Sharing fantasies

[Th****]

You don't owe anyone, anything. If they throw a fit it's just proof you made the right choice.

[Deleted Member]

I’d rather share fantasies when I’m connected with someone well enough. Doing it without knowing you well enough is like blindly eating one of those “red pill blue pill” different flavored jelly beans from 2015

[Deleted Member]

You are NOT weird

[W1****]

Your fantasies are yours. Someone who thinks their entitled to them is not worth your time.

[Re****]

You're good. Neither of us ever shared every fantasy with even everyone we slept with.

[Seuss-MD]

Either way, that person should respect your boundaries. It's not a matter of difference in perspective. It's a matter of disrespect.

[lu****]

I feel ya on that, you're not in the wrong. I will acknowledge I tend to put out what I'm not okay with to try to lesson those situations, but if the other person don't share, that's only fair. This isn't tinder, no one is obligated to meet/hang with/fuck whoever gets the benefit of reply, I'm glad I can say most conversation on here has actually been mutually beneficial and plutonic, I swear some people just want to see who's easy for them

[ki****]

For some people fantasies are intimate, and only to be shared with an intimate partner, which usually means time, effort, and patience has been paid to develop the relationship. If the person doesn’t understand this, they aren’t capable of having a mature and intimate relationship.

[lu****]

Amen

[ki****]

For some people, it just depends on how chatty they are and comfortable sharing stuff. My current partner early on told me about a lot of fantasies. They had, a good chunk of which they no longer have and would rather not hear. I suppose kind of depends on somebody's headspace a little bit and the person

[Subprincess82]

I think, to be honest, it's less about it being fantasies and more that I had a boundary and a guy who claimed to be a Dom, told me that I was wrong for not divulging the info he had asked for.. the rush to "be in control" rather than the beauty of growth, trust and being gifted the control

[Subprincess82]

2 hours ago, BlackGrassland said:

You're both ***. Saying no is and was fine, tactfully you could've just ended the conversation or answered any other way. This reassurance seeking makes your boundary seem insecure. Throwing tantrums because people won't lay themselves bare to you without some fluffing is childish as well.

My boundaries are secure thanks

[Tw****]

I agree it's supposed to be a growth thing. If you get to your destination without viewing the beauty of the trip, then how can you enjoy the destination? I also think that should be volunteered by the other party not demanded by the one asking. It's just unbecoming in my opinion.

[Pr****]

That information is definitely earned I've had many so called " Doms " say the same thing to me and honestly at that point I just don't even give them my attention anymore because if your really soo rushed on wanting to know things like that how do I know that I can trust you when it comes down to the actions or in general

[Tw****]

1 minute ago, Princess_Gigixo said:

That information is definitely earned I've had many so called " Doms " say the same thing to me and honestly at that point I just don't even give them my attention anymore because if your really soo rushed on wanting to know things like that how do I know that I can trust you when it comes down to the actions or in general

Exactly.

[ki****]

The first times the best… I’d spend a week playing and finding out.. fantasies are just that till you make them real

[Subprincess82]

9 minutes ago, Princess_Gigixo said:

That information is definitely earned I've had many so called " Doms " say the same thing to me and honestly at that point I just don't even give them my attention anymore because if your really soo rushed on wanting to know things like that how do I know that I can trust you when it comes down to the actions or in general

Same. I'm secure enough to say no and disengage.. but I know that some others aren't and feel pressured into doing something they don't feel comfortable with just to please a "dom"

[Tw****]

5 minutes ago, Subprincess82 said:

Same. I'm secure enough to say no and disengage.. but I know that some others aren't and feel pressured into doing something they don't feel comfortable with just to please a "dom"

So question from a noob, but in my opinion the dom should want to take care of his sub in all regards. I mean if she's not happy then she has the option to leave, and I personally dont think any respectable wo/man would want that. I would think it would 1 make them feel bad and 2 make them look bad.

[Du****]

You’re correct, you share when you choose to, when you’re comfortable, and not before. Some people on here might not mind sharing intimate details from the start, but that’s up to them (and that’s fine too, if both parties agree).
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What’s absurd is the tantrum, and it happens constantly! Ranting that “it’s a sex site, what do I expect”? In my case it’s even in my profile: don’t say “hey”, don’t send pics, and don’t start off with sexual suggestions. If they ignore it, well, what do *they* expect? 🤣

[Subprincess82]

13 minutes ago, DuchessFeuille said:

You’re correct, you share when you choose to, when you’re comfortable, and not before. Some people on here might not mind sharing intimate details from the start, but that’s up to them (and that’s fine too, if both parties agree).
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What’s absurd is the tantrum, and it happens constantly! Ranting that “it’s a sex site, what do I expect”? In my case it’s even in my profile: don’t say “hey”, don’t send pics, and don’t start off with sexual suggestions. If they ignore it, well, what do *they* expect? 🤣

You are here for their gratification. How dare you have standards 🙈🤣

[Deleted Member]

That’s not right throwing a tantrum like a baby or when a spoilt child doesn’t get their way. I think you dodged a bullet there tbh. You need to a build a connection first even I know that before you even ask about that kinda stuff.

[Ca****]

As a man who's worked in the restaurant industry for years, I've seen a lot of men get triggered by the word no. I've personally turned down plenty of women's advances and had similar reactions. Actually my *** had a friend in Elementary school who carried a grudge against me all the way through highschool just because I wasn't interested in sex at the ripe old age of 8? 😆

[Ca****]

There was also the fact that I simply had a crush on another girl.

[Expert_DaddyDom]

Without knowing the full background, it is difficult to fault either party. Throwing a tantrum isn't what a do does, because he has self control, but equally many just waste men's time or act bitchy, bratty so the man has to respect his boundaries and put them in their place. Many women just don't have a clue, despite disasters and not being a ***ager or in 20s. Of course hungry losers will bend over backwards but real men don't put up with silliness, they call it out, and then leave.

[Br****]

Not weird at all, even i do the same. Guys randomly come and jam my dms to know about my kinks and fantasies out of nowhere, which is obviously weird...and I don't have to open up to each and everyone. Also doms should know that we are not their subs the moment they text us...that's not how it works. You're my dom only when I accept you to be. Till then I am an individual and I so have the right to say no to you.