Is kink identity fixed or fluid? Can it change over time?”

[Pa****]

I’ve been thinking a lot about how kink identities form and evolve. Some people discover a dynamic or role (Dom, sub, switch, etc.) and stick with it for life. Others seem to shift or expand their preferences over time.

[PL****]

My kink has shifted over time as I've explored and found new things i like

[To****]

I think it evolves, ive always been dominant but I have a very strong desire to serve and be used. I've been looking for a mistress for a couple years now

[x2****]

Oh its definitely fluid if you want it to be

[Deleted Member]

How to say fluid

[Ja****]

It’s very interesting and linked to multiple parts of the brain. I know that hormones can definitely affect it. I’m trans (ftm) but I’m on hormone therapy + had surgery. The hormone change affected my kinks.

Before I took on testosterone, I was strictly attracted to women and generally more dominant.

Now, I’m very submissive, bi-curious, and more open to things I wouldn’t have tried before (like anal—I think this is because T causes prostate tissue development).

Despite this, my attraction and major fetishes/kinks remained relatively unchanged. I think it’s also ironic that testosterone (the hormone associated with aggression and dominance) shifted me to be more submissive. I think it’s because chemical changes in the brain are complex, multifaceted, and generally understudied.

But people are also more than chemicals! So as we mature and experience different things in our environment, I think that can affect it, too. Some people are more susceptible to change than others.

I think it’s very interesting and could be explored more!

[st****]

You can BDSM any way you darn please 🩷. Just always keep in mind to learn about different aspects and not assume you know what you're calling yourself without an understanding of what you are portraying and dynamics of people compatible with you or what you decide to call yourself. And keep safety and consent in your mind. Have a good time 🩷

[Deleted Member]

I'd say the more you learn the more you change/evolve! Like a hound dog explore your nose!! 😁

[Deleted Member]

You either stay in the game long enough to become a switch or you leave before you experience both sides.

[Deleted Member]

I thought I was mostly vanilla until a few years ago. Now my kinks just keep growing and I no longer care about regular sex

[hu****]

Fluid.

[St****]

Was a strick DOM, now I don’t mind to be a switch for someone who can do both as well. Beautiful chemistry Beautiful synergy 🔥

[bb****]

sexuality can 100% evolve qns shape shift over time

[Dr****]

You can start as one thing, and add you explore, you can change over time.
I typically tell people to take the BDSM test
First time, do the long one, get a bar idea... as you explore, take the shorter one and see how much you change over time.
What you think you like and what you learn through exploration can cause your ideas to change. It's ever evolving.
I have had a few friends who were subs. They tried to top(with guidance from a Dom) and realized they were switches.
After years of being submissive, they never thought about it, but after the first time, it opened their eyes, and they focused on learning more.
It's definitely ok to change your style or role.

[bb****]

sexual preferences can 100% evolve over time!

[MasterTalathian47342]

Identify in the lifestyle is fluid based on what a person wants. It can be fixed if you choose but freewill gives the choices of change. You can for back and forth as you decide or become a switch so you can flip whenever you wish instead of being one or the other.

[du****]

It can very much change overtime. Sometimes you feel like something is a fixed kink, but once satisfied enough overtime, those kinks can start to shift. Something my partner and I have experienced.
Your kink profile is all about your preferences. Those preferences can change for sure

[Ha****]

I’m currently exploring my Domme side after resisting it for a long time. It feels like both an evolution and a discovery; something that’s been unfolding naturally over years without me fully naming it until now.

[Ju****]

It definitely is fluid over time.

[al****]

Deviant behavior, like all conscious behaviors, blossoms through trial and error. It's not fixed unless the end goal has been reached and perfected. Which means the gratification at the end has lost its heightened sensation, or thrill.

[Co****]

The more you learn, the more you can incorporate, sometimes it depends on the people involved, good experiences vs bad, and a whole lot. You get out what you put in 🤷

[Da****]

I personally take a bdsm test every six months or so just to see where my heads is at kink wise. It changes and evolves over time and different relationships

[Ro****]

Even within a role it can still evolve and should continue to do so.
With that said, while I have taken the role of a submissive, there are many ways to be in that role.

[Ce****]

I think it depends on the person I know for me personally it’s fluid I have expanded some kinds into my repertoire and some I kind let stand or don’t do as much

[le****]

Nothing is fixed, it might affix until its found feeling then always is never fixed but an illusion of gratitude and false being..,. Everything changes.