On DDLG's longevity

[CopperKnob]

Could we acknowledge that not all DDlg relationships involve the lg having a trauma history, and even if they do, they don't always use that relationship to 'heal' themselves. It's perfectly normal for someone to enter that relationship as nothing more than nostalgia for someone's childhood or showing vulnerability.
I find it shocking just how many armchair therapists there are on this site.
Sometimes, relationships run their course for a whole host of reasons.

[Jo****]

I agree with @CopperKnob. My last partner grew up in a normal environment, and there were no issues... She just discovered she had a kink. We grew apart because beliefs change over time, views change over time. We are much better parents than partners. Not all of them needed to be fixed, he'll i think I was the one that needed fixing at the end..lol

[Se****]

I feel the same way. Yet some seem to think its ok to sexualize littlespace, which I'm not a fan of. For me littlespace is a place I can go to heal from the days ordeals. Its also a place I like to go to feel cared for and cherished. For me littlespace is also a safe space.

[Ka****]

I have had Littles come to me to heal and then leave when they are in a better place. I look at it differently. If I can help someone get better, then it was worth it.

[Deleted Member]

What an interesting read of so many different takes on this one!

I think in my opinion, it's not specifically the dynamic that has a time limit - sometimes people come into your life when you need them, sometimes they stay and you grow together or you grow apart - that's just life x

How I see it - to trust someone with such a delicate and sensitive side to you such as your little side (whether it has "trauma" or not, because not every little is traumatised) is about building trust, acceptance and affection- which you then take forward into whatever course that relationship would naturally take x

[Ca****]

March 10, Kal-el69 said:

I have had Littles come to me to heal and then leave when they are in a better place. I look at it differently. If I can help someone get better, then it was worth it.

Amen. As sad as it can be, a little moving on is a sign that we did our job. Doesn't make it hurt less but it does feel good to occasionally hear from past littles and see them doing well in life