what she hates but do use that as a punishment.
Or utter those words that cut through any sub