How long did you have to wait to find someone compatible enough?

[sp****]

Did you have any false start where you thought you found someone on your level, but then realized you weren't before you met them?
Or did you go through with it anyways and just accept you weren't gonna have a full connection and met up anyways?

Just curious about the moment just before people seal the deal. I'm sure there are many other ways things can go and i m just curious about it

[Openmindsgoodtimes]

if they can make you laugh, there's a decent chance you'll have a good night with them. Make sure they're safe first and then go into it without big expectations and just have fun, then if the rest happens it just happens

[bi****]

Not long at all….ironically I found my person the day I joined on here

[Da****]

Sex is cool and all but have you had someone listen to you geek out about your passions? Thats what really gets me going usually within the first three days i'll know

[Jo****]

Sometimes you just go for it! Has worked out well for me

[Do****]

Yep, happened to me just this past weekend. Chatting online is one thing, being face-to-face is another. We didn't "seal the deal" it was more like a test. There was a nice high that lasted a good chunk of the day for me, but the bruises that showed up the following day wasn't as appealing. We tried talking a bit more but ultimately went our separate ways

[no****]

We had the perfect DDLG dynamic in the beginning, and I thought I'd met ' the one' was pretty serious. We connected on every level, including in everyday life, even to the point of moving in together. There were red flags, but I let my guard down and decided( it seems foolishly) to ignore them, putting them down to it being a relatively new relationship. I'd waited years to find someone like her so a few niggles were fine with me. Things were going well, met her family and some of her friends. Was actually going to make an honest woman of her, but alas, it was not to be. Outside influences made sure we were ***d apart . I say 'outside' more to the point that it was her family putting pressure on her due to the age gap between us. Suffice to say, they put pressure on her to end things, or she would be cut off from her family. As much as it hurt, I made the decision to end it. There was no point continuing if she wasn't willing to fight for what we had. In hindsight, we should have kept it as the DDLG dynamic and not entered into a full-on relationship, things could have been different. The moral of the tale is to choose your play partner carefully, define the rules and stick to them. That way you can never get hurt and dont have to lose a good friend because of feelings.

[Sc****]

I've had many false starts

[An****]

I've had full blown connections and start to catch feelings through the phone conversations and when its time to meet, I dont feel anything. Not sure why.

[Deleted Member]

I mean I’m pretty sure it’s been over a decade, lol. I’m not real popular.

[Da****]

10 minutes ago, Angel39 said:

I've had full blown connections and start to catch feelings through the phone conversations and when its time to meet, I dont feel anything. Not sure why.

This loterally happened to me this past weekend. She told me "i dont feel any sparks"

[Laycette]

Previously it was pretty easy. Now being much further along and fishing in a smaller pond for something specific, the search is difficult and long.

[mo****]

I make connections and then i get scared of meeting someone

[Ac****]

I feel like that all stems from mutual respect.. yes it maybe a dom/sub but that doesn't mean I shouldn't value your time and honesty. I think that communication and being open is important. Even if it's a meet up to see if you are compatible, be confident enough in yourself to be able to say "no, this is not a good fit for me." Don't waste yours or their time if you can avoid it

[To****]

I thought i met the perfect sub. Ghosted me 🤧

[tu****]

It's happen to me so many times more then 60 times from ATL TO MS TO TUC AND SOME In between. If you stay with this as long as I have get more active go to Munches. You learn how to see the one who ain't ready yet and who are...

[Deleted Member]

Nobody has made it through a very simple vetting process in 6 years. ☠️

[Ma****]

I think meeting someone on your same level—whatever that may mean, or be—is very unlikely. That is why it is a story/fantasy. Because it would be soooo amazing, if it was so easy.
.
You meet people wherever they are. But you decide if their vibe/persoanilty/quirks are a good fit, and you can build something. Quite likely you will be further a long in one skill/kink/experience, and they in another.
.
But you decide if the personal connection is solid, and good, and if you feel like you mesh well. Because on that, you can get build and both get to a similar level—of whatever you're pursuing.

[Toni-2380]

Thought I found the one, a little younger but not much. We hit it off immediately. Our kinks aligned like the stars, then he went on vacation and started ghosting me, when he came back. I really miss our talks and connection but it was not ment to be. So I cut my losses. We could of been great together. Now looking for someone who hits the right buttons. Am having alot of fun trying to find that connection again....

[Deleted Member]

The real issue is finding a woman who will actually follow through with what she says and will actually meet. I've found that every single one of them talk a big game until it comes time to meet and then they all seem to dissappear into thin air never to be heard from again.

[Be****]

Some people are hesitant of real connections but that shouldn’t stop everyone from trying. But also some people just want instant satisfaction and there’s nothing wrong with that either.

[ph****]

I agree @Berrybabe99. In the past 2 years I’ve found kink compatible but not vanilla compatible, and vice versa. I’m holding out for both (or at least a pretty good balance). Sometimes I feel picky but I think picking the right partner is important. In the meantime I’m down to play with people and see where things go.

[Strait8jacket]

I’ve found some kink compatible people to play with. I’m an experienced impact bottom. It’s nice to find someone to be at my level. Relationship wise, it’s been rough. So I’m just waiting, to meet that right person that fits the role.

[De****]

Met one years ago was going good but ended up breaking up with her because she was wrapped her toxic mother's finger too much. Haven't been in a relationship since then as I seen too many fake people.

[wp****]

Unfortunately my last experience here was a scammer