Disabled friendly kink

[st****]

25 minutes ago, arnhem961 said:

Any experience with tantric sex? Focusing on your breath and body may be a good thing & that's tied to Tantra a lot.

No I haven't! I should look into that!!

[GreyHog]

On 3/4/2025 at 4:55 AM, Notti_my_Fault said:

Arthritis website has some good position ideas for having sex. I’m disabled too. Before a session I tell my Dom of any areas that particularly hurt that day. During a session he regularly checks in and I say if anything isn’t working. We are looking at working on a traffic light system to use during play. Good luck

I've used the "Traffic Light" system for safe words for many years and they really help. I'm disabled, Dom, sadist. I've played with disabled submissives of and on. Patience, communication and HONEST feedback are paramount. If something hurts in a bad way, say so. If you like something, say so. If you want to try something new, say so. I know it's hard for introverts to speak up, but a patient dom will ask the questions and encourage two-way communication. Good luck in your exploration!

[Deleted Member]

Raven Kaldera wrote a series of books on disability and kink that you might find helpful:

• Kneeling in Spirit: Disabled Submissives

• Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants

• Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction
• Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

[Ne****]

Friday at 02:45 PM, Griot said:

Raven Kaldera wrote a series of books on disability and kink that you might find helpful:

• Kneeling in Spirit: Disabled Submissives

• Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants

• Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction
• Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction

I’m very interested the last one now as someone who is autistic ADHD PTSD BPD and a soft pleasure dom! I’m always scared I’m going to screw it up with my kinks or my said *** will get the best of me and limit what I can do.

[Disabledslut]

Oh I read this and related! How are things going with you? I’d love to chat 

[ju****]

I’m new to a the whole kink scene. I have a bad right knee that makes kneeling on it ***ful and trying to get up is worse. I’ve opted for blowing a man while he’s laying down. But I wonder how Doms feel about this. I’m seeking a pleasure Dom and hear that part of it is compassion.

[ar****]

5 hours ago, judois said:

I’m new to a the whole kink scene. I have a bad right knee that makes kneeling on it ***ful and trying to get up is worse. I’ve opted for blowing a man while he’s laying down. But I wonder how Doms feel about this. I’m seeking a pleasure Dom and hear that part of it is compassion.

Any good human, Dom or otherwise, will care about you and understand your situation. If they won't accept it, IMO that is a big red flag and they should be avoided.

[Gu****]

Hey, I'm also disabled (spina-bifida). With my serial partners we've always found a way to compensate. For instance I struggle with doggy position and even missionary. But there are plenty of other positions for penetrative sex. Trust me, I've found them lol.

But I also have problems with the lack of sensation. But if you have a partner who's willing to explore other options then there are lots of ways to get pleasure.

Happy to talk privately if you want to DM me. No pressure.

[Gu****]

I meant sequel partners, not serial partners. Autocorrect! Sorry.

[Gu****]

Sexual partners! It did it again lol.

[Sl****]

Stardust please keep going with hope and faith because your intentions are sincere and also necessary and vital as a human being. We all have sexual urges and so might I make some suggestions off the top of my head?

First and foremost find clarity by being diagnosed. That will open the doors for your next paths and considerations. Reach out to your doctor or therapist.
Professionals like those treating your condition can have a wealth of resources available to help you find your path to ongoing bliss.
One very important thing is to find people who will look out for you by prioritizing your joy and safety. Finding someone who’s empathetic sensitive understanding protective and communicative should be essential, what do you think? Because with everyone from those who are okay with flings, to those FWB’s as well as any partnership, we are at our most *** when engaging in adult play. You however deserve and should be insistent on someone committed to rejecting vaginal penetration, and who can be totally fine with pleasing you and understanding where your limits land.
I’m surprised that it’s hard to - wait before I finish. I get that it’s hard for you to find someone who’s empathetic sensitive can accept all of you without checking the “yellow flag” boxes because to be blunt I see so many men who are so rigid in what they want that they have blinders on to the many wonderful spirits out here who can be intimate on multiple levels as well as being wonderful companions - even as FWBs or casual friends. Holy smokes, if ppl are so laser focused on height, shape, a D cup only, no freckles, stretch marks or scars - who else is left?
Know that there are wonderful people out here, Stardust. I haven’t seen your profile but one thing that’s helped me with vanilla dating is to let your vulnerabilities shine in your profile. It’s empowering by finally saying WGAF, this IS me. Accept and embrace it not. You will get people who want to know more. All the hidden stuff is already out there. And you’ll attract more people who will have patience to learn more about you.

In the end use your intuition and filter who somehow doesn’t quite vibe with you. Trust your instincts. They’re essential to you being safe and celebrating all of who you are while making you blossom more fully in everyday life. Sorry this is so long but I hope that every sentence and thought helps.

[Charms]

Its good if you get a partner who umderstans whats going on with your body.

You can never stop researching and learning and practasing about what makes you feel good.

If you need certan equipment get it ready if possable 1st. Having to stop in the throws of pasion to get equpiment can kill the mood. 

Also sexy clothing and music may help. Also toys and if its not ***ful a masarge.

I sometimes take my meds just before sex if I know im going to be in *** after. If I waited for a day were I didnt have to deal with a medicl problem id be celerbate.

In the Netherlands some people can get help from the goverment to have sex.

I think it should be offerd by every gouverment. Just becaus a person as a disabilty does not mean they dont have needs