Etiquette and Protocol

[Ta****]

22 minutes ago, TwistedTreat69 said:

@TaliX I never realized people are so open about being actual non-con predators... It should make it easier for the drone swarms to hunt them down for liquidation when the AI takes over. what is a dub premise? I'm learning there is so much I don't know 😅

For many it's just the r.ape game kink - they fantasize about it, why not send it to every women around? One might like it!
It's mostly stupid male "flirting" behaviour with no regard for consent. Literally a literal dickpic (they do write a lot about their organ).

Non-con/dub-con are genres as well as spoiler warnings in facfiction forums. Some people like to write down fantasies about movie or book characters, in a situation without consent or dubious consent.

But unlike me getting a DM and reading how someone wants to overpower me - in a fan fiction I get content warnings. Because those creative writer may also love a fictional r.ape-game. But they make sure nobody stumbles on graphic descriptions of that Kind.

[Tw****]

See, these terms messed with my head a bit. I don't like asking for consent in "the moment" (spoils the mood a little). But I ensure prior consent in text.l and safe-words are required. Is this still considered non-con or dub-con? I've known girls who liked to be "taken" after they get themselves in a state (drink/emotional) and I don't think I could go through with it if I didn't have that prior consent. It's partly the reason why I don't go out drinking much anymore...

[Tw****]

Like what is the time limit on consent. Another question that plagues my mind late at night...

[Tw****]

I liked the idea of the consent apps. But I've never met anyone who actually uses them...

[ey****]

Dubious consent would be for example asking for consent after someone is ***, or mid scene, or where there's somewhat of consequence for saying no

dubious consent wouldn't be that this was previously ok and nothing has changed to suggest otherwise 

a lot of fiction stories, however, are based on non and dubious consent

[ey****]

1 hour ago, TaliX said:

they fantasize about it, why not send it to every women around? One might like it!

that's pretty much the aim.

One of the things you also got to watch - and this does happen on this site - but I saw it on another site today also.   Writing the same story but posting it on a forum or as a status update - which then waits for the targets to say how hot it is to then use that as an in.  

[Th****]

2 hours ago, TwistedTreat69 said:

No idea how to actually reply to a specific message on here.

@ducatidaddy that's kinda brutal to hear. Sorry you two experienced that. Some people are so self obsessed in this world. Was the story at least well written? Maybe get revenge by playing out the story with each other? As a kind of snub against the sender 😅

Under the msg just hit quote abd you will reply to the message specifically

[MasterTalathian47342]

I just posted a topic about similar to this with the changes in the lifestyle.
For me I see this and similar topics to include what I wrote in a different light. I have watched the changes in the lifestyle for 40 years. I know what and why but people get offended when I speak of things. There are certain points and certain aspects that have affected the lifestyle and changed it for ever and not always for the best.

[Al****]

Experiences colour ones respect for anything !

[Ju****]

Yesterday at 03:49 PM, MasterTalathian47342 said:

I just posted a topic about similar to this with the changes in the lifestyle.
For me I see this and similar topics to include what I wrote in a different light. I have watched the changes in the lifestyle for 40 years. I know what and why but people get offended when I speak of things. There are certain points and certain aspects that have affected the lifestyle and changed it for ever and not always for the best.

As I am myself fairly new in the scene I can't speak from my experience in regards to overall change
However I've had the chance to talk with people practicing BDSM for kinda my lifetime and they agree some things have changed, admitting that they may not be able to adapt as much but still appreciate that the conversation shifted more to safety and consent over time.

Which is sadly, now talking from my experience, a concept I had to "introduce" to other people far more often than I'd liked

It's also kind of harder finding community in my opinion if you don't have conventions or like regular get togethers in your area.
I was lucky to find friends I can talk to about kink and exchange experiences
But without that, most of the information available is sometimes dangerously flawed and it makes it hard to develop a safe and established position within kink and to learn about yourself.

Maybe It's just me but this general lack of and divide in the community between "old" and "young" kinksters, does in my opinion the most, but rather unnoticed, damage

[Do****]

I don’t ever contact a submissive. I wait for them to contact me. They need to put the effort in, and it demonstrates their interest. I then ask them what they’re looking for. I would never contact a submissive and tell them what I want to do with them. It’s unsolicited!!

[Du****]

1 hour ago, DommeDelight said:

I don’t ever contact a submissive. I wait for them to contact me. They need to put the effort in, and it demonstrates their interest. I then ask them what they’re looking for. I would never contact a submissive and tell them what I want to do with them. It’s unsolicited!!

Thank you

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Hello!

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New to this app.

[Co****]

I have a hard rule that if someone has “dom” or “daddy” in their U/N, then I’m not engaging. I find the doms who dont wear a sign are the ones we get alone best with. I feel like they know their strengths and people around them can just sense that dom trait- M

[In****]

On 6/28/2025 at 8:40 PM, DommeDelight said:

I don’t ever contact a submissive. I wait for them to contact me. They need to put the effort in, and it demonstrates their interest. I then ask them what they’re looking for. I would never contact a submissive and tell them what I want to do with them. It’s unsolicited!!

This is amazing! Love this post, 100%.

 

I'm new to everything really, I've had some experience and some research, but not much. However, I'm a strong lady and I'm not naive. However, on this site, I've had so many men parade as dominants, then try emotional blackmail and attempts to *** me into showing more than I want, or taking me off-site, etc. 

 

For new people, this is scary. If we consider submissives who are desperate for love and care, they may fall into that trap. Not long ago I basically had someone try all these manipulative tactics to make me send a sexual video of myself, not naming names, but this is what it can come to. Some people may do it for praise, etc. However, it's clear a lot of people use Dominance as a way to try and get what they want with no respect for who they're doing it to.

[lo****]

Respect is everything especially to woman and subs. There must be gentleness and mindfulness and consideration of others mental and emotional well-being