Sharing fantasies

[Subprincess82]

So.. someone had a tantrum at me because he asked me to tell him my deep fantasies and I said no (how dare i) does anyone else only share their deep mind, down the line when there is an actual connection and not just to every Todge, Dick and Horny? Or am I weird?

[Ki****]

If there is an actual connection, then I wouldn't mind sharing my deep fantasies, especially if we've been chatting for a while, but I won't share them right from the start

[Deleted Member]

I’m finding all that many want is sexting & nudes. 😔

[Mr****]

I don't blame you I wait for the right person and moment 💗

[Do****]

I share what i feel like sharing, when I feel like sharing it... you want to be a 2 year old tantrum baby... than you are not worth my time... you are not weird... it's your choice to share or not!

[bi****]

When you're comfortable, I consent for you to tell me your deepest fantasies.

[No****]

If it’s something you don’t want to then that is totally fine. I’ve shared too much early on then regretted it. Do what is right for you

[davison40148]

My deep fantasy so to say I would not share with all of you at all that's something I would share with someone once I feel comfortable with them and trust them .them getting upset because you didn't tell them is shame on them and you don't want to be with that human

[Do****]

Personally, I like to hear deep fantasies early on. It tells me a lot about the person. Now, if they dont feel comfortable sharing them? I'm not going to be upset over it. Some ppl want to wait, or not share them.

[Co****]

I've been with people for years and never shared fantasies of mine. Your fantasies are yours till you give them to someone, that someone should feel special and it wouldn't be special if you gave that out lightly.

[GreyHog]

Only share what you are comfortable with, regardless of who or what is involved.

[Subprincess82]

11 minutes ago, davison40148 said:

My deep fantasy so to say I would not share with all of you at all that's something I would share with someone once I feel comfortable with them and trust them .them getting upset because you didn't tell them is shame on them and you don't want to be with that human

Exactly that. This guy I'd spoken to a handful of times.. I'll talk kinks all day long.. but not everyone gets a ticket to my mind

[ta****]

Sounds weird to ask that if you don't know the person we'll. Red flag to throw a tantrum. Guys giving off some weird vibes

[Thenewguy-1900]

Good points

[davison40148]

9 minutes ago, Subprincess82 said:

Exactly that. This guy I'd spoken to a handful of times.. I'll talk kinks all day long.. but not everyone gets a ticket to my mind

Kinks and fantasies are two different subjects to me

[Deleted Member]

I never share anything until a foundation is built in the relationship. Those things are meant to be shared with the person you are in a relationship or dynamic with, no one else!

[Deleted Member]

Ew, that would give me the ick so much. EQ sounds super low—who throws a tantrum over someone laying down a boundary with an almost stranger?

[je****]

Oof yeah, doesn’t sound like there is much respect there. For me, that is usually reserved for once trust is established.

[Ji****]

Respecting boundaries is crucial for the vetting process

[Deleted Member]

You have every right to be turned off by that.

[Ke****]

I see no point in sexting and sharing nudes. There is a lack of immediate feedback on the passions you try to release via sexting. No sense of touch in sexting, which is essential for real in-person love making. No sense of aroma or taste either. Your sense of hearing and sight become muted and distorted via video chat, and it never measures up to the real in-person making of love. You need to start with becoming friends first with or without plans of sex in the future and shared real experiences that aren't sexual at first.

Sharing fantasies as friends can really open up your relationship in sexual ways that strenthen it. You can start with a strong emotional and spirtual connection that will survive any sexual issues that come up. Don't think you have to become friends or lovers and have a single lover; That is a consequence of the strong religious and societal influences caused by depending on a single person for romantic support aka monogamy.

[Th****]

Someone doesn’t understand boundaries. You share your utmost thoughts and anything with those you choose to. You own nobody and explanation.

[bo****]

You're perfectly normal and he is a child.

[Bl****]

You're both ***. Saying no is and was fine, tactfully you could've just ended the conversation or answered any other way. This reassurance seeking makes your boundary seem insecure. Throwing tantrums because people won't lay themselves bare to you without some fluffing is childish as well.

[Ra****]

Not today FBI!