How to find someone ?

[mo****]

@beardydan I've had that experience too. It's absolutely terrible. I'm about over trying other dating sites because I feel like I get treated like a wallet. Sure, I love to treat my person well, but I'm not making your car/house/utility payment for you after talking online for a few days.

[be****]

Seriously you was seen a cash pig without being 1 !! That's just rude dude 😒

[wi****]

@beardydan Meanwhile someone like me who might appreciate that guy gets nothing but subs looking for Doms...

[Deleted Member]

It’s hard out here, and most aren’t honest, or they move too fast, plus I want to talk everyday, If rather someone be straight with me than lie

[tu****]

Not sure what people are doing wrong but I've met few people in real life off this app just by having normal conversations. I have better odds here than I do on other apps.

[mo****]

9 hours ago, InnocentBrat said:

It’s hard out here, and most aren’t honest, or they move too fast, plus I want to talk everyday, If rather someone be straight with me than lie

I feel like a lot of men are more desperate than confident, and it shows. Too many people are looking for something that's out of their depth, to be honest.

A lot of guys struggle with security in themselves as people, and come here looking to find that, putting on an act as if possession or control is domination, and miss the point from a foundational level. If a guy isn't in control of themselves, if they are desperate, then they aren't acting as a Dom. If they need validation of themselves as a person, then they aren't a Dom. Not saying that they couldn't get there, but they do have a ways to go, aren't there yet, and should withdraw from the space as someone seeking the responsibility of taking care of a sub until they are able to handle their own lives and responsibilities and person.

If you are a Dom, the truth is that you have to have your sh*t together, and only then should you consider the responsibility of taking on another person's cares and responsibilities. Too many men don't get that.

[mo****]

6 hours ago, tulsa620685 said:

Not sure what people are doing wrong but I've met few people in real life off this app just by having normal conversations. I have better odds here than I do on other apps.

Treating people as equals, with respect, care, thoughtfulness, and dignity, is a foreign concept to some. It's something that takes effort. Too many just want an easy lay, and then complain about it.

[Th****]

It's the luck of the draw: sometimes they'll like you, most times they won't.

[Deleted Member]

Sometimes the women have 3,000 dudes hitting up their inbox a day and you just get lost in the mix. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen. It sucks and a lot of the time if you don’t get a response it isn’t because they like you or don’t like you it’s just that they haven’t seen you. 🤷

[zu****]

Depending on what you’re looking for you’re going to find that there are very few real people here and fewer of those who are actually interested irl. The rest are women wanting you to join only fans, women wanting you to give them ***, some escorts, and a lot of scammers.

[To****]

Just be urself & don't give up or get discouraged. When it's right u will feel it I think. Be open & honest about what u want & expect.

[Ch****]

January 26, SayPerdyPls said:

Integrity, high standards, and iron clad boundaries. Also, any women with a pro model looking pic with high response rate is a scammer.

That's a bit much. I can see how many are but I find that offensive and can now understand why I get some people calling me fake. If this is how most people here feel then maybe I shouldn't show my face and replace it with something generic. Feedback appreciated.

[je****]

I thought it was an excellent question to ask I wonder the same thing and I apparently am no good at figuring out who's fake myself anyway

[Bd****]

Yeah I’m not having anyone in my area who is even interested in me

[fo****]

I think im to shy but when i do reach out to someone i get ignored it seem.

[Deleted Member]

I want a switch who has good hygiene, has ambition, silly, kind, likes crossdressing, rimming & getting pegged. Who is also around the same age as me. I'm open to a long distance relationship as well. Unfortunately, no one has met my standards. So I'm just leaving it to the Universe. Maybe someday someone might turn up.

[Deleted Member]

Thursday at 02:17 PM, Switchymoon said:

I want a switch who has good hygiene, has ambition, silly, kind, likes crossdressing, rimming & getting pegged. Who is also around the same age as me. I'm open to a long distance relationship as well. Unfortunately, no one has met my standards. So I'm just leaving it to the Universe. Maybe someday someone might turn up.

Yeah, I’ve tried the whole “leaving it to the universe” thing, and for a long time, I was comfortable being on my own. And well…I’m in my 50s and still waiting on the universe! 😒
So, I thought maybe getting on a site like this where people are a bit more open, might open some avenues, but like the OP said, I get visitors, crushes and matches, but no connections yet.

[Ge****]

Never met in person with the few I chatted with when I lived in PA, just recently moved back to OK and only 1 response so far that was just a "hi there" with even fewer I was interested in. Getting a lot of visitors and crushes but they're all 190-1200+ miles away.
So, OP, I get what you're saying. Part of the reason I'm on like 12+ other apps. LoL

[Qu****]

Queen c the first step is to find something in common, keep the communication lines open

[Qu****]

Queen c set up a date in public a mutual place. Restaurants, park, community center like a gym , theater for a movie , Starbucks for coffee. A tourist place that's interesting in your city.

[Deleted Member]

Bro. Ive been on multiple apps like this one and in all these years not once have i met someone. Most of the women are either looking for ***, sugar daddies or just attention. You're not alone and honestly walking away from these apps and just focusing on other things for awhile really helps your mental health because afterawhile dealing with trash you start to look at people differently. I regret wasting *** on nothing and i would never recommend paying unless you are 100% sure you have a real chance.

[Ge****]

Yes, a lot of apps are useless for men looking for real intentions to find or date someone as stated for most of the reasons above: looking for sugar daddies, ***, attention only, or just working you to message somewhere else to avoid being banned on that initial app. Also there's the numerous inactive profiles that you have to deal with. Can't tell you exactly how many times I've given suggestions to add a filter for log in time period. They keep telling me here that they won't because people can use the incognito feature... that's a load when the profiles that I refer to aren't subscribers hence you can't use that feature. There's apps that have lots of inactive dead profiles. It becomes frustrating to your mental health.

[Deleted Member]

100%. They also have fake profiles tp encourage people to sign up. After awhile you get tired of seeing the same people just posting selfies and never responding. Apps like this have become such a waste of time.

[ey****]

5 hours ago, Gene-polyam said:

Can't tell you exactly how many times I've given suggestions to add a filter for log in time period. They keep telling me here that they won't because people can use the incognito feature...

Pretty sure while you can't filter by login date, you can sort results by login date with a premium membership, and of course premium members can select to opt of that also

With a membership you can also tick the "show only online" checkbox

you can also tick to only show those with a paid membership, and deduction would suggest that they are more likely to be active. 

[Ge****]

Yesterday at 06:28 AM, eyemblacksheep said:

Pretty sure while you can't filter by login date, you can sort results by login date with a premium membership, and of course premium members can select to opt of that also

With a membership you can also tick the "show only online" checkbox

you can also tick to only show those with a paid membership, and deduction would suggest that they are more likely to be active. 

The point is for non-premium you can't filter login date. Point is really there are a lot of actual inactive accounts that don't getvflushed from the system as to just pump membership numbers which makes it more frustrating to find active people in areas one might live, especially smaller areas.