Advice for a little who feels abandoned

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, LittleOneSub said:

Thank you all for your wise words and encouragement 🙏🥰

It's a shame to see you leave Fet but that is probably the best thing to do for awhile. Good luck 🧁

[mo****]

Fellow little here! I’m going through the same and it’s been devastating to say the least. I hope you find time to do what makes you happy and get your body moving!! Annoyingly it helps lol and don’t rush things - move on when you’re ready. Squeeze your stuffies extra tight 🫶🏼✨🌙

[La****]

Remeber that keeping good habbits will often keep you on a healthy path, keep to your schedule and celebrate your achievements as you reach your next goals. Don't forget to drink your water and charge your toys ✌️😊

[se****]

Thank you for the way you are

[sr****]

There's a lot of good advice on here already. I'll add that I empathize, and in my opinion, this is the most *** part of being authentically submissive (especially being little) Other than that, be mindful as you reflect on what worked and what didn't work so that moving forward you are prepared for something even better. Be wary of rebounding.  

[sr****]

1 minute ago, srq77 said:

There's a lot of good advice on here already. I'll add that I empathize, and in my opinion, this is the most *** part of being authentically submissive (especially being little) Other than that, be mindful as you reflect on what worked and what didn't work so that moving forward you are prepared for something even better. Be wary of rebounding. Feel free to reach out if you need a safe chat about it.

Ah yes the dirtiest of words * v u ln era b l e

[Pa****]

I think deep down a lot of submissives are submissive because they want to feel wanted/desired/thought of by someone. Unfortunately people use people. Subs can use Doms and Doms can use subs just like normal everyday people interacting with one another. Now is not the time to jump to another “Dom”. I, myself, am truly a sub but I label myself as a switch because I have had several subs who are friends have had this happen and they need to feed off a Doms energy or have a Dom who they can dump their energy onto. Don’t get it mixed up between energy dumping/taking and someone truly caring for you. That energy transfer at first can really mask a lot of red flags in a person.

[go****]

As a little who separated from her past DD 6 months ago….

It very hard being a little without a daddy…don’t feel like you’re in this alone…it will be difficult but my best advice is don’t settle for a bad daddy because you’re lonely. This will only make it worse. Instead, keep your head up and try making time for little you. She’s so important and she needs love and rn you need to love her….

[ph****]

If you look at my post I feel the same way

[Co****]

Because there was a connection. I’m am going through abandonment too and it’s hard for that very reason. I miss him every single day. I’m looking for advice to help me move on too. 

[Deleted Member]

Dealing with smth similar but I age regress which is sfw ,and my first relationship was also my first cg, he was awful and there doesn't seem to be many daddy's out here ):

[Li****]

So grateful for all your responses it’s really comforting to have a little support and the advise has been really good advise too advise I’ve been trying to give myself too so I know I’m in the right track.
I’m also just as sorry to learn some of you are also going through either the same or similar situations which is just so sad 🥺 and id love to offer the same kindness and support as I’ve been shown 🥰
Some have asked what happened but as we both still share the same space here atm it would be disrespectful of me to elaborate, we shared a very deep intoxicating connection that was very real and had feelings of love. Yes in saddened, hurting and feel like I’ve been abandoned but those are my feelings i canning expect him to hold my hand forever and in sure cutting communication he feels will be kinder in me in the long run.
Its really hard for me to share this space with him without any communication so I’ve decided to close my account down here, i use a different platform also so i have a place to go and it will be easier for me not sharing a space.
I’m going to shower my little with some self love, understand what happened try not to be resentful and learn from the dynamic in a bid to further protect myself it’s the absolute worst feeling in the world to place your trust in someone to keep you safe from harm to come away feeling more *** than ever, so in going to make sure it didn’t happen again 🙏

Thank you all once again m. Little me is feeling a little stronger today and in sure she will be spreading some sparkle dust in the very near future.

 

[Sn****]

When I’ve been in a tailspin from losing someone like that, I tend to double down on my self care and self compassion. Being able to better know what I need to feel secure and stable each day not only helps me get thru the grief and reclaim myself, but I’m also better prepared for the next partner that comes along.

[an****]

Sounds like trauma bonding...could it have been considered a toxic dynamic.

[df****]

I hope things work out for you. I have also come out of relationship about a month ago now I feel very lost and sad most of the time. I was very grateful for the time we had and hoped it would of kept on going but I think it's for the best. No one likes being attacked or hurt. I have been looking for a community to join. Or at least some friends I can talk to or go out with. I hope you find the same

[Ja****]

This is a heartbreaker for sure. Take the time for lots of warm self care 🧸

[yo****]

I felt the same when I came out of my first d/s time. Sending the task that we're set for first to last thing at night. You need time to grieve for that loss of the relationship.

I hope you don't feel sad for too long. Dance in the kitchen with headphones on like no one is watching. Take that sadness and turn it into something fun. It helped me a lot anyway

[de****]

Been feeling abandoned for the longest time :/ feel like no one understands me.

[Co****]

Loosing a Dom is brutal stuff, especially if there's a bond. Give yourself time to grieve the relationship and find ways to move past it. You will get through it, I know, because I did. Avoid another serious relationship until you know you're over your ex.
The way your Dom ghosted you makes me think they're not fit to have a little. The bond between little and Dom is sacred. If the Dom can't find a way to gracefully bow out, they should stick to less intense relationships. Taking a little should never be done lightly.