Illusions of power

[Co****]

As a neurodivergent individual that struggles with hierarchy and power because I don’t think those things are real, only perceptions; stepping into spaces where the D/s games and mind fuckery is rampant can be stressful. Do I want to play sexy dress up and have clearly defined roles? Yes please. Do I believe it is in any way reality or applicable beyond that moment? absolutely not. Do I want to have to put a mask on to play this game and stay that way for days on end? No I do not. I don’t want to be anywhere that my unmasked self is not wholly welcomed and embraced and cared for. So many in kink community have been amazing and welcoming and helpful and then we’ve got the duds. Why are the duds so loud? I am a whole ass person. I am not just my quiz results or my body. I have gotten some of the most unhinged disgusting messages I have ever seen anywhere on this app, but I have also gotten some of the most thoughtful, amazing kind ones. I came to this community to help find pieces of myself and put them back in place .to research .to gain knowledge. To find friends .To perfect a persona. Tell me why you’re here I’m dying to know.

[Ta****]

Same over here. On the lookout for a fitting match for 4 years here. Instead, I've made some awesome friends. And I sometimes like the duds. In real life you can't just block them, you need to be polite to get out of possibly dangerous situations. Here I can tell them what I think about their attempts of negging. And in some cases guys even took note how traumatic an unprompted r..ape fantasy as a first message can be for oh so many of us women especially. I'm having fun, be it deep talk or derp talk

[Co****]

I love “derp talk” that’s hilarious.

[ed****]

As a fellow neurodivergent woman this is spot on. 🎯

[YoursMaybe]

i dunno. In an ideal world, everyone in kink would be emotionally intelligent. But it draws all kinds of people. And then it seems many people either lean ultra casual or take it ultra seriously. Personally, I'm more into a reg mono relationship with some power play sprinkled in on the regular. Just to spice things up. But I highly doubt I'll find that here. I just value real chemistry and connections. But I enjoy learning about D/s. In some ways, like really healthy ways, it can be healing, I think.

[Ki****]

I’m here to learn more about the lifestyle and D/s dynamics and make friends

[ge****]

Cordelia… first allow me to apologize for all rude and obnoxious comments you have received. I’m interested to know percentages, F & M.

[ge****]

Part 2. Fortunately, I have received only a handful of “nasty-grams”.

[Pe****]

As much as it sucks trying to find a partner online, it's kind of become the only way to do so. I remember when munches and play parties felt warm and inviting. Now they seem to just be a place for established cliques to meet up and they aren't inviting to unknowns or newcomers unless they want to use you for their pleasure. I'm here because making a profile and waiting for the exceedingly unlikely outcome of somebody being interested is infinitely more pleasant than sitting by myself getting glared at by people like I'm invading their territory by existing. 🥀
It's also just interesting seeing what people are discussing. The great thing about how diverse people are in thought and perception is there's almost always another way to understand things.