Change my mind, opinion please

[Bu****]

4 hours ago, CasualPlay said:

😄 conversation isn't a gift, bud. It's a skill. It can be awkward to learn, but it's not difficult. Use your words to describe your thoughts and feelings to someone who can't feel/hear/see them. They call this the information age, tragic that the more our devices can do our interacting, the less we interact ourselves. Your s***ch doesn't need to be elegant, it just needs to be respectful and genuine. That's what catches people's attention because people just aren't like that anymore. With a little effort, we can shift it back...if enough people want that...

I agree with 100% of what you said. I also consider myself a fully-functional adult .... not everyone is. My comment was geared less at the 40 yo and more to the younger crowd of 20 somethings who are just finding their way. There are a lot of shy, quiet, good hearted dudes that have yet to learn their voice - watching, praying to be noticed.

I was also kind of speaking more to the direction of the conversation and less the original question. Regardless, I get your point, and it's solid advice. Stay hydrated, have a nice day

[Em****]

Bare minimum & face photo/selfie usually means one of the many fakes on here.

[Deleted Member]

I very much agree. I guess that some people read about dismal chances online and don’t see the point of putting forth the effort, or have some wacky idea of what “be mysterious” means, but … dang.

[Bl****]

Yeah, I feel this heavy. A bare-minimum profile tells me everything I need to know: either you’re not serious, you’re hiding something, or you just want attention without effort. A profile is like your handshake in the digital world. If it’s limp, dry, and forgettable, I’m already checked out.

[Ar****]

I agree as well. If you want someone to be interested in you, you have to be willing to put yourself out there.

[Deleted Member]

Sometimes people don’t want to post a picture because of their professional lives 🤷‍♀️ this is why I don’t post a picture on my profile but more than happy to send some in a chat if somebody wants to know what I look like 🙂

[Ju****]

It's kind of annoying not knowing what to expect
I'm answering every person if it's not totally unreadable or just a hey

But if the conversation doesn't flow, I can't get them to tell me anything or they just seek sex I'll end the convo instantly

I must add, that I've applied some filters on who can contact me and I've had more good than bad experiences
But that isn't the case for most people I know

[M1****]

1000% agree. It's 2025. We're done with sus and blank profiles. Embrace your kinks and fetishes.

[va****]

I put a lot of time and effort into mine. If they can’t make a decent profile, they will not be able to create a decent scene. Huge disqualifier.

[kn****]

I agree, but at the same time feel like mine could be better. The problem is that here, if I see a vanilla looking in-depth profile, I assume they're scammers. That comes from experience. Then again people may have a huge issue if someone takes a screenshot of their kinky profile with a picture. I don't care at this point, but I did in the past.

[As****]

Some people have jobs that require more descretion. So I understand not having a lot of photos for public viewing.

[Ma****]

Yeah, bare minimum has definitely had me skip past many many profiles.
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I'm interested, I'd like to know something, and a little bit more than bare minimum. Give me something i can interact with, or ask you about, in addition to where youre at, and what your looking for.
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That being said, there is also too much.

[Lo****]

It's hard for me to criticize since mine is bare minimum for the most part. I just dont really know what to say about myself, I rarely take pics of myself and im bad at it, and I'm shy awkward and antisocial. The internet doesnt change that in me.

[Punishersfury]

For me if they don't have something in there profile that can start a convo then yes its on to the next one I don't need to know there life story however I need enough to be able to converse and if thats to much effort there a waste of time

[Alistair1974]

My experience here is that it makes little to no difference as to how much effort you put in here.

On average 80-85% of profiles I see I can't message anyway, same with my profile visitors, I can't see them.. meaning that, especially if you're looking for something specific there's very little chance of being able to contact them anyway. If it's the same ratio for women, this again decreases the chances of actually contacting someone exponentially.

It's like looking for a piece of hay in a massive stack of needles.

And then, when you do get to actually be able to message, it matters not of you type a massive missive, a spectacular soliloquy, or a marvellous monologue, 90% ignore you anyway, and 8 of the remaining 2% are usually guys pretending to be lasses.

I only come here now for the pictures lol

[dr****]

Right glad I’m not the the only one noticed that ^^ it be a few in my area I couldn’t even message or the profile is “blocked “

[My****]

As someone who’s only posted pic that doesn’t even show my full face, I would still say I agree with you for the most part. For me, and perhaps for others as well, there’s a bit of apprehension about posting a full pic on my profile. I can’t really explain the logic behind it. lol

As far as the other parts, I definitely see where you’re coming from. For me, I find it hard to not write a novel for my profile, but then condensing it is hard as well. I’m sure others struggle with that as well. Unfortunately, it’s hard to separate those from the people that aren’t willing to make an effort. Also, absolutely no description makes me wonder if it’s even a real person because I’ve run into a lot of fakes. I’ve had way too many instances of favoriting someone and then going back a day later to see that Fet has banned them.

[Ge****]

Absolutely

[St****]

I'm just lazy... So ill always have a shitty profile

[DanDanK-ink]

Agreed. Though my profile probably isn’t much to shout about. I’m not sure what it’s like from a female perspective on here, but usually a single airbrush pictures and very little info is a bot anyway. Also those that say no picture due to work etc, I’ve been on here 3 years and never seen anyone I know. Not to say there isn’t but also they are on here too 🙃.

[fu****]

It's more about profile activity for me... Some people are shy or would rather actually communicate to get to know and give details to another person. I've had amazing conversations and interactions with people that don't even have a pic posted. 😉

[Deleted Member]

It doesn't matter if they don't reply.

[bm****]

I don't have a picture because I live in a small town. Yes if someone sees my profile they have one too, however they will also tell family and friends. I am more than willing to send pictures once I have talked to someone a while. So all of this said I can't be a hypocrite and expect people to post a ton of photos or really any photo, I am more worried about empty profiles.

[Je****]

I think maybe it’s a privacy thing. Me personally I don’t care. I’ll send a message and if I don’t get one back then oh well. If anyone I know says hey what u doing on this imma ask them why my business is on Their mind.

[Ch****]

It does most people i have e found who do bare minimum are trying to sell themselves or get people to join their OF