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Do you think it’s more or less attractive when a man openly shares his sexual fantasies?


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Da****
Lovely question, OP,

I think it's a question of personal preference, and taste, and consent (ask if they'd like to hear more) and where you are in your big life stages and also the little stages (just tried something new and want to talk about it more, with others who might be there)

Definitely think people,, especially in the kink world, and probably more especially women, like authenticity and vulnerability and a person speaking their truth. There's something prehistoric about it which helps to build trust, as long as its not THE reason it's being done (yuck manufactured authenticity).

Ooh, and another one is to watch the context of the sharing too. You don't want the listener to have to work out whether you're including them in the telling of your truth if they haven't agreed to play that role in that story. Yet? I feel this last one needs an 'in other words'. In other words don't use it to entice someone into a topic or thing without having done all the other ground-making stuff.

Is this of any use? Hope so. X
Re****
These were all really helpful thank you all so much 🌹
If the situation calls for it. Hearing the sexual fantasies of my future partners puts me at ease on what role will I play as a switch. It shows me an insight to who you are as a person. It also lets me know if we have a lot in common when it comes down to kink.
Bo****
I believe yo kinda need the woman to take maybe the lead..and feel us guys out..don't want to stumble over my own feet and *** them off..
Re****
Definitely depends on context and obviously what the interests are. if its brought up randomly personally I find it disrespectful. But I'm all for talking about what you're into and exploring fantasies can help so much. Like for example if I have a roleplay I want to try or vice versa I would love to have that conversation with my partner
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We want to please you too
No****
I must have my frequency on the wrong station cause most the women I've encountered say that then show something totally different
Wi****
I love when dudes are just totally open like that, personally. In pretty much any and every context, and to a really extreme degree. I don't think I believe in over-sharing or TMI. I just enjoy and appreciate people who give so much of themselves so confidently and easily.
Its more than words ....
no****
It's more about timing. If it's your individual fantasy then it's more of sharing a perspective than wanting to be a participant. If it's something they can provide when and if they feel safe exploring your fantasies either way that's a way to bond.

I also want to note that it should be something that is welcomed by all people involved. I am not saying all but not every person has an elaborate fantasy that they want to play out.

I love roleplay personally, but when someone asks what mine is they don't think it's "sexual enough" or they don't think it's something that should be a fantasy. It can be frustrating for some to share their ideas with others because of this.

No matter how mundane a fantasy is it is also good to be aware that the creation of a fantasy may not live up to your expectations, your looking for, you have built the moment up in your head for so long it's just two people trying to create something that will bring someone closer or the idea of fulfilling something in your mine.

I think it's great that you want to share but also keep in mind timing is everything.
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