Deleted Member Posted August 30 I entered my first Dom/sub dynamic about 6 months ago and it has been quite the experience. There is so much work and emotional labor that goes into building this type of relationship that I often find myself venting to my Dom about things I’m struggling with for extended periods of time. He does his best to listen and be understand but it can be exhausting for him. None of my friends know about our dynamic and I wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing with them at this point. I’m not opposed to therapy but finding a kink friendly therapist is a completely different challenge. How do you build a kink friendly community to share and talk to about all these new experiences?
ja**** Posted August 30 Fortunately there is few people here are willing to help and support each other as a community it’s either with previous experiences or just listening, unfortunately there is a lot of people here just for the sex. I’d say vent and see how people react, they might surprise you in both ways
Ka**** Posted August 30 12 minutes ago, hiramcouple said: There is a site that showed kink friendly and kink active therapists. Hello do you remember the site please?
Deleted Member Posted August 30 Author Real community isn’t something you stumble into...it’s something you weave. It starts with resonance: those rare moments when someone’s words land in your chest and hum back. Follow those threads. The ones that feel aligned. The ones that feel steady. The ones that invite you to breathe deeper instead of perform louder. The kink world can be noisy...full of people posturing, chasing attention, curating an image. But the spaces where real growth happens? They’re quieter. More intentional. They feel like exhale. Build your circle the way you’d build trust in a D/s dynamic: slowly, deliberately, with presence. Don’t chase numbers, don’t *** it. Invest in the people who show up consistently, who can hold space without judgment, who meet you with integrity instead of ego. Over time, those individual threads start to cross and tie together. One connection becomes three, three becomes five, until one day you look around and realize you didn’t just “find community” you built one. That’s when the noise fades, and what’s left is alignment.
Wr**** Posted August 30 Psychology today is the group that has the list (can search on kink friendly and it should come up).
ey**** Posted August 30 Seek out munches in your local area. Attend together. You will meet others and can share tips and experiences You don't need to build community when there's one already sitting there
Ki**** Posted August 30 I think that this site is the perfect place to talk and share any questions or feelings. Maybe find just 3-5 people here that you are comfortable sharing intimate questions with, so it's not out there for everyone!
hi**** Posted August 30 (edited) 5 hours ago, Katsuyama said: Hello do you remember the site please? kapprofessionals* Edited August 30 by FETMOD-TF *External link removed
cl**** Posted August 30 Go to fet amd search for a local Munchea and maybe match online to make like minded friends.
hi**** Posted August 30 (edited) 5 hours ago, Katsuyama said: Hello do you remember the site please? ncsfreedom* Would work as well Edited August 30 by FETMOD-TF *External link removed
Deleted Member Posted August 30 2 hours ago, claimedbyme said: Go to fet amd search for a local Munchea and maybe match online to make like minded friends. I can’t seem to find this or munches does it not appear or work on the mobile version?
Sweetestsadist Posted August 30 If you go under the main menu and click on "events". Or you can click on "places" Under the main menu. Then find the state then city. Then "events" under that heading. Also, typing in "munches" then scrolling under the search bar to "events"
hi**** Posted August 30 10 hours ago, Katsuyama said: Hello do you remember the site please? Both groups can be found on fetlife. Kink aware health care providers and kink aware psychotherapy.
ey**** Posted August 30 2 hours ago, newton-abbot23446 said: Google Fetlife download don't do that - it's full of fake apps. Fetlife doesn't have an official app. But it's not hard to find their website.
jo**** Posted August 30 not sure if you looked but there are tons of therapists online that deal with kink - 100% also it sounds like you are doing all the emotional work, if you cant talk to your partner about the relationship, then you have the wrong partner.
wa**** Posted September 1 Opening up to strangers online can be easier. There is a chat section in Fetlife, so you can vent and discuss topics. If it's something more intense, maybe the Dom/sub scene isn't right for you right now and the emotions your feeling should be dealt with before proceeding with the relationship. Only you can decide what's best for you.
bu**** Posted September 2 Coming from a submissive’s perspective… submitting is an emotional rollercoaster, filled with highs of dopamine, oxytocin, and everything in between. You’re not meant to live in subspace all the time — it’s important to recognize when a session begins and when it ends. Aftercare goes far beyond cuddles. It’s about your Dominant being there for you when the dopamine dip hits, guiding you gently through the lows just as much as they guided you through the highs. Please talk to someone.
In**** Posted September 2 Although I find it extremely important to find more people to talk to about your D/s relationship other than your Dom just as a precaution that you aren’t being manipulated, your Dom should always make time for your feelings and concerns and if they aren’t doing that for you, it may be time to look for a new one.
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