Needs advice

[ca****]

Hey y'all. Just needing some advice with what's going on in my life right now. About a week ago me and my girlfriend broke up. And honestly it's been incredibly hard. Idk what to do anymore, and knowing she's out having fun with her friends is killing me even more since l've been stuck in bed not able to eat, I barely eat or drink water anymore and the weight in my stomach and the *** in my chest is unbearable. This girl I genuinely loved with every fibre of my soul and now that she's gone idk what to do. I go to work and go through the motions but I don't have the strength to get out of bed once I'm off work. I just lay in my bed and doze in and out of sleep while I watch YouTube or a show. My self esteem, self worth and depression are at an all time low. I wanted to propose to her and honestly I don't know what l'm gonna do. Just could use some advice, thanks

[Darknightshadow]

Always date someone who likes you more than you like them. Loves a bitch don’t be one

[Deleted Member]

Well if it’s any help your self worth isn’t defined by anyone else. You are inherently worthy of love and unfortunately it seems she wasn’t the one for you for whatever reason. It’s normal to grieve the relationship but don’t get caught in a depressive cycle. Try and get out and see your friends if you can. Keep them in touch with what’s going on in your life. I’ve been there so I can say you come out better than you ever think you will

[Sp****]

I don’t want to sound like one of those people. But it’s best to get your mind right your body right and your *** right and focus on yourself. You have to remember you are a single individual and you can only control what you do. Sometimes you have to move on or realize there’s many more in this world. I was stuck in that feeling ones but the moment I traveled to a different state let alone a different country. I realize it didn’t matter.

[Deleted Member]

Unfortunately right now it’s gonna hurt but it does get easier, don’t allow yourself to wallow or obsess. Give yourself a set time to recover, I would recommend speaking to your doctor about your mental health so they can offer you the right support. Reach out to friends even if it’s online. Shower, open your window to get fresh air and make sure you eat something good for you. I hope you begin to feel less raw soon

[Le****]

In 2020 my long term boyfriend died, it might not be exactly the same thing you're going through but it is a grieving process! I still haven't dated anyone since. But I promise you eventually get comfortable with yourself and it gets so much easier. You probably won't even be messed up for that long, and I'm sure once you heal and get to a point where you're okay being alone you'll find someone who makes you forget all about her. Time heals all ❤️

[Sp****]

It really does hurt, but this is the healing process

[Deleted Member]

Take time, try to take care of yourself. Find food, take a shower, you are recovering and staying busy can help you get through the initial shock.

[un****]

If the two of you broke up and she’s out having fun she was over the relationship a long time ago. Women try to fix whatever they can while they are in the relationship and leave when they are done done. Leaving the man confused because he’s now heart broken and didn’t see it coming.
My advice. Ask a friend to come hang out or go to your parents place if you can just so you can be a bit social. It will get easier but if you drop contact from her it’s better for you

[ia****]

As shitty as it might sound, you just have to get through it, understand that it'll hurt, alot, probably for a while, but you have to push through it because in all seriousness, what other option do you have

[Le****]

Key is to distract yourself! With anything healthy you can. Go to the gym longer, start reading, start indulging in things you didn't have time for when you were in a relationship. Focus on you and growing and nurturing yourself and your interests

[do****]

You are grieving a loss in time you will be able to find your self esteem and self worth, just focus on yourself and *** yourself to eat here and there but with time things will get better and you will find someone who makes you happy again your young in shape and good looking my guy

[Richard_Dangler]

I know it sucks and it hurts, but find something that distracts your mind. A hobby, the gym, maybe see if you can work more hours or grab a second job. Keep being sociable and finding that reason to get out of bed. Think of it this way, there are 7 billion people in world, I’d reckon there’s 1000’s that are a better match for you than your ex. Just keep your head up and keep pushing forward. You’ve got this. Time heals all wounds

[Bl****]

When I was having a really tough time with a break up, I randomly found a channel on YouTube. Craig Kenneth. I like his channel a lot, and he really helps. You understand, break ups and relationships. There are other similar channels that I like like Corey Wayne. Thais Gibson and the personal development school. Getting broken up with ended up being one of the best things to ever happen to me because it showed that I had lots of problems with self-worth.

Now that ex that dumped me has come crawling back, but I’m in a new and much better relationship. I wish her well but I will be just fine without her!

[D1****]

Hey bro hope ur doing okay. If you ever wanna talk or sum or just joke around hmu. You’re gonna be good it takes awhile to get there but you’ll get there. Keep ur head up

[Deleted Member]

You are going through the grieving process, let it ride and do it on your own time. If you want to sleep, go sleep. If you want to watch videos, go do so. Keep yourself mentally and physically busy. Think, get angry and be sad for a little while. When all that's over, get up, dust yourself, and live!! Don't let nobody put you down. We all go through these things, one way or another, but you can't have the luxury to stay down!! You are so handsome and sweet looking. Tomorrow will be beautiful...♥️

[Fi****]

I went through something similar 5 years ago. Bro, I'll be the first to tell you it sucks and some days are better than others. You will get through this!

What helped me was starting a new hobby and rekindling with old friends. I took up yoga (ironic as my ex always asked me to do it with her), and I also started focusing on the things that make me happy. I love to play the drums, and I love disc golfing. Sprinkle in some video gaming, and there I was slowing putting myself back together. You'll think of her, I still think of my ex 5 years later with women in-between, but now I don't feel sorrow and devastation. It has been a mechanism for growth in my life. I have become a better person since my girl left me. I looked within and asked what negative qualities I have that I can change? Over time, I started to erase those bad thoughts and qualities. Now I feel I am a much better person. A new lady will come along for you and for me. Stay the course, homie, and get some food in your belly! Can't tell me you don't have a cronie that would smash a pizza and play some video games with you!!

[Ca****]

Let yourself heal and stay in bed until your body literally has had enough time, have friends and family drop off protein drinks to at least keep you hydrated and nourished. feel this hurt, feel the ***. You are human, but when it’s finally time (only you will know) you won’t feel better, but you’ll feel good enough to do something for yourself. And one of the things that I suggest during this entire time is getting out of journal. I know it’s super cliché. But writing out what you learned from this relationship that you didn’t know about yourself and any past relationship what made this relationship different. What were the reasons why you broke up really reflect on that reflect on what they were saying. At the end of the day, some people just aren’t compatible, blessed, and circumstances get in the way. But acceptance is the best thing. I don’t have to like this, I am sad. I feel this. But I accept this. And these are the reasons why

[bb****]

Take some
Time for you my guy. Message me if ya need anything

[my****]

Been where you are. Here is my best advice broken down into weeks. Week 1-2 podcasts, audiobooks, tv, movies, don’t give yourself a moment of silence from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed. Do NOT listen to music, none of it. Week 2-3 throw yourself into work, home projects, friends if you’ve got them. Continue to listen to audiobooks and podcasts but let the *** in now and then. It sucks, but it’s part of the process. Week 3-4 you can start listening to music, but for the love of all things great and small country music is your mortal enemy. About a month in at this point you will hurt when you see her, which is fine this is the opposite of tearing off a bandaid. So figure one month for each year you were together. Once you’ve mourned for those months you start to look around. You can’t appreciate this now, because you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel but know that it’s there. Follow these steps and you will hurt less, which is the best anyone can offer you.

[Deleted Member]

I felt the same exact way when my wife left me man. You gotta focus on other things. A hobby or somewhere with your friends on a regular basis. I still miss my wife everyday but I know I'm better off without her. Life goes on, I know heartbreak can hurt like hell but you just gotta man up and keep on keeping on. Show her you're completely fine without her. Don't give her that power over you. If she appreciated you she never would've left. Take care man! I'm here if you ever need to talk.

[Le****]

I am sorry that happened to you bro. Been there aswell. Personally I managed to snap out of it by getting myself busy. Wanted to go for a driving license so I Starr learning about it. From time to time I was using a walk in the park or go hunt some pokemon (as I am a pokemon go player). Another thing that I did was to find myself a hobby that I was enjoying doing. It is hard for now, but I know you will manage to pull it through. As a suggestion: try to do something that you like, something that you used to love, or, go and get some new experiences. Try to be a yes man and do some stuff that would take you out of your comfort zone. Keep strong my dude and make use of this me time that you have right now.

[ca****]

Seriously. thanks y’all❤️

[Th****]

If you can, redirect your mind, and keep moving forward with you girl ❤️ Your Life, Your Choice!!!

[de****]

Dude you’ll be fine, not trying to sound like a dick but she walked away. So put it into perspective, you ain’t ugly,someone else will come along. Try getting a puppy, that’ll help you out of this rut