Ignoring friendship requests - a 🚩?

[Se****]

3 hours ago, Aranhis said:

I usually ask first 🤔 but I don't add many people anyway (at least, not in the grand scheme of things) - for example, one friend and I added each other this past week, and we have known and been chatting to each other on here for maybe four years. Just hadn't got around to it or ever needed to.

 

I don't think it's an inherent red flag. Some people will genuinely only want to add people whom they have met in person or at the very least perhaps spoken on the phone with.

 

However that doesn't mean you're overthinking though, they aren't mutually exclusive. I absolutely believe there are people here who will not add certain other people as friends/keep such things private because they are being duplicitous and wish to minimise any possibility of various partners and potentials from finding out about one another.

You have an unfair advantage, you know the background. But either way I think your reply would have been as measured, fair and eloquent as it is anyway. 

[un****]

Don’t overthink things . You deserve mutual appreciation . A person who finds you interesting will reciprocate your actions .

[Se****]

2 hours ago, ThaliaV said:

I'm pretty sure it notifies the sender though if their request is denied. Does ot not? 

It does x

[un****]

Yes

[un****]

It definitely does

[Th****]

7 minutes ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

Let me be clear, I am aware it is a boundary and have declined many friend requests that have come from “friendly chatter”.

 These requests were not sent after “friendly chatter”.

 Further, I’m not “blaming them”, anyone is more than welcome to decline or ignore a friendship request. What I’m wondering is, given what subsequently transpired, in both cases, whether I ought to have seen it as any form of, lets not say red flag, lets say “minor warning”.

Knowing some of the background, i'd say that in certain contexts along with other factors that it's possible for it to be noteworthy. 

[BluntButBound]

9 hours ago, Zugzwang1584 said:

It's a boundary. Friendly chatter is only that. Ask the person if they want to be your friend. Instead of blaming them for a reaction to your move. A move thst most probably you never thought if it was going to be welcomed or not. Think first. In my opinion, the red flag is the person, unfortunately you in this case, who requests my friendship without asking me if I want to move the chatter to the next level.

It's a friend request. You're acting as if she violated this person by wanting to be friends here officially. She isn't a red flag at all, I'd be flattered if I had been talking to someone and they wanted to friend me. I won't be like "OMG this person has no boundaries" 🤣 get a grip.

[BluntButBound]

You had prior conversation with this person & you thought it was going well so you sent a friend request. You've done nothing wrong, some people are just offended by everything. You aren't a red flag.

Rejection and acceptance is a part of life and unfortunately not everyone will want to be your friend but that's ok because when you've found your people, you'll be thankful 🫶🏿

[gi****]

People seem to ignore most messages. I wouldn't be surprised about someone ignoring friend requests.

[Ta****]

I only accept friend requests by people I really know in and out. Don't care how other people do it. But my friends here are people who accept boundaries and would never harm anyone.
While people I flirt with or just chat with about some common interests - they might be totally unhinged. I've had some nasty experiences with people who seemed nice at first, then gave stalker vibes. Or I just learned to dislike them and wouldn't want to stay in contact or be associated with them.
I know other people gather online friends like Pokemons. But my online friends are people I'd vouch for.

[ey****]

13 hours ago, giffordge said:

People seem to ignore most messages. I wouldn't be surprised about someone ignoring friend requests.

or people just ignoring what the OP actually wrote.