Discreet daycollar

[Ra****]

Hey, my partner and I (both switches) are looking for a discreet daycollar for her. Discreet enough that vanilla people won't see it as something kinky but distinct enough that kinky people will understand the symbolism.
Personally, I wear a miniature version of my collar as a wristband. Clearly a collar, but it can also look like a leather wristband.
This didn't work for her, so I'm turning to my fellow kinksters for some inspiration.

Thanks in advance.
-RagnTail

[La****]

There are lots of places to find day collars, and LOTS of vanilla people wear necklaces with O rings. I would start with Etsy.

[ki****]

Ive used ones that go on watches for one of my former subs. She always wore her apple watch

[El****]

My partner and I went to Etsy. Ours are semi permanent jewelry (they're fastened with a small bolt that requires a specific tool to unlock). They're small, quite cute, and ive only had mine clocked as a collar twice 😂

[no****]

Etsy.com

[sassieB]

If you are looking for something DM I make custom leather items

[Deleted Member]

How about one around the ankle with a few links attached like a shackle?

[ey****]

Genuinely.  I'd look at options you both like that mean something to you - rather than anything particularly performative

Most vanilla people will not think anything above fashion.  

If you are in a kink environment people will understand the symbolism whatever it is.

But basically, yeah, look for designs and ideas which work for you first - that's more important than other people's interpretations 

 

[De****]

I have several day collars. One is a necklace with a lock, one is a small silver necklace with a hallow circle (like a leash attachment), and one is a necklace with a d (Daddy). Anything works as long as it means something to you both.

[Deleted Member]

Take a look at my profile pictures and you will see the beautiful one that I bought from "ToBeHis" that is waiting for it's forever sub to have. It's the permanent style that has a special tool to put it on and take it off with. High quality stainless steel hand made down in Florida by a bdsm couple.

[dd****]

My Dom had gotten me something from Etsy. There's all sorts of options to choose from.

[AlexinBoston]

Dog tags like they have in the army would be interesting if you into pet play

[Th****]

There are tiny necklaces with O rings on them. I have seen them in gold. Many subs wear those out in the vanilla world. They come in silver and gold

[MH****]

My daughter came home wearing a beautiful necklace with a tiny lock. I knew right away what it was and asked her where she got her necklace. She told me and I have sent a txt to her asking. But it was simple yet perfect. (My opinion) but I will save this and let you know.

[Ch****]

jenna has worn her eternity collar for nearly 2 years, 24/7...never been outed or had a problem with it. Most just think it's jewelry.

[mo****]

My mom wears a chain with two rings that interlock in the middle as hers! She told me that when she explained what it was to her husband after they saw eachother for the first time in a while (travelling job and open relationship) he was surprised and said he wouldn't have guessed it if she didn't tell him

[jw****]

I say the plastic or rubber things folks where on there necks

[Deleted Member]

A day collar can be anything you want it to be. Some careers restrict jewellery and some neurodivergent people struggle with the sensory stuff around wearing certain pieces. A collar is simply a symbol of your dedication and commitment to one another and your dynamic. I’ve seen discussions about how a wedding band is a type of collar.
The only advice I’d give is to be careful about anything that they are unable to remove on their own as this can be a safety risk.

[Th****]

Iv also thought about giving my (to be) sub/s a day collar… i was thinking more symbolism than a ‘collar’ like a necklace with a charm or something maybe 🤔