Coma and age gap psychology

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4 hours ago, TaliX said:

Oh, look, a creeper thought experiment.

As somebody who got creeped on a lot by older men once, and is now creeped out by younger men looking for a milf -

The older person explicitely looking for people decades younger then them for relationships is a very sad being. Not necessarily an ***r (though oftentimes) it is someone who never matures. They are stuck. They might think they are "able to relate", so darn flexible and still hip - but no one wants them. Their ***rs see them as immature. The 20yo might not catch this - but all those 20yo's grow, expand and leave.

The kindest portrayal of this is Mr Peanutbutter in Bojack Horseman.

In reality, we shake our heads in a mixture of pity and mild disgust at Dicaprio, Musk, all those guys and some gals who do not appear any younger, but more ridiculous every day.

Bollocks, they censored "p e e r s" because of the first three letters.

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just as a further thought - obviously as others have said it's a pretty dumb hypothetical scenario - like the chances of being in a short term coma is low, long term even lower, long term being years lower again and surviving lower again

So then it asks the different question about age-gap relationships in general, which is a topic which has come up before and it generates a lot of split opinions : I think to a degree, context applies - but also a little, a lot of arguments for age-gap that I feel are counter-productive i.e. "she's legal so it's OK" which begs the question on if it would STILL be OK if the age of consent was changed - either raised and the person is now below it, or lowered which means someone currently not "age of consent" suddenly is - would guys who argue "she's 18 so it's fine" argue the same if the age was lowered 4 years about people 4 years younger?   Would they still argue it's OK if, say, their 18 year old daughter or *** etc was clearly being groomed by someone who was 30 years older than them (regardless of they were mitigating circumstances or not)

But still.  

If someone happens to be dating someone younger than them there is a slight, benefit of doubt, that is possible.  If they swing from relationship to relationship with someone frequently considerable younger than them then something may be amiss.  Say, constantly having early 20s partners and breaking up with them when they're 25.  

 

[Ra****]

16 hours ago, DenverBunny said:

People may do it, but it is HIGHLY judged. Just because it’s legal and does happen doesn’t mean it universally accepted. I find taking it the possibility of Lolita really excessive. It’s also a completely banned topic here, even if you are judging it.

I am not judging nor am I making accusations. I just think it’s worth being mindful of how certain hypothetical scenarios, even when presented innocently, can work to normalize edge-case behavior or push social boundaries in subtle ways. It’s not that the question can’t be explored, but it feels important to be thoughtful about how it’s framed and what kinds of ideas it might be softening us to, even unintentionally.

[AKA_Copper]

I find that often, these types of posts are thinly disguised efforts to determine what viewpoints others have with regards to something that society frowns upon with the intention that someone will 'own up' and validate their thinking even as ridiculous as this one is.
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Here's my 2 pence.
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In my experience, which is wholly based upon my work, there is no good that comes from relationships where the relationship started when one person is a ***ager/in their 20's and there is a 15yr or more gap.
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The younger person is often wholly reliant upon the older person and I mean for everything to the point that they cannot function without them physically or emotionally. Imagine sitting with a young person who has been separated from their partner and the only conversation you can have with them is them asking you to drive them to him, them asking you to phone them, them saying to you i want x repeatedly, sobbing and hysterical. The young person wasn't eating, wasn't taking care of their personal hygiene and wasn't taking their medication. And all the time you're trying to be empathetic knowing the physical and emotional *** they've been through but they've been groomed so thoroughly that they can't see it. It's very similar to Stockholm syndrome.
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I will always be suspicious of age gap relationships regardless as to whether I know that there will be some that are not ab☆sive particularly when the younger person was a ***ager/in their 20's
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So, for anyone with the mindset that "as long as it's legal" that has no bearing on whether it's moral or ethical.