Popular Post kree90 Posted June 3 Popular Post (edited) Some helpful tips about autistic meltdowns. What are some of your autistic tips related to meltdowns? 1. Please don't announce loudly that we are having a meltdown or on the verge of one because it makes people stare at us and makes our overwhelm worse. (This happened to me). Don’t record our meltdowns and post them on social media later (in general, don’t do this) 2. Don't try to have serious conversations after a meltdown. We probably don't have the cognitive functions after a meltdown to fairly have a conversation. 3. Asking us if we are okay repeatedly while having a meltdown makes it worse. We are not okay. 4. Meltdowns are never fun, but when they are in front of other people, it's 100 times harder to recover from for a variety of reasons. 5. Be mindful of accidentally excluding us in social events. We have probably had a lot of experience being excluded over our lives, and it can induce flight or fight, which directly leads to a meltdown. 6. Meltdowns are not always visible. It's not always panic, crying, a ton of movements, or being loud. Sometimes it's shutting down, withdrawal, and repeating behaviors. 7. Recovery periods for meltdowns differ depending on several factors. The cause of it, the intensity of it, how fast it was able to be resolved, the aftercare of one, and the amount of people around. We may say we’re fine, and mean it, but not be. We don’t always know what we’re feeling in the moment. 8. Addition to #7-We often don't process things in the moment during overwhelm and following a meltdown, so while we may say we are fine, it may only be because we either haven't processed the gravity or impact of what has happened yet, we are unable to communicate our feelings, or we are emotionally numb (or all the above). Give us space no matter what after a meltdown to regulate. Anything else just adds to it in a bad way. 9. Meltdowns are often built up through stress. The one thing that set it off may seem little to you, but I promise you it was a culmination of stressful things and that last thing just pushed us over the edge. 10. We function best when we have what I call "anchor people" when socializing. These are safe people who look out for us and often help us co regulate when things get intense. They can often be the difference between having a meltdown and not having one. Edited June 3 by kree90 clarification
Ne**** Posted June 3 Definitely don’t judge autistic people if they use stuffies or toys to help calm down for meltdowns is a tip I would share
cl**** Posted June 3 I adopted my autistic nephew 15 years ago and I think you are pretty spot on with what he’s goes through with his meltdowns
Si**** Posted June 3 One of the best things to help us in those moments, if you’re around us regularly enough to experience our meltdowns, is to talk in advance with us about what you should do to help us out in those moments. That way there’s no guess work about what to do when that moment comes
Si**** Posted June 3 8 minutes ago, Dankmojo said: Best thing is to just get away from toxic relationships asap. While autistic meltdowns can cause problems in relationships, there’s no reason to assume that a relationship is toxic just because they happen. Not to mention the fact that this is a kink community, and as a result, there are many more autistic people here than you might realize. I don’t think comments like that are conducive to this being the safe place it’s supposed to be
Lu**** Posted June 3 @kree90 First off this is a fetish site - so I checked out your profile and you look lovely and sexy. Your choice of lingerie is amazing ! Second off - despite my compliment - it emphasises that looks can be deceiving and I would never be able to tell you were autistic or suffered these meltdowns. That’s Lesson no 1 ! Lesson no 2: Your post is really insightful and helps someone like me with a pretty blunt perspective to understand. I will read it again and take this message to heart - not to stare, don’t make you the focus , don’t keep asking if you’re ok …. Further learning : I do have a question - how can I (.. or anyone) help you to come out of a meltdown ? If I am a stranger - I assume it would be don’t interfere or make a point or focus on it in any way (maybe even go away and leaving you alone might be best?)? If I am a close person ? How do I behave and what can I do ? How close, near or far should I be to make sure a person I care about is ok and has exactly what they need at that time ? Thanks again for a great post ! Luke. X Play safe. Stay safe.
Li**** Posted June 4 As a person with mental health issues and sever ptsd with panic disorder, this definitely applies to me too.
BlurryEyed Posted June 7 Wednesday at 02:08 PM, DSandes202 said: Wanna duck I'm sorry... im on the spectrum, can understand fully just what the poster is going through, and just how hard it will have been to open up so honestly. For you to reply like that.... grow a pair, apologise, turn around and walk away. Yiur words are not acceptable. The author may not have responded... but I am on her behalf. Sorry kree, I couldn't say nothing.
Ad**** Posted June 12 Thank you for sharing your experience and for modeling vulnerability and authenticity so beautifully. As we know and see, we cannot control those who choose not to be an ally or to demonstrate simple compassion and empathy. ☮️
ta**** Posted June 17 Make sure you have discussed exit strategies, time limits and nonverbal ques with your safe person before you're having to go out in a crowded place or event. Keep preferred items, music, foods, snacks, shows handy! They're life savers!
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