Speak with devotion, not default!

[da****]

I don’t call just any man “Sir.” (insert preferred honourific) My submission isn’t casual, it’s precious. I’m not kneeling at the feet of strangers or tossing around honorifics like confetti. When I say “Sir,” it’s because that man has earned it. Because he holds power over me with presence, not just penis. And when I do say it? Oh, it hits deep.
For me, as a sub, language is an intimate offering. It’s not just respect. It’s surrender, arousal, claiming. “Sir” comes from my lips when I feel the authority, not just see a capitalized username. My submission is exclusive, indulgent, and intentional.
How to Practice It:
Hold your title sacred: Save “Sir” for the one who commands more than your body, someone who reaches your mind and soul. It should feel hot, safe, and right on your tongue.
Use tone as foreplay: “Sir” whispered through a grin, moaned in obedience, or hissed with bratty defiance? Each flavour tells a story. Don’t say it flat. Say it with intent.
Let your Dom define the rules: Maybe your Dom wants it in public, maybe only in private. Maybe it's earned again and again. Make it part of the power dance, not an automatic response.
In a Dynamic:
A Dom worth that title will never need to demand “Sir” from you constantly. They'll inspire it. And when you choose to say it, when it rolls off your tongue like silk, it becomes a powerful act of devotion. It’s a title soaked in trust, not just protocol.
They may instruct when and how to use it:
> “Only say Sir when you're in your collar.”
“Only during scenes.”
“Always in texts, never out loud.”
Those rules? They sharpen the dynamic, heighten awareness, and deepen the connection.
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Example:
> He leans in, brushing his hand along your jaw, and says, “Do you understand me?”
You pause, deep breath, tingling spine, "Yes, Sir.”
You don’t say it out of habit. You say it like a promise. Like a whisper of surrender.
And the grin on his face? That dark, possessive pride? That’s the reward.
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Now Let’s Talk:
Do you use “Sir” in your dynamic? Is it a constant or a ritual? Has it ever felt wrong to use it with someone? I want to hear all of it, your preferences, your struggles, your turn-ons. Let's get real in the comments and help others understand that submission isn't about words... it's about ... It's about meaning! X

[Na****]

as a Dom, I understand where you're coming from. When my wife, who loves to sub and occasionally switch, take about calling me daddy, it's about trust in the surrender. She knows she's safe and that in in complete control. I'd I spank her, *** her, whatever, she knows I'd never take it too far and only think about myself. I'm the Dom, but she's actually in control. I'm earning the "daddy" by showing her the Dom energy in every day life, not just in the bedroom

[Ra****]

Girl I feel you a person should earn that and the word sir I don’t believe it has a sexual connotation Im very dominant but I don’t get hot by a woman crawling or worshiping me I get to my dominance by using my physical stature to ravish a woman beyond her ecstasy honestly I don’t like servitude in degrading ways because I’m all about my lady knowing who daddy is and I’m all about her being mentally strong as well I think so of us have Mismanaged the balance I don’t want a puppet i like a live fisty woman to submit to my desires and get satisfied in the same moment and that’s how it always happens for me I love to spank *** and a few other things but degrade and her fell less than naw fuck that

[Go****]

I don’t use Sir with my partner, it’s Daddy, but the same rule applies whichever it is, for me.

I’ll never use it with someone I’m not in a dynamic with (unless I call someone I know ‘kind sir’, for example), and each dynamic has different rules. With my partner, I can use it whenever I feel I want to, unless he wants a specific response to something, in which case he tells me that.

People throwing it around with wild abandon makes it easy to spot those who don’t take submission, dominance and honorifics seriously, or don’t understand it.

For me, calling someone Sir or Daddy means that I’ve earned their dominance, and they’ve earned my submission.

[SH****]

Itz hilarious wen pussy swear they are special 🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 I love wen "subs" expose themselves

[Go****]

Love that people are already telling on themselves on this post 🤣

[Ju****]

I agree

[Na****]

it's very easy to tell the actual doms from the red pilled, Andrew Tate MF who've likely never made a real women wet, let alone cum

[Na****]

I bet these guys can't even tell the difference between the male and female gaze. Thinking their unsolicited 🍆📸 counts as flirting

[zu****]

I don’t agree with all of your posts but I do love the way you think and 💯agree with this one. An honorific means nothing if it’s not willfully given by the sub. It’s empty and devoid of the respect, the trust and admiration that is so important to the relationship.

[Ge****]

Absolutely love this! Well portrayed 👏👏👏

[Gr****]

7 hours ago, danc1nqu33n said:

Has it ever felt wrong to use it with someone? I want to hear all of it, your preferences, your struggles, your turn-ons. Let's get real in the comments and help others understand that submission isn't about words... it's about ... It's about meaning! X

Yoinks ago, early in my kink explorations, I ended up playing with this young guy who had a chip on his shoulder about most women. He was the ... spiritual student / partner of a woman to whom he demurred, and therefore felt he had to dominate all other women. Not fully realizing this yet but liking him socially, when he hit me up for play I agreed.
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Like many men I've played with he assumed that he had the secret code for women and whatever he did would work. Thing is, what masochism I have is very specific to me so I don't fly immediately on endorphins very often. And he immediately told me that I was going to call him "sir" ... during a first time play session with nothing other than friendly acquaintanceship as a foundation. 

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Um. Okay ...?

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About half an hour later, coughing and with tears streaming down my face, a responded to a command with a miserable, "Yes, sir." I couldn't keep the sulk out of my voice. I detest having my gag reflex tested. Nothing fun had happened, I simply hurt and would've been happier going home. 

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I could hear the stunned shock in his voice when he next spoke, not knowing what to do with a woman he'd so obviously misjudged. He ended the play session pretty quickly after that. It was the happiest I'd been since we started.

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I've bottomed to others in the kink community since then. Indeed, I not only bear a 20 year old scarification from one, but have been pierced for an energy pull and literally set on fire by that fine person.  I'm quite willing to toss a "Howdy do, sir" their way perfectly seriously - not because I submit to them now but because I find them trustworthy, capable, appreciate their service to the local kink community and respect their service to the first nations / Native American communities and organizations they've worked with. They've never requested it of me, never demanded my respect: they're simply a lovely and evil person with whom I've clicked kinkily from time to time.

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Mr. "Young, Dumb, and Full of Cum," on the other hand, admitted to me within the past few years that his name had since ended up on an unofficial local sexual predator's list. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[SilkieOne]

Love this. I too. Use the WORD SIR. HONOURIFIC. It commands more attention than MASTER . It should be given freely and not demanded of you. My submission is the ultimate gift of trust and love.
Blessed Be

[Si****]

It works both ways when a Dom hears the word. It shows him he has earned its use. That his sub wants to surrender to him not because he says but because she desires his dominance.