Overcoming/recovering from sub-drop

[Wa****]

Wether you be a dominant or a submissive, whatever the role, being walked away from can be quite a traumatic experience. Personally I've had my own struggles. We all know and appreciate aftercare in our relationships that require it, but I'd like to know what or if, self help, self aftercare. How can one pick themselves back up again?!

[JB****]

You can't...you have to hold onto what you have left...or lose control and give up....no other way around it

[Wo****]

Personally, i write. I talk to people. Soak in the bath. Cry. Ride it out. It's normal.

 

[Deleted Member]

Dust off and try again? All you can really do, right?

[Br****]

Evie lupine is a really great resource on YouTube, she discusses in one of her videos sub drop and Dom drop. A lot of recommendations are creating a space for self care, comfy clothes and blankets, getting food and water. Things that help me are surrounding myself with very "normal and vanilla" things after basic care I already mentioned, such as turning on music and making myself do a small house chores

Hope this helps 👍

[ey****]

It's good to understand your own needs to pick up from sub drop

What I tend to recommend is comfort food (something sweet!) and some form of comfort/easy TV (nothing too hard to watch. a warm favourite) 

some poeple find writing their experiences helps - even if they then don't do anything with what they've written.  But also, your Dominant should still be contactable. 

[Mi****]

My sub and I broke it off, she and I are still close friends and i am thankful for that. But things are colder, now and I miss the passion, i miss feeling needed. I miss having someone to care for and nurture.

[Vandalslut]

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