Do you think it’s more or less attractive when a man openly shares his sexual fantasies?

[pa****]

I've always thought it's one of the biggest turn ons to hear someone else's biggest fantasies.. especially if it's uncommon or they are afraid to tell anyone. Whenever I would start a sexual relationship I would always ask, what is the one thing you've always wanted and never gotten. And then make a point to do it, to give it to them

[Va****]

lol. Sometimes I get long paragraphs of bs on how a man wants to f**k me thinking his d**k is gold. Like boo. Ask me my hobbies before mentally r**ping me. I call this behavior fatherless behavior because clearly your father never taught you how to talk to a woman. Looking at the comments above I now know it’s fantasy pushing.

[Deleted Member]

It's fine with me as long as he doesn't lead the conversation with that. And he doesn't insist on his fantasies after I say that I'm not into them. For example; send me links to pegging videos after I tell him that I have zero interest in pegging 

[Deleted Member]

8 hours ago, AustinLong113 said:

Be careful how much you share, because the minute you write the wrong word let alone sentence you'll be blocked. Better to let them find out in person then tell them everything ahead of time.

You can't get consent for something without letting them know what you want to do beforehand. 

[Th****]

Ofc it is attractive - open communication is always sexy .

That being said if that’s your first question when you write to me we will not get far : it’s one thing to want to build a foundation for play(s) or to do kink tourism as I call it : asking about kinks without knowing if we actually want to engage with each other

[Th****]

1 hour ago, ValentineWitch2 said:

lol. Sometimes I get long paragraphs of bs on how a man wants to f**k me thinking his d**k is gold. Like boo. Ask me my hobbies before mentally r**ping me. I call this behavior fatherless behavior because clearly your father never taught you how to talk to a woman. Looking at the comments above I now know it’s fantasy pushing.

Spot on

[Th****]

I like it. Tho mostly only when it's generally mentioned and not directed at me specifically. It can be really fun to talk about other then that tho

[Ma****]

It's best to find someone u don't feel that way w. Find someone who wants to listen as much as u want to speak. Pour your heart out bro. That's my opinion.

[ma****]

Just be yourself and if it makes them uncomfortable that’s not the person for you. I like a man to tell me what they’re looking for and comfortable with. Always speak up

[No****]

A partner sharing their fantasies is absolutely more attractive. Its vulnerability and trust and those two things are extremely attractive.
Some fantasies are intense and might even be intimidating so maybe see if your partner is really at that level with you as far as interests go.
Fantasies can open up a whole new line of communication and bonding, day dream about it together, discuss scenarios and scenes…. Even in hypothetical terms, it’s intimate and playful. Just my opinion.

[Do****]

I think it's unattractive if a man just blurs it out. However, if we're in a conversation and we've led into it, that could be hot.

[Wi****]

I had a partner once who shared litterally everything with me as soon as trust was build. And no matter how dirty, or kinky, or different it has been, he let me share all mine with him. It didn't matter what, the reaction was always welcoming and accepting.

It is one of the most beautiful things I have experienced sexually. And I cannot imagine why that might be unattractive.

Of course people are different. Some people don't love to talk as much as I do. It also depends on how you say it and you need to work towards it slowly. Test if it works for you, if you have a safe space, develope trust.


Honestly, the best advice beside this is: You should always ask your partner that question. Casual date, lifetime partner, whatever - ask the person you want to tell your fantasies personally.

[Su****]

Sharing your kinks with someone, all of them will build so much trust. I once shared all of mine with someone. It didn't work out, but we understood each other on such a deep level. It was the most amazing feeling.

[Da****]

More attractive

[bu****]

Absolutely

[De****]

It's much more attractive and a turn on knowing my partners kinks so I can try to please them as much as they try for me.
If they are not open to hearing it than they are not the one that's ever going to help fill those dreams, fantasies or kinks

[No****]

I feel as if it inevitably puts a wall in place or like giving them the knife to put in your back once you know something about someone you can't unknow it and unfortunately that's when the prospective changes or at least that's what's been my experiences

[ch****]

I personally like knowing my partners kinks and being able to openly share mine with no judgment. Big turn on .

[Deleted Member]

I would personally rather discuss kinks and fantasies firstly it's a turn on and secondly you can better please your partner when all cards are on the table

[fo****]

I agree with that statement so much. Was married and we had a good sex life. So getting comfortable I had shared that I had a fantasy of getting pegged. Well, apparently that was not on her list. The derogatory words that came from her mouth and the lack of any kinda of human being in her was out the window. So….. I don’t share much if any of my personal kinks with many any more. That type of reaction ruined it for me .

[Deleted Member]

How can you know if youre sexually compatable if you don’t talk about what you really want?

[Na****]

That's to bad Fox. Terrible reaction from an adult talking about kink. I believe that men don't have fantaisies though. Men have fetish women have fantasy. Allot of the woman I know, only talk about pegging men.

[ki****]

More attractive because I am not a mind reader

[Lo****]

I always find it very attractive for a man to share his sexual fantasies

[mi****]

You're only good if they agree with what you say. The minute you use the wrong word or sentence that they don't like, it's over.