The value of trust

[Lu****]

Just a few thoughts .. please comment or add !

 

TRUST … that’s what it all comes down to. 

You gotta trust someone to be true if you chat. 

You gotta trust someone if you meet. Trust that they’re serious and won’t let you down. 
Trust that they won’t complicate things. 

Trust that any meet-up goes how you want - whether some “get to know you” time or more direct. Trust that it goes at a pace you’re comfortable with and in a manner that suits. 

Trust that if things get intimate that you can rely on your boundaries being respected and even if you said no boundaries .. trust that you are always respected for your role. 

Five letters mean a whole lot more … 

… TRUST …

[Am****]

Trust is everything without that with a person I have nothing and rather be by my self

[My****]

Priceless

[qu****]

Well said

[Bl****]

Very true

[DeviantInside]

Trust is paramount in any relationship… but especially in kink. You are opening yourself up to potential harm or legal issues whether sub or Dom/me. If the trust isn’t there don’t do it. But also trust is earned.

[Deleted Member]

Trust is built up over time and shouldn't be expected right off the bat, especially when talking to strangers online. It's why I like to meet in person as soon as possible 

[Hu****]

Well Said, Fact!!!

[Deleted Member]

The importance of Trust goes up with the level of submission and/or risk.  Letting someone pretend to spank you online?  Not much trust needed.  Letting someone actually spank you at a play party with people around?  A little more, but not huge.  Submitting to someone and being *** to them privately?  More.  Being collared by someone and turning your life over to them 24/7?  Yeah, you need a lot for that.

Trust has to go both ways, too.  Just because you're the dominant doesn't mean that your submissive partner can't fuck up your life too, in all kinds of ways.

I've been living this life for a long time now with no issues, and no complaints.  I chalk most of that up to not abusing the trust that the women I've known and collared placed in me.  Being good to people is the best way to stay out of trouble in general.

[Mu****]

The Value of Trust: Some people don't know or can't even trust themselves. Now if we're talking about trust in general. Or just trust in the BDSM community?
Man I don't even know where to start with this.
SMH, let me start with those I don't trust. I can't trust an attention seeking Narcissistic Person.
I don't trust Law En***ment Narcissistic COPs police that think they are above everyone else. The so-called Gangsters with a Badge.
Ok I'm done venting:
I recently lost Trust and the only person I had left to trust. And that broke me in half. At my age I shouldn't be trying to prove my loyalty to the person that's closest to me.
I told myself that I will never trust anyone again. And then I started seeking.
I told myself 'how am I going to trust this person I don't know?", while I seek. How is she going to trust me if we ever meet?
The only thing I could say, is be as honest as you can with the person that you think you can trust. And if you're getting into a relationship, communication has to be the foundation.
Currently I seek a (F) Sub for a Dom / Sub 24/7 domestic / sexual relationship by Contract. Although there would be a contract, the sub has the option to break it and go her Merry way. The contract can be modified to accommodate each other needs and desires.
BDSM has so many different areas of practice.
The Dom is the one that fits me best, because I lived it without even knowing.
I Trust that there is a Sub out there who is willingly seeking to have Trust in me.

[Ba****]

While I agree with the sentiment of your op completely, there are a few of those that don’t rely on trust but on proper and thorough negotiation at the start. For example, if things aren’t going at a pace you’re comfortable with, use your words! For a meet to go as you hope, plan…. Trust is crucial, but you can’t leave everything up to it, you need to talk and vet and negotiate.