Deleted Member Posted December 3, 2017 Posted December 3, 2017 Hi everyone I had a very odd exchange with a member from here on another chat app. By the profile, I could tell this person was intense and when they emailed me to discuss the Dom sub dynamic further, I agreed. I'm always interested to hear views on this subject especially from those who practice it. They began by questioning my usernames and why they were all different. Then accused me of being a 'tranny'. I found this alarming. So I asked if they had been deceived before and they said yes. So I decided to allay their fear and stated I was a woman, my full name and it's origin. After asking a question about my orientation, which I didn't mind, they suggested, hypothetically, that they would make me be with another woman. I said I'm not one to be MADE to do anything and it all depends on how I'm asked. I said I'm not a fan of having orders barked at me. This person said they didn't think we were on the same page and I agreed. I stated that I figured that from the way our convo started. They got upset and used my faiths prominent figures name in vein at which point I decided to end the convo. Instead of responding, I wrote take care. I didn't want to engage this person since we clearly were not getting along. I'm saddened that I had an experience like this. I understand people have their guard up when talking to people online. I do too. But I'm polite about it. If you want to engage with people who share your interests, then you have to open yourself up a little, trust a little and be patient. My identity was questioned and mocked. My faith was mocked and used as a crude joke. And the quickness to anger was astounding. I offered info about myself to make the other feel at ease. It was used against me in a negative manner. I know a bully when I'm talking to one. I've lived with them all my life. I'm not looking to that I'm any future exchanges with people on or offline. I felt the need to share this because I know that the majority of people are not like this. I wanted to highlight how different people view the Dom sub dynamic and why it's important to make sure you keep some anonymity and don't ever submit to abuse you wouldn't take if you were face to face. Just because I'm looking for a dom, does not mean I am looking to be disrespected. I won't let this experience deter me from talking to other people online. I will trust my instincts more and not give so many second chances to people thinking they'll change their behaviour.