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co****

co****

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I have chatted with a girl for a long time on another kinky website, suddenly she deactivated her account and never heard from her again. Now I have recognized her at her place of work I visit almost daily. We have chatted and flirted a bit and I feel like I should tell her I know her from such site and we used to chat often. But I also don't want to embarrass her or something.
What do you all think?
lg****

lg****

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Ask her out on a date. If she accepts, bring it up there if the time is right. It’s more private and less chance of embarrassment.
ge****

ge****

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I would not say a word… she severed connection and hasn’t approached you for a reason… my strong suggestion, respect her choice… her reasons are irrelevant to you sir. I mean no offense to you…
Richard
Ch****

Ch****

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You just have to feel it out. You seeing her almost daily right now bring it up casually I'm sure she didn't deactivate her account solely for you. Otherwise she wouldn't be talking to you now.
Pe****

Pe****

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Ask her out in person to coffee or something and then maybe mention it on the date 😂
Th****

Th****

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Do not approach her. Don't bother her at her workplace, especially. The general rule is do not mix vanilla life interactions with kink & bdsm community interactions. Outing people is super not ok. 

If she wanted to continue interacting with you she would have, she would have made sure to get contact information for you elsewhere before deactivating. You can wait to see if she opens her account again or... if this "other site" is fetlife, she may have even blocked you. It looks the same there for a deactivate as it does a block.

Which is all the more reason to leave her be, do not bother her. 

Th****

Th****

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25 minutes ago, Cheesecake972720 said:

You just have to feel it out. You seeing her almost daily right now bring it up casually I'm sure she didn't deactivate her account solely for you. Otherwise she wouldn't be talking to you now.

She is at *work* she has to be civil and polite. She might not actually be "flirting" with the OP, she's working and doing her job. Especially if it's a service industry job where people rely on tips they're going to be generally friendly and men often misinterpret this as more than what it is. 

LadyV

LadyV

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Please leave her and her work alone. Find someone else. She's not flirting with you, she's working. Don't mix vanilla world and kink world. Don't out people. Don't mention her profiles. Everything about that is creepy behavior. 

S_****

S_****

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If you spoke to her on another kink site I don't see any issue with saying hi, do you remember we chatted on such and such..if she doesn't want to talk to you she can then not reply or block
Th****

Th****

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Just now, LadyV said:

Please leave her and her work alone. Find someone else. She's not flirting with you, she's working. Don't mix vanilla world and kink world. Don't out people. Don't mention her profiles. Everything about that is creepy behavior. 

💯

OP... Even if it had been a vanilla dating site and she disappeared, approaching her at work (or at all) is creepy behavior. 

Th****

Th****

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1 minute ago, S_1888 said:

If you spoke to her on another kink site I don't see any issue with saying hi, do you remember we chatted on such and such..if she doesn't want to talk to you she can then not reply or block

She is *AT HER WORKPLACE* she cannot ignore or "block" anyone. 

S_****

S_****

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Shit wait 🫷 I didn't read all of this haha 😆 yeah don't mention kink site IRL, I'd definitely ask her out..on the date mention it, she may remember you hence the flirting... she may just be being friendly, if she agrees to a date you'll know more

Deleted Member

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Yeah no. Just don’t. You don’t know for sure that she deactivated her account, because on that other site it’s the same message if they block you.

Accept that she’s just not into you and any flirting that you think she’s doing at work is her being polite because her job requires her to interact with you.

If you really really really don’t want to face that, then slip her your number and name the next time you interact with her then never go back. If she wants to talk, she’ll text you.
LadyV

LadyV

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13 minutes ago, S_1888 said:

Shit wait 🫷 I didn't read all of this haha 😆 yeah don't mention kink site IRL, I'd definitely ask her out..on the date mention it, she may remember you hence the flirting... she may just be being friendly, if she agrees to a date you'll know more

I think it's very telling that the overwhelming majority of the male commenters are the ones going, "shoot your shot anyways!"

 

Meanwhile the overwhelming majority of female commenters are the ones going, "no no no, bad idea, that's creepy, leave her alone, find someone else!" 

 

Hmm. I wonder how she, a woman, will react to this situation. 🤔 If only there was a clue. 

Edited by LadyV
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Ha****

Ha****

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She ended contact when she deactivated her account. Seeing her at work after that doesn’t change it. Politeness on the job is not an invitation. Mentioning the site at her workplace would embarrass her. Going there daily makes YOU a red flag. She set her boundary. Leave her alone.
Ha****

Ha****

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Let me play devil’s advocate… Say her deactivating had nothing to do with you. If you’ve got the same face pic profile, she’d clearly recognized you when you ran into her. If she wanted to reconnect, that was her chance to say something like ‘oh wow, I know you, I was deactivated, let’s reconnect.’ She didn’t. That’s your sign to leave her alone.
Bo****

Bo****

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It’s important to respect workplace ethics, but my partner who is a women disagrees. If it was meant to be it would have happened on the site.
LadyV

LadyV

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6 minutes ago, S_1888 said:

Life is short..shoot your shot ☺️😁

Even at the cost of making someone deeply uncomfortable or creeped out in their workplace? 🤨

S_****

S_****

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2 minutes ago, LadyV said:

Even at the cost of making someone deeply uncomfortable or creeped out in their workplace? 🤨

How do you know that is the case? Do you have a crystal ball 🔮 and can see into the future? Man asks woman "fancy getting a coffee sometime" she says no he says no problem and finds another wherever she works for a bit until his pride is restored or he doesn't make it awkward and laughs it off

Deleted Member

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Dude. That is literally stalking behavior.
The only thing you should do at this point is to STOP stalking. There is literally nothing to say to her that won’t creep her out, bro.

If you think she should feel flattered, you’re mistaken.

Just stop it.
Chops

Chops

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Definitely cant say anything to her specially at her work place bringing up a kink site would embarrass her and if she wanted to reconnect she would have because obviously she knows you too just let it go
S_****

S_****

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5 minutes ago, LadyV said:

Even at the cost of making someone deeply uncomfortable or creeped out in their workplace? 🤨

The very fact that the Man is asking for advice suggests to me that he's a thinker and not a rash impulsive put his foot in it kinda guy but is indeed genuinely wanting to make her feelings/comfort level a priority... nobody else see it that way?

Chops

Chops

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No she she deactivated her account maybe the lifestyle wasn't for her she had enough whatever she didn't want to be involved by the sounds of it she didn't let him know she was leaving if she wanted to she would have
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